Would you mind if your partner left you on holiday ?

[inkyspells]

Pretty much that
Today he has just gone around the pool talking to everyone.
I have been in the pool but then I got out to get some shade.
i have asked him to spend some time with me and he just said “you know what I’m like,I like to talk to people”
I said I know that,and you talk to people of course
Can you spend time with me too?
Fell on deaf ears
He is still in the pool talking to everyone
Would it bother you ?

This behaviour isn't normal, constantly soliciting advice then not returning to a thread then starting another

Why do you start so many threads and then fail to update? It's pointless. You don't seem to follow any of the advice that you are given so why bother? 🤦‍♀️

Bloody hell you again!!!!!!

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This - with bells on!

The honeymoon sounds super boring. Please can we have a new thread all about the wedding?

Him again. I would leave and come home

I bet all the other guests around the pool are well pleased that some pissed up bloke is coming to talk at them.

Disappear op, take a walk on the beach. Do what you want to do without him. If he gets antsy about it, stay calm. ‘You knew I wanted to walk on the beach, I did ask you,
but you didn’t want to come. aren’t I allowed to enjoy my holiday too?

i dont think he’s a keeper so my advice is just around the holiday, and when you get home dump him.

I’d be so embarrassed if I had to watch my husband staggering round the pool desperately trying to chat with people. He must be irritating everyone. We do different things sometimes on holidays but we’re a couple with respect for each other so discuss it first etc. we don’t just abandon each other. Hotel guests must be cringing when they see him approaching. We always have a few nicknames for people at hotels who stand out like this. Bet he’s got a few. I feel for you but can’t think he was a decent respectful bloke who enjoyed your company before you got married so it’s on you that you sold yourself short. I’d strongly advise you to dump him you’re going to have a miserable lonely marriage and feel constantly embarrassed of him.

We quite often end up doing separate things for a bit on holiday. Dh loves sport so will go to watch cricket or something and I’ll read my book. I love it although it’s a day maximum.

Do the other people want to talk to him? I would be embarrassed by being with the Labrador man that wants to befriend everyone.

Oh is the same honeymoon guy????

Just from your first post I thought he might have a drink issue and sees you as the spoilsport who wants him to tone it down a little.

Now I've seen the linked post, I know that is the case. He will never change. He is an alcoholic. Please leave. Don't waste your life because you feel embarrassed to have a very short marriage. You only have one life.

LTB

If it weren't for the whiskey drinking, I'd suspect you were the OW who's now lumbered with my ex and his selfish, functioning alcoholic behaviour. It's him to a tee otherwise.

As you are not, all I can say is that I only regret not kicking him out years before I did.

@inkyspells Why do you keep starting threads about being with someone you know perfectly well you shouldn't have married, and then not reply to posters who are trying to help you?

Why did you even marry him in the first place?

On your other thread you said it was your honeymoon and he got roaring drunk with other people on your first night. Not sure why you’ve downgraded it to a holiday in this thread.

As the hundreds of people on the other thread said, what are you going to do about it?

Why bother with loads of threads which you ignore advice on, then start a new one?

You sound suffocating

@inkyspells Are you the poster that’s on honeymoon? (I can’t do a search atm) Your name seems familiar. If so, I’m surprised you haven’t ditched him completely!

He must be a super likeable person or unaware he's annoying people. I wouldn't want a random chatting to me for ages by the pool. You sound like very different people which isn't necessarily bad but he doesn't seem to care that you want to spend time with him and dismisses your requests isn't heathy. He sounds like he's on a lads holiday when this is surely supposed to be one of the happiest times of your lives. Are you having doubts about your relationship, I would be. He doesn't sound attentive, he sounds selfish and overly fond of drinking. Good luck.

Read this:

Husband is ruining our honeymoon getting drunk … | Mumsnet

No wouldn’t bother me. Like my own company and peace to read or think I find bliss. Everyone is different though. +That only works when it’s a choice and not imposed.

Sounds daft but what is he getting from being social he doesn’t when just the two of you? Is he a bit bored? You’ve communicated a need which he has ignored though which even if so isn’t great.

Leave him to it and go on your own adventure for today if that’s an option or start chatting to others yourself.

I'm happy to split up and do different things while on holiday. Hell, I'm happy to take separate holidays. However, if I have to tell my partner/husband that I want to spend some time together and his only answer is "no", no possible discussion, then what's the point of the relationship? If he's drunk and loud and bothering people around the pool (based on your follow up description, not just the fact that he's talking with other guests) I wouldn't make myself responsible for his behaviour but if I couldn't easily persuade him to leave I'd probably go do something else - a walk on the beach is a good start - rather than sit and watch him perform.

Yes, I would be annoyed. DP and I both work hard and juggle stuff at home so our holidays are there for us to spend quality time together. Like you, I don’t expect us to be together every single second but I can’t see why your DP can’t include you in the social setting above. He sounds like he’s being a bit of a twat if I’m honest

I wouldn’t mind for a few hours, my DH has done stuff like walk to a more secluded beach/gone snorkeling etc on his own when I have decided it’s too hot or whatever. As long as it’s not all day every day it’s ok