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I don't want to let gas man in

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Whyohwhy99 · 04/08/2026 14:49

I don't want to let the gas man in. I have already cancelled twice. Every year I get warning letters.. I don't want to let anyone in. I don't want have any form of interaction. I don't want anyone physically in my house. I don't even know when they are coming. I just know its an afternoon appointment.

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PrettyLittleRose · Yesterday 17:36

Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 15:45

Inside my house its been 29-32 ?

Yes, it's been 28C to 32C in our house some days. On a few occasions it has been 35C.. It's mid summer, it's been mid-late 30s outside quite often, so it stands to reason that it's going to be hot indoors. Everyone is in the same boat. It was bearable outside today - 23C and breezy. In the house it was 30C, and felt like the heating had been on all morning when I came in from the shops. I had a shower, and put the fan on, and it was more bearable. Keeping the windows open is the answer, let the breeze blow through.

As has been said on several threads before, many properties in the UK are built/designed to retain the heat, which is lovely in Winter, not so nice in Summer!

JenniferBooth · Yesterday 17:36

BagpipeBoss · Yesterday 17:25

Most Housing Associations and Councils start trying to get access about three months before the gas safety expiry because the check is a legal requirement.

If you’ve refused access before, you’re already flagged and they will escalate faster because they know you’re likely to delay again.

Where I work, we issue a Notice of Access at week 6. By week 8, the legal process starts.

Before anything goes near court, legal letters are sent out and housing officers will have already made several attempts to contact you — phone calls, emails, out‑of‑hours calls, and even attending in person, every single attempt is recorded by evidence. If there’s still no access by week 11, we apply to court.

Once that application is made, the tenant is liable for the costs, usually £400 or more, even if they suddenly decide to cooperate afterwards.

Anxiety doesn’t change any of this. It’s understandable, but it doesn’t excuse refusing access.

Gas safety checks are mandatory and the landlord has to comply with the law. The court won’t accept “I was anxious” as a reason for blocking a legally required inspection.

Most HAs and Councils have trackers on their vans now, so they can easily prove they attended your property. My employer’s trades also take photographic evidence of every Notice of Access, time‑stamped and dated on their handheld unit, and it all gets logged in the system.

Any claim from the numerous attempts, claiming that they “never came” or “didn’t try” won’t stand up because the evidence is already heavily recorded.

Edited

Well mine ended up on Channel 4s Dispatches for not turning up and claiming no access. I can name the episode and the year for anyone who is interested.

Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 17:36

BagpipeBoss · Yesterday 17:25

Most Housing Associations and Councils start trying to get access about three months before the gas safety expiry because the check is a legal requirement.

If you’ve refused access before, you’re already flagged and they will escalate faster because they know you’re likely to delay again.

Where I work, we issue a Notice of Access at week 6. By week 8, the legal process starts.

Before anything goes near court, legal letters are sent out and housing officers will have already made several attempts to contact you — phone calls, emails, out‑of‑hours calls, and even attending in person, every single attempt is recorded by evidence. If there’s still no access by week 11, we apply to court.

Once that application is made, the tenant is liable for the costs, usually £400 or more, even if they suddenly decide to cooperate afterwards.

Anxiety doesn’t change any of this. It’s understandable, but it doesn’t excuse refusing access.

Gas safety checks are mandatory and the landlord has to comply with the law. The court won’t accept “I was anxious” as a reason for blocking a legally required inspection.

Most HAs and Councils have trackers on their vans now, so they can easily prove they attended your property. My employer’s trades also take photographic evidence of every Notice of Access, time‑stamped and dated on their handheld unit, and it all gets logged in the system.

Any claim from the numerous attempts, claiming that they “never came” or “didn’t try” won’t stand up because the evidence is already heavily recorded.

Edited

Mine does contact in several different ways all I get is the standard text message. Telling me the date.

No emails. Definitely no one in person. No letters. No calls. Warning ones yes but not general ones.

I know that doesn't make a difference because the message is there on my phone. I know I'm meant to let them in. I know thats on me. But I'm just saying in general we don't get all them different types of communication.

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JenniferBooth · Yesterday 17:38

PrettyLittleRose · Yesterday 17:36

Yes, it's been 28C to 32C in our house some days. On a few occasions it has been 35C.. It's mid summer, it's been mid-late 30s outside quite often, so it stands to reason that it's going to be hot indoors. Everyone is in the same boat. It was bearable outside today - 23C and breezy. In the house it was 30C, and felt like the heating had been on all morning when I came in from the shops. I had a shower, and put the fan on, and it was more bearable. Keeping the windows open is the answer, let the breeze blow through.

As has been said on several threads before, many properties in the UK are built/designed to retain the heat, which is lovely in Winter, not so nice in Summer!

No everyone is not in the same boat. Im in a top floor flat with no garden.

PrettyLittleRose · Yesterday 17:42

JenniferBooth · Yesterday 17:38

No everyone is not in the same boat. Im in a top floor flat with no garden.

I assume your top floor flat has got windows though.

BagpipeBoss · Yesterday 17:43

JenniferBooth · Yesterday 17:36

Well mine ended up on Channel 4s Dispatches for not turning up and claiming no access. I can name the episode and the year for anyone who is interested.

That’s why I said most and not all, most of us are very aware of the slum landlords who get themselves into trouble with the regulator.

JenniferBooth · Yesterday 17:45

PrettyLittleRose · Yesterday 17:42

I assume your top floor flat has got windows though.

With window restrictors.
I assume your place is covered in black cladding and that you had someone from an HA fell a tree that provided shading..............oh and fire regs mean no gaps allowed so no ventilation

JenniferBooth · Yesterday 17:46

BagpipeBoss · Yesterday 17:43

That’s why I said most and not all, most of us are very aware of the slum landlords who get themselves into trouble with the regulator.

Edited

It is one of the main HAs in the country

PrettyLittleRose · Yesterday 17:53

JenniferBooth · Yesterday 17:45

With window restrictors.
I assume your place is covered in black cladding and that you had someone from an HA fell a tree that provided shading..............oh and fire regs mean no gaps allowed so no ventilation

Yeah, that's right. How did you know?

saraclara · Yesterday 18:03

I've just read your updates and the things that you now have in hand, and I think you're doing well. I hope they turn up this time, and I hope that your GP will be helpful. It seems that you're prepared to be honest with them about the extent of your anxiety, which is the important thing.

I recognise that going on medication is a big step, and that the early weeks can be tough (my family member is on sertraline, and found the first week or two hard, but it genuinely has transformed her life) but I hope you'll consider it.

Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 18:14

Tortephant · Yesterday 17:26

I'm certainly not dismissing the seriousness of where you are just now OP, but I have been reading through this wondering how you got pregnant several times and were able to go through giving birth and the baby /toddler years.

So when you say you have always been like this, I can't see that is true, there must be a trigger for things beginning to change and escalating to where they are now.

I think for me what gets confusing is when I'm asked how long etc. In my head i feel like i need to say a date or x amount of years. Which i can't do. So then I reflect on things a bit then say always. Because that's what it feels like But theres probably been better times and worse times.

Also I didn't say I absolutely can't do anything. But I find very hard. And if I can push it back I will even if it makes no sense. If I can avoid it altogether I will. I don't don't go for smear test because I find it to hard. I haven't seen my gp in years I was really ill once it scared the hell out of me it still upsets me now when I reflect back.

My children were home births Which meant I didn't have to be round lots of people. I would take my children to parks and things but I wouldn't talk to anyone. I could do school runs. But that doesn’t mean I was ok with it. I have to bury it. I remember in my teeage years I didn't speak for long periods of time. I remember doing weird things like moving myself away from everyone in the classroom so I could be alone and didn't have to talk.

I think its possiblely peaked over the past year.

I have answered best i can. I probably can't give a clear solid answer because I don't know myself.

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Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 18:20

saraclara · Yesterday 18:03

I've just read your updates and the things that you now have in hand, and I think you're doing well. I hope they turn up this time, and I hope that your GP will be helpful. It seems that you're prepared to be honest with them about the extent of your anxiety, which is the important thing.

I recognise that going on medication is a big step, and that the early weeks can be tough (my family member is on sertraline, and found the first week or two hard, but it genuinely has transformed her life) but I hope you'll consider it.

They are not coming till the 14th .
One step at a time with the gp. If I think about everything at once i will mess up. Hopefully it works out ok.

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Gooseling · Yesterday 18:35

Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 18:14

I think for me what gets confusing is when I'm asked how long etc. In my head i feel like i need to say a date or x amount of years. Which i can't do. So then I reflect on things a bit then say always. Because that's what it feels like But theres probably been better times and worse times.

Also I didn't say I absolutely can't do anything. But I find very hard. And if I can push it back I will even if it makes no sense. If I can avoid it altogether I will. I don't don't go for smear test because I find it to hard. I haven't seen my gp in years I was really ill once it scared the hell out of me it still upsets me now when I reflect back.

My children were home births Which meant I didn't have to be round lots of people. I would take my children to parks and things but I wouldn't talk to anyone. I could do school runs. But that doesn’t mean I was ok with it. I have to bury it. I remember in my teeage years I didn't speak for long periods of time. I remember doing weird things like moving myself away from everyone in the classroom so I could be alone and didn't have to talk.

I think its possiblely peaked over the past year.

I have answered best i can. I probably can't give a clear solid answer because I don't know myself.

I would speak to the GP about possible autism.

So many women get diagnosed later in life or not at all. Or they get told they have “anxiety”.

Obviously autism is so broad, and no 2 autistic people are the same, but I’d give this a read and see if anything resonates with you.

autismdetect.co.uk/understanding-autism-in-women-everything-you-need-to-know/?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23247154469&gbraid=0AAAAA-msLuCYzZyN3rOgT3F7Ugf-ojLwE&gclid=CjwKCAjwvsvTBhBaEiwAmf-3nlLExbR8eEhZAm2zpZoKDiM5T05hRwwXN0MZn9-DwGP2Kf8SlJsOCxoCUVUQAvD_BwE

ConstantlyFuriosa · Yesterday 18:58

Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 15:11

I was just looking at messages from them. Gas checks is meant to be yearly? But the 2025 appointment says October. But there was an appointment for 2.25 made for 2nd July.. so thats 9 months.

They always do that here too. I believe they set them up early in case of missed/rearranged appointments so they don’t go over the annual limit.

ConstantlyFuriosa · Yesterday 19:07

Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 18:14

I think for me what gets confusing is when I'm asked how long etc. In my head i feel like i need to say a date or x amount of years. Which i can't do. So then I reflect on things a bit then say always. Because that's what it feels like But theres probably been better times and worse times.

Also I didn't say I absolutely can't do anything. But I find very hard. And if I can push it back I will even if it makes no sense. If I can avoid it altogether I will. I don't don't go for smear test because I find it to hard. I haven't seen my gp in years I was really ill once it scared the hell out of me it still upsets me now when I reflect back.

My children were home births Which meant I didn't have to be round lots of people. I would take my children to parks and things but I wouldn't talk to anyone. I could do school runs. But that doesn’t mean I was ok with it. I have to bury it. I remember in my teeage years I didn't speak for long periods of time. I remember doing weird things like moving myself away from everyone in the classroom so I could be alone and didn't have to talk.

I think its possiblely peaked over the past year.

I have answered best i can. I probably can't give a clear solid answer because I don't know myself.

I’m not trying to armchair psychologise you, @Whyohwhy99 , but you might look up avoidant personality disorder. Much of what you describe (the shame as much as the avoidance) seems to fit. Not everything will necessarily apply but you seem to have at least some of the traits.

Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 19:20

ConstantlyFuriosa · Yesterday 19:07

I’m not trying to armchair psychologise you, @Whyohwhy99 , but you might look up avoidant personality disorder. Much of what you describe (the shame as much as the avoidance) seems to fit. Not everything will necessarily apply but you seem to have at least some of the traits.

Its actually really hard what to say to the gp . Autism/adhd/personality disorder. There's seems to be cross overs. Or a bit of each

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Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 19:28

Gooseling · Yesterday 18:35

I would speak to the GP about possible autism.

So many women get diagnosed later in life or not at all. Or they get told they have “anxiety”.

Obviously autism is so broad, and no 2 autistic people are the same, but I’d give this a read and see if anything resonates with you.

autismdetect.co.uk/understanding-autism-in-women-everything-you-need-to-know/?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23247154469&gbraid=0AAAAA-msLuCYzZyN3rOgT3F7Ugf-ojLwE&gclid=CjwKCAjwvsvTBhBaEiwAmf-3nlLExbR8eEhZAm2zpZoKDiM5T05hRwwXN0MZn9-DwGP2Kf8SlJsOCxoCUVUQAvD_BwE

I had a read. And I done the screening but I couldn't really answer. Because it was mainly do people think you... when your with other people.... i don't mix with people so o don't know. I can't ask my children because I'm probably different around them. Plus i wouldn't be able to ask anyway.

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ConstantlyFuriosa · Yesterday 19:30

Perhaps if you say that whatever is going on it’s having an extremely limiting effect on your life and what you’re able to do and request they put you on the list to see someone from your local mental health team. It’s highly unlikely your GP will know what’s wrong but they can certainly refer you to someone who will.

Best of luck.

BeardySchnauzer · Yesterday 19:30

Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 19:20

Its actually really hard what to say to the gp . Autism/adhd/personality disorder. There's seems to be cross overs. Or a bit of each

You don’t tell the doctor what you think it might be - you tell the doctor what’s not going right. Write it all down and put some examples in

Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 19:37

BeardySchnauzer · Yesterday 19:30

You don’t tell the doctor what you think it might be - you tell the doctor what’s not going right. Write it all down and put some examples in

Opps I put on the note I was hoping for an assessment for adhd/autism.

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BeardySchnauzer · Yesterday 19:45

Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 19:37

Opps I put on the note I was hoping for an assessment for adhd/autism.

No that’s fine - I just mean you shouldn’t go in with a list of possibles.

ultimately you want the doctor to diagnose you so make sure you give them a full picture

Elliania · Yesterday 19:58

Yes don't go in saying "I think I have autism/ADHD/whatever." Go in with clear, detailed notes (you can write them down and hand them to the GP) and make sure you are 100% forthcoming and frank with them. They need as much information as possibly so they can get you on the right path for support.

Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 20:01

BeardySchnauzer · Yesterday 19:45

No that’s fine - I just mean you shouldn’t go in with a list of possibles.

ultimately you want the doctor to diagnose you so make sure you give them a full picture

Gp can't diagnose can they?

So can I just go there and blurt it all out?

I'm thinking nothing will come of it. They would likely say I would have known by now. Or say its peri menopause.

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Whyohwhy99 · Yesterday 20:02

Elliania · Yesterday 19:58

Yes don't go in saying "I think I have autism/ADHD/whatever." Go in with clear, detailed notes (you can write them down and hand them to the GP) and make sure you are 100% forthcoming and frank with them. They need as much information as possibly so they can get you on the right path for support.

I already suggested adhd/autism 😔

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BeardySchnauzer · Yesterday 20:04

They may decide they need to refer you and may also refer you for an autism assessment. They may also diagnose you with anxiety, for example, and offer you talking therapies and medication. I would not dismiss the medication out of hand.

many people with mental health conditions spend years and years masking and using coping mechanisms. Some manage day to day life well enough but you clearly aren’t.

please include what you said about your teenage years in the letter bits important they get a full picture