Friend was annoyed I bought her son a book from the charity shop ..was I wrong ?

[luluxxx]

My friends little boy loves reading,he loves books.
It was his birthday last week and I spotted an old Pinocchio book in the charity shop ,it was from 1957 and inside In pencil was a note “to Jim happy 6th birthday love Eleanor”
I don’t know but it tugged at my heart strings a bit.
In my head I thought that book was full of love and rather than sitting in Charity shop or even worse landfill that it would be nice to go to another home to me loved.
I also bought him so new books from Waterstones too.
My friend text basically saying she threw it away as it was dirty ,and her words “no offense but I don’t think you should give a book from a charity shop that’s been good knows where “ as a gift.
Anyway I’m assuming she’s thrown it away
I was a bit sad because I was only trying to do something nice.
It deffo wasn’t dirty either,it was the old pages and they had little yellow areas (not dirt just a old book)

Did I do wrong ?
I have anxiety to start with ,now I’m kicking myself for being too sentimental and probably made a fool of myself

Again , I’m a massive animal lover , have had horses, cats , dogs , rats etc wouldn’t want a second hand book .

How horribly ungrateful of her. I’d have been absolutely raging that she’d thrown something of such value away and I’m afraid that would have been the end of the friendship for me. Particularly considering you also have new books! Not that that was even necessary.

your friend needs to give her head a wobble , when you go to a library what does she do . Very thoughtful gift x

I would've thought that was a lovely idea. Even if she didn't appreciate it, she shouldn't have said what she said. She is rude and ungrateful and I would rethink my friendship with someone like that.

You gave her child a lovely thoughtful gift. I wouldn't respond. But I would quietly exit myself from her life. She sounds rude and ungrateful. Who wants friends like that?!

Says YOU. Why would anyone not be happy to receive a secondhand book? Is it....GERMS?

Why not?

How nasty … if she didn’t want it she could have at least offered it to you first

Your “friend” is obnoxious.

I can't believe how rude she was! Even of she had those thoughts, she should have kept them to herself.

@luluxxx I have a second hand bookshop near me and I found a copy of A Christmas Carol which had written in it 'To x, Merry Christmas, All our love.. (1943)

Just the thought of that being someone's Christmas present during WW2 and it being preserved felt so special to me that I had to buy it.

I would ignore her tone, tell her you'll happily take the book back as it would be a shame to destroy history (maybe worded better!) and take a step back.

We are second hand book lovers here. I find your friend quite rude to be honest, I can't believe she text you about it in the way she did.

Now I feel bad about the book being chucked.

I love vintage children's books but I would only give as a gift if I knew the person I was giving it to was into them also. Having said that, your friend was extremely rude. She was way out of order and shouldn't have said anything, unless you have the type of decades old friendship where you can be blatantly honest with each other about anything and still remain friends. But she has upset you and she needs to apologise.

You are lovely. Your friend is ungracious, rude and wrong.

Show her these posts op! You did nothing wrong. Like others have said, you sound.lovely and thoughtful and I would've been touched my this gift
. I'd ask her for the book back....(presumingly it's not already gone to landfill?) 🙏🏻. I don't think she deserves you as a friend

Some people are odd.
I would have loved that gift for my child. And as a life long avid reader I would would have adored that as a gift as a child.
I love gifts with heart, gifts that you can't get anywhere else, that are unique. As a child even more than an adult I would have wondered about Peter and how he turned out and what he thought of his gift.

Your friend was rude.

Your friend is an idiot.
if someone has bought that for my girls I would have thought it lovely. They would have liked it too. My eldest still has a fairy tale book that belonged to my mum as a child on her shelf and she treasures it.
if she didn’t like it she could have just given it back.
throwing it away was unforgivable and ignorant.

Your friend is an idiot. Does she have AstroTurf as well?

I would have loved that as a child. My kids would too. We’d have probably has a chat about who the other children were, what it was like being a child in 1957 etc. Maybe we are odd.

You sound lovely. Not only is it weird not to appreciate that gesture. But also very weird to tell you.

You did nothing wrong. Also, your friend is a cnt.

Just text her.

how old is her DC?

She sounds vile.
Do not buy her family gifts in the future.

Jesus! Sorry you've got an arse for a MIL!

Snotty cow.

I think I would reply with "I am fairly sure that 'no offence' doesnt mean what you think it means. I will have the book back thank you"

Did she actually throw it in the bin OP? I don’t know why but that’s really upset me. I wouldn’t be very happy at all if she was my friend.