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To want a society where we just pay for ourselves

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LettingTheBadThingsGo · 02/07/2026 11:15

Okay this is going to get some backs up but it's also how I feel so..
I wish we could just live in a society where we all just pay for ourselves.
So you want to have children - you pay for it all yourself. No benefits of any kind.
You want to see a GP - You pay a fee and get the service
You need the police - You pay a fee and get the service
You want education for your kids - you pay for it and get to choose where to send them

Nobody gets a pension or any benefits. However we all know this and as such we pay no tax/NI and save for ourselves.

Obviously there would have to be a phased input over a large number of years (like 30)

I want to know that if I need the police I can get them here in 5 mins. If I need an ambulance I want to know I can get it here in 5 mins. I don't want to not have these services because there is a rubbish 'free' service because there is not enough being allocated to them because it's all being spent on things I disagree with (welfare, council houses)

This would make everyone responsible for themselves. Those who work hard would be better off. Those who don't work will be worse off. Seems fair to me.

Everyone would save from day 1 in case they become ill or disabled and need to support themselves or have a disabled child (although they could choose not to have children in the first place).

I find it very weird that we live in a capitalist society where so many people are being supported by welfare. To me that is the opposite of a capitalist society.

Obviously there are some things that could never be allocated to each person such as defence of the country. There would have to still be a 'country charge' to every person to cover things that just could not be split. Street lighting would probably have to come under this as well. However roads could be covered by a charge to each person based on their mileage each year.

Yes it would take lots of thought and as I said would have to be implemented over a large number of years. However this would lead to a more productive society as well as better services. Obviously on the basis of a thread I haven't thought everything out but hopefully you all get the idea.

Anybody who didn't want to live like that could leave of course and live somewhere else.

So anyone else agree - no tax or ni - save and pay for yourself. Just pay a 'country charge' to cover things that can't be allocated like defence of country. Everything else is private (healthcare, police, pensions) and you save for it all yourself.

The only people who I can imagine not wanting this is those that live on the hard work of others ie life time welfare claimants. For everyone else surely they would be better off.

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CaptainMyCaptain · 02/07/2026 16:44

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:41

so many ways same as society today,

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There really is no point in continuing this discussion.

ThatFluentLurker · 02/07/2026 16:45

EstoyRobandoSuCasa · 02/07/2026 12:41

@LettingTheBadThingsGo , do you realise that only around 17% of people (in the UK) with disabilities were born with them? The other 83% acquired them during their lifetime. It could happen to me, it could happen to you, it could happen to anyone. And most people don’t earn enough to save a large pot of money for their care costs in the event of this happening. Not even if they didn’t pay income tax or NI when they were able to work.

Also, if people need to save a huge amount before having kids in case their child is born with a disability, the birth rate will fall further.

In your world, the gap between the richest and poorest would grow, which means that life expectancy would fall and crime would rocket. The poor would live in dire poverty and the rich would effectively live in gilded cages, under heavy security. Would anyone feel safe or happy?

In your society people would stop having children for fear of them being born disabled or becoming disabled, this would cause a huge deduction in the population, resulting in a time where you'd have the money to pay for everything l, but no one to do it, a ambulance or police would now take much longer then 5 minutes because they don't have enough working age people

AndyBurnhamIsATwerp · 02/07/2026 16:45

So, when I’m being stabbed to death…will there be an option on 999 to input my card details;

Press 1 if you’d like a Police Officer on a motorbike…wait 3 hours

Press 2 if you’d like two Police Officers in a patrol car…wait 2 hours

Press 3 if you’d like our premium service…three Police officers, in under an hour with a pre-prepared TikTok dance 💃 🕺

Shame if it’s just before payday.

JetFlight · 02/07/2026 16:46

This seems to be quite a reactive society. I wouldn’t like it one bit. Police only appear once a crime is committed? Who pays for deeper investigations? Preventive measures?
Am I only paying for street lights if I walk out at night? Or do we all forget about street lighting and stay in darkness?
Preventive and community health care measures don’t exist anymore?
are we all equally rich too?

Anyahyacinth · 02/07/2026 16:46

LettingTheBadThingsGo · 02/07/2026 12:27

That is your view though and you are entitled to disagree. I am quite happy to hear different views.
My view is you are quite mad for expecting me (a stranger) to pay for you being out of work or having a ton of kids. The only person who should pay for those things is the person making the choices ie you.

….and the children born should just suffer in your world OP?

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:46

Frequency · 02/07/2026 16:43

Shakespeare attended his local grammar school, and if you're using Socrates as an example of why formal education shouldn't exist, you clearly do not know who Socrates was or what his contribution to modern society was.

Counters to the Shakespeare Argument

No historical proof: No records exist proving Shakespeare ever attended King’s New School in Stratford.

Self-taught genius: Even if he attended, he left around age 14 and never went to university.

The "Question": Entire scholarly movements (Baconian, Oxfordian) argue a grammar school education was insufficient to write his works.

Flawed system: Elizabethan grammar schools relied on brutal rote memorization, not the creative thinking Shakespeare mastered.

Counters to the Socrates Argument

Anti-institutional stance: Socrates openly despised the Sophists, the professional, paid educators of his era.

Dialogue over lectures: He championed the Socratic Method, which relies on cooperative conversation, not rigid classrooms.

No written curriculum: Socrates never wrote anything down or established a formal curriculum.

Execution by the state: The formal democratic institutions of Athens literally executed him for "corrupting the youth" with independent thought.

Phoenixfire1988 · 02/07/2026 16:47

LettingTheBadThingsGo · 02/07/2026 12:44

I don't know what a goody box is so you'll have to explain that to me.

I don't believe I am stupid. Went to uni over 35 years ago. Did more qualifications after. Worked all my life paying high band taxes.

I simply see an awful situation in this country where lots of people think they are entitled to not work or pay for themselves and in turn get lots of stuff free. The stuff is not free. Somebody, somewhere is paying for it.

By all means disagree with me but please say why it's daft to expect adults to well be adults really.

You seem a bit of a prize prick to be honest and id bet money you're completely unpleasant to be around .

ByKindNavySwan · 02/07/2026 16:47

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:38

they still studyed different subects and knowledge without a modern education system and that was my point, education can be free its only because capitalism put a value on it that it costs so much

Except it wasn't free then. It was a great expense reserved only for the wealthy elites. Every person you've listed is male and came from a very wealthy background.

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:48

ThatFluentLurker · 02/07/2026 16:45

In your society people would stop having children for fear of them being born disabled or becoming disabled, this would cause a huge deduction in the population, resulting in a time where you'd have the money to pay for everything l, but no one to do it, a ambulance or police would now take much longer then 5 minutes because they don't have enough working age people

but how do you think that stoped people having children in historic times ? they still had them then,

menopausalfart · 02/07/2026 16:48

@PenelopeJoanSterling Unfortunately, we're not all born with Da Vinci's brain.

Frequency · 02/07/2026 16:48

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:46

Counters to the Shakespeare Argument

No historical proof: No records exist proving Shakespeare ever attended King’s New School in Stratford.

Self-taught genius: Even if he attended, he left around age 14 and never went to university.

The "Question": Entire scholarly movements (Baconian, Oxfordian) argue a grammar school education was insufficient to write his works.

Flawed system: Elizabethan grammar schools relied on brutal rote memorization, not the creative thinking Shakespeare mastered.

Counters to the Socrates Argument

Anti-institutional stance: Socrates openly despised the Sophists, the professional, paid educators of his era.

Dialogue over lectures: He championed the Socratic Method, which relies on cooperative conversation, not rigid classrooms.

No written curriculum: Socrates never wrote anything down or established a formal curriculum.

Execution by the state: The formal democratic institutions of Athens literally executed him for "corrupting the youth" with independent thought.

I have ChatGPT too, I tend not to use it for MN debates, though, on account of quite enjoying having oceans/rivers/the ozone layer...

DrFaustina · 02/07/2026 16:49

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:48

but how do you think that stoped people having children in historic times ? they still had them then,

Lack of contraception.
Babies left to die on rubbish tips.

ACPC · 02/07/2026 16:49

Hopefully the op has went for a lie down.....

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:49

Frequency · 02/07/2026 16:48

I have ChatGPT too, I tend not to use it for MN debates, though, on account of quite enjoying having oceans/rivers/the ozone layer...

i used google, because it was faster than my reading and its more accurate than chat. although i do like chat at times, but grok can be better

Anyahyacinth · 02/07/2026 16:49

LettingTheBadThingsGo · 02/07/2026 12:31

So if you break your leg but can't afford to pay the hospital you think you should get it for free and other people in society should pay for you.

Why? Seriously. I mean assuming you are a grown adult who has a job (if not, why not). Why would someone else pay for your leg to be fixed. It's nothing to do with them. They wouldn't pay for your Tesco shop so why would they pay for your doctors bill.

You really don’t get that your world will bring violence to your door? Rebellion and unrest?

Fair taxes mean people pay as they are able for decent and secure society…that HUGELY benefits them

Maybe you should consider minimum income guarantee instead ?

BigBruisedFruit · 02/07/2026 16:50

Do you realise that the treatments for some illnesses can run into hundreds of thousands of pounds or even more. Only the super rich would be able to pay enough to cure themselves. How can you want that??

Biminibon · 02/07/2026 16:50

Enough people here have said similar things but just to echo them:

you’re saying people should only have children if they can afford for the worst case scenario of a lifelong heavily disabled child; presumably enough money to pay for their full time residential care for life? That’s roughly £80k a year care before any medical treatment, say the child lives until 70. That’s 7 million to just pay for your disabled child’s lifetime care. Under your logic the parents would also need enough money for their own medical care/ police etc. So by your logic only multi millionaires should have children? Surely you can see the issue that would then pose in society when birth rates drop to an estimated 2% of the population?

And that’s before you consider other scenarios like all your family being in a horrific car crash and you only being able to afford the treatment for some of you at once, or you and your spouse getting cancer in quick succession.

If you’d be comfortable with police, fire and ambulance services charging for callouts then would you be comfortable with them responding fastest to the highest bidder? Money is king in your world so presumably you would be happy for the Police to respond first to someone that can pay more than you?

You can argue that for all these services people could pay an insurance premium for each, but then…that’s what national insurance is…

There are countless other examples we could cover, but I think overall it’s evident that you live a fairly charmed life if you can’t imagine the many scenarios in which your system would fall down.

PascalPony · 02/07/2026 16:51

The education system has failed you, OP. Try reading a book or two. And don’t limit yourself to Ayn Rand.

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:51

menopausalfart · 02/07/2026 16:48

@PenelopeJoanSterling Unfortunately, we're not all born with Da Vinci's brain.

i think my point is, we dont need the Victorian style education system, just to teach society different topics

Anyahyacinth · 02/07/2026 16:52

LettingTheBadThingsGo · 02/07/2026 12:37

Thanks for acknowledging that the current system is not working.

The system was designed with a sort of social contract that everybody would support themselves and only get welfare if they truly needed it. This has been so abused that we are now in this situation where lots of people are working hard, paying tons of tax and getting nothing for it practically. Others are milking the system and laughing at the poor mugs working for it. There is no social contract anymore.

So far everyone is saying my idea is terrible. I wonder if most of the people who have posted so far are unemployed, claiming benefits and sitting at home. Thus of course they want the free money to continue.
I just can't understand why Mr Hardworker who pays a ton of tax and gets nothing for it would want to continue like this.

I don’t think I get nothing for my taxes OP …you seem to want to live in hell, I don’t

Simonjt · 02/07/2026 16:53

Under @LettingTheBadThingsGo system Ian Watkins would be alive, living in the society and still raping children and babies.

Justice wouldn’t just be the cost of the police, CPS, courts etc, they would have to pay for the person to be punished, so the victim would be funding the probation service, prisons etc.

Simonjt · 02/07/2026 16:53

Under @LettingTheBadThingsGo system Ian Watkins would be alive, living in the society and still raping children and babies.

Justice wouldn’t just be the cost of the police, CPS, courts etc, they would have to pay for the person to be punished, so the victim would be funding the probation service, prisons etc.

menopausalfart · 02/07/2026 16:53

@PenelopeJoanSterling Which system would you propose that would benefit all?

Notonthestairs · 02/07/2026 16:53

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:51

i think my point is, we dont need the Victorian style education system, just to teach society different topics

And you are free to live your education free life elsewhere.

MassiveOvaryaction · 02/07/2026 16:53

LettingTheBadThingsGo · 02/07/2026 12:07

nobody is dying in the street (unless they want to of course).

Nobody pays any tax or ni so if you find yourself disabled/ill then you have a bank of money to fall back on. Also with everything privatised insurance policies for things like healthcare would be common place for everyone.

Can you explain this one @LettingTheBadThingsGo?

Where does the bank of money come from, you said there were no benefits?

If a child is born with a disability that means they're unable to work in adulthood, where does their money to live on come from? How do they pay when the need assistance such as police or ambulance? Or do we go back to the bung them all in workhouses days?

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