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To want a society where we just pay for ourselves

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LettingTheBadThingsGo · 02/07/2026 11:15

Okay this is going to get some backs up but it's also how I feel so..
I wish we could just live in a society where we all just pay for ourselves.
So you want to have children - you pay for it all yourself. No benefits of any kind.
You want to see a GP - You pay a fee and get the service
You need the police - You pay a fee and get the service
You want education for your kids - you pay for it and get to choose where to send them

Nobody gets a pension or any benefits. However we all know this and as such we pay no tax/NI and save for ourselves.

Obviously there would have to be a phased input over a large number of years (like 30)

I want to know that if I need the police I can get them here in 5 mins. If I need an ambulance I want to know I can get it here in 5 mins. I don't want to not have these services because there is a rubbish 'free' service because there is not enough being allocated to them because it's all being spent on things I disagree with (welfare, council houses)

This would make everyone responsible for themselves. Those who work hard would be better off. Those who don't work will be worse off. Seems fair to me.

Everyone would save from day 1 in case they become ill or disabled and need to support themselves or have a disabled child (although they could choose not to have children in the first place).

I find it very weird that we live in a capitalist society where so many people are being supported by welfare. To me that is the opposite of a capitalist society.

Obviously there are some things that could never be allocated to each person such as defence of the country. There would have to still be a 'country charge' to every person to cover things that just could not be split. Street lighting would probably have to come under this as well. However roads could be covered by a charge to each person based on their mileage each year.

Yes it would take lots of thought and as I said would have to be implemented over a large number of years. However this would lead to a more productive society as well as better services. Obviously on the basis of a thread I haven't thought everything out but hopefully you all get the idea.

Anybody who didn't want to live like that could leave of course and live somewhere else.

So anyone else agree - no tax or ni - save and pay for yourself. Just pay a 'country charge' to cover things that can't be allocated like defence of country. Everything else is private (healthcare, police, pensions) and you save for it all yourself.

The only people who I can imagine not wanting this is those that live on the hard work of others ie life time welfare claimants. For everyone else surely they would be better off.

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PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:53

menopausalfart · 02/07/2026 16:53

@PenelopeJoanSterling Which system would you propose that would benefit all?

one thats not profit based, but one that is for the greater good of society

Monty36 · 02/07/2026 16:54

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:51

i think my point is, we dont need the Victorian style education system, just to teach society different topics

We don’t have a Victorian style education system.
And the topics taught will be different from then too. Here in Britain at least.

PeopleWatching17 · 02/07/2026 16:54

LettingTheBadThingsGo · 02/07/2026 13:02

Thanks for taking the time to write out your views. I understand what you are saying.
However I think there are lots of arguements.

For example how many people are watching their bright, clever children have a rubbish education because they are in a class too big which is being disrupted constantly by sen children. By having a small education budget nobody seems to be getting a good education anymore (unless they pay to send their kids privately.)
So who is benefitting in this education system paid for by the state/taxpayer. Parents of sen kids are writing threads constantly saying their child is not getting the right treatment. Parents of bright children are writing threads saying they are sick of their kids education being disrupted by the sen kids. The teachers are run ragged and quitting. All this because the needs of the system far outweigh the money we have to run it.

So the answer is to give more money to education and hire more teachers and have smaller classes perhaps splitting children into bright, average and disabled. That sounds great except the country can't afford to allocate more to education because of all the other demands on it.

The same argument could be applied to healthcare and no doubt lots of areas of spending.

Can we all at least acknowledge that the current way of doing things is not working.

Bright, average and disabled? What if the child is disabled and bright?

Aethelred · 02/07/2026 16:54

“they had better do it, and decrease the surplus population.”

Watch out at Christmas - you might get a visit from some ghosts!

Grammarnut · 02/07/2026 16:55

LettingTheBadThingsGo · 02/07/2026 11:15

Okay this is going to get some backs up but it's also how I feel so..
I wish we could just live in a society where we all just pay for ourselves.
So you want to have children - you pay for it all yourself. No benefits of any kind.
You want to see a GP - You pay a fee and get the service
You need the police - You pay a fee and get the service
You want education for your kids - you pay for it and get to choose where to send them

Nobody gets a pension or any benefits. However we all know this and as such we pay no tax/NI and save for ourselves.

Obviously there would have to be a phased input over a large number of years (like 30)

I want to know that if I need the police I can get them here in 5 mins. If I need an ambulance I want to know I can get it here in 5 mins. I don't want to not have these services because there is a rubbish 'free' service because there is not enough being allocated to them because it's all being spent on things I disagree with (welfare, council houses)

This would make everyone responsible for themselves. Those who work hard would be better off. Those who don't work will be worse off. Seems fair to me.

Everyone would save from day 1 in case they become ill or disabled and need to support themselves or have a disabled child (although they could choose not to have children in the first place).

I find it very weird that we live in a capitalist society where so many people are being supported by welfare. To me that is the opposite of a capitalist society.

Obviously there are some things that could never be allocated to each person such as defence of the country. There would have to still be a 'country charge' to every person to cover things that just could not be split. Street lighting would probably have to come under this as well. However roads could be covered by a charge to each person based on their mileage each year.

Yes it would take lots of thought and as I said would have to be implemented over a large number of years. However this would lead to a more productive society as well as better services. Obviously on the basis of a thread I haven't thought everything out but hopefully you all get the idea.

Anybody who didn't want to live like that could leave of course and live somewhere else.

So anyone else agree - no tax or ni - save and pay for yourself. Just pay a 'country charge' to cover things that can't be allocated like defence of country. Everything else is private (healthcare, police, pensions) and you save for it all yourself.

The only people who I can imagine not wanting this is those that live on the hard work of others ie life time welfare claimants. For everyone else surely they would be better off.

You have no idea, do you, what makes a civilised society. Police only come if you pay them? Fire service, health service ditto? And are we to have various versions of all these which you can choose from on a price basis?
You do know that all the things you suggest have already been tried (study some history) and have been shown not to work to the ultimate good of the whole of society, which means no-one is safe, no-one has reliable services at all, except possibly the very rich (as ever)? That is why the things you list are statutory provision.
Such ignorance is appalling. And it would have to be a huge 'country charge' to pay for defence (the first duty of any government) if you are not having any tax paid. It would dwarf what you pay now in income tax - that is unless you would like to find out what happens to countries that have poor defences?

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:55

Monty36 · 02/07/2026 16:54

We don’t have a Victorian style education system.
And the topics taught will be different from then too. Here in Britain at least.

While the UK hasn't explicitly used the 19th-century Victorian education system for decades, many education experts argue that its underlying DNA remains deeply embedded in British schools.

menopausalfart · 02/07/2026 16:55

@PenelopeJoanSterling The vast majority of children attend state-funded schools, which are not run for profit.

ByKindNavySwan · 02/07/2026 16:57

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 16:51

i think my point is, we dont need the Victorian style education system, just to teach society different topics

One of the beauties of the modern age, and our increased leisure time and wealth relative to previous generations, is that we are free to pursue other subjects in our spare time.

Porcupinepotato · 02/07/2026 16:58

LettingTheBadThingsGo · 02/07/2026 12:07

nobody is dying in the street (unless they want to of course).

Nobody pays any tax or ni so if you find yourself disabled/ill then you have a bank of money to fall back on. Also with everything privatised insurance policies for things like healthcare would be common place for everyone.

You do realise that a lot of people are born with a disability and will never have an income to be able to save? What a load of bollocks you really need a rethink on your fantastic ideas

sweetiepie40 · 02/07/2026 16:58

You must be unbelievably uneducated to actually believe this could work… also very disturbing that you want to live this way.

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 02/07/2026 16:59

LettingTheBadThingsGo · 02/07/2026 12:18

That's fine. Nobody would be forced to live here.

I mean should you pay for your neighbour three doors down to go to tesco and get their food for a week.
Of course not. Why would you. I mean you probably don't even know them.

So why are you paying for their lazy son who has decided he has anxiety and can't work.
Why are you paying for their choice to have 3 kids when they don't have jobs or savings. I mean having kids is not obligatory.

Are you really saying you are delighted to go out to work, pay lots of tax and watch it going to others that you don't know. In return services which you might need ocassionally like police are so poor that they may as well not exist in some cases.

Goodness, you sound heartless and ill educated. Others are allowed to exist, you know. I mean, maybe you should form an alliance with Trump and Musk, and live in your ivory towers in the sky with the elite

Bugger all of us minions and plebs, aye? 🤨😅😬

friedaklein · 02/07/2026 17:01

I stopped reading at " Police will only come if you pay them".
Ayn Rand has risen again.

RumPidgeon · 02/07/2026 17:01

What you’re asking for already exists - it sounds like you either don’t want to pay for it or don’t have enough money to pay for it.

private medical care ✅
private security ✅
private pension ✅
private schools ✅
gated community housing ✅

On a side note: if the gap between those who have a lot and those who have nothing widens too much then those who are affluent will fall prey to those who will take from you to get their needs met. Any civilised society tries to prevent this by taxing those who have a surplus and spreads this among those who haven’t got much.

Posts like yours are understandable but morally reprehensible because you’re condemning good people who’ve fallen on hard times or have disabilities or care for those who have disabilities to suffer through no fault of their own. It would increase crimes rates and fray the very fabric of society.

ByKindNavySwan · 02/07/2026 17:02

The OPs been a long time cutting the grass.

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 02/07/2026 17:03

RumPidgeon · 02/07/2026 17:01

What you’re asking for already exists - it sounds like you either don’t want to pay for it or don’t have enough money to pay for it.

private medical care ✅
private security ✅
private pension ✅
private schools ✅
gated community housing ✅

On a side note: if the gap between those who have a lot and those who have nothing widens too much then those who are affluent will fall prey to those who will take from you to get their needs met. Any civilised society tries to prevent this by taxing those who have a surplus and spreads this among those who haven’t got much.

Posts like yours are understandable but morally reprehensible because you’re condemning good people who’ve fallen on hard times or have disabilities or care for those who have disabilities to suffer through no fault of their own. It would increase crimes rates and fray the very fabric of society.

This, OP. The best reply on here. Read this and have a jolly good think.

BertSymptom · 02/07/2026 17:03

daffodilandtulip · 02/07/2026 15:13

Absolutely not. But the balance has tipped astronomically in the other direction, that it’s not worth going to work for some people.

But why on earth would anyone’s proposed solution to that be to cancel all taxes and public services for everyone so people have to pay for all their own healthcare, education, police, fire services, roads and infrastructure upkeep, armed forces and defence instead of simply making work worthwhile?

I mean we live in a country where minimum wage and living wage are two different things so I’d start there personally.

MxCactus · 02/07/2026 17:05

So I think you have to earn about £45k a year or more just to cover your own benefits costs (education, healthcare, state pension etc) over a lifetime. That's higher than the average wage - so most people would be much poorer.

I earn six figures so I'd actually be richer under your proposals, but I think it's a stupid idea!

How much do you earn OP?

5MinuteArgument · 02/07/2026 17:06

Ladysassy · 02/07/2026 16:22

I think it would only work if everyone was payed the same and worked the same hours as I can’t see people on minimum wage or 0 hour contracts having a bank of money to fall back on.

Yes, and low paid work is often the most essential work: cleaners, carers, cooks, also jobs that are not particularly high paid are essential: bin men, road diggers, bus drivers.

PenelopeJoanSterling · 02/07/2026 17:06

BertSymptom · 02/07/2026 17:03

But why on earth would anyone’s proposed solution to that be to cancel all taxes and public services for everyone so people have to pay for all their own healthcare, education, police, fire services, roads and infrastructure upkeep, armed forces and defence instead of simply making work worthwhile?

I mean we live in a country where minimum wage and living wage are two different things so I’d start there personally.

because in any system theres only so much profit to be made, then you factor competition, then globalisation etc and before long many services and businesses can only function with very low wages for staff

Bitwarmtoday · 02/07/2026 17:07

...or you could just leave and live somewhere else (and I'm a higher rate tax payer so that stuffs up your theory).

geekygardener · 02/07/2026 17:07

Op, if you have had a child (or more than one), had any health problems, even minor ones, had your own childhood health and social care, been to school and university, then you have taken more money out of ‘the system’ than you will ever pay into it during your lifetime. So you can look at it as if all the tax and NI you have paid has been used on you and your family, not to pay for some ‘scroungers’ GP appointments.

Crikeyalmighty · 02/07/2026 17:10

ByKindNavySwan · 02/07/2026 17:02

The OPs been a long time cutting the grass.

She’s probably got the Telegraph or Mail to get through as well

Flowerlovinglady · 02/07/2026 17:11

Just remember that you are only ever one stroke or bad accident away from not being a tax paying, hard working member of society.

Stressymcstress · 02/07/2026 17:13

OP - your ignorance is truly astounding.

what a prick.

Lamelie · 02/07/2026 17:14

Lougle · 02/07/2026 11:18

I so wish name changes weren't allowed, so I could remember your name and avoid you. The ignorance is astounding.

This. I cba to even address it. If you’d spent two minutes paying attention in primary school you’d see lots of flaws in this plan.

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