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Henry Nowak second thread, as requested.

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rolloverbeethoven · 02/06/2026 14:21

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Secretseverywhere · 03/06/2026 14:26

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 14:21

Do we know that he was never handcuffed?
He wasn’t cuffed in the van - that’s normal. He wasn’t cuffed at the station - that’s normal.
But we haven’t seen the footage of the arrest and I haven’t read any reports on it. Was he handcuffed when arrested on the street at the property they were gathered at? Or was he placed under arrest and just help by the wrist?

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It was mentioned by Henry’s father that the perpetrator had never been handcuffed.

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 14:34

EasternStandard · 03/06/2026 14:03

I haven’t heard police say what you have on this.

Eh?

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:35

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 14:19

That wouldn’t fit the loophole. It’s not a loophole. You can wear one for a legitimate reason - like full dress and a Scottish event. Walking down the street in a kilt doesn’t qualify. It’s a non issue.

Scots can wear them when it’s legitimate, and it’s never been an issue.
Sikhs can wear them when it’s legitimate (which just so happens to be baptised Sikhs able to wear them daily) and there has never been an issue.

These allowances have no effect on knife crime. They’re non issues. How much knife crime will be reduced by changing these laws?

I more concerned about how many people will use these loop holes to commit crime

If Mark dressed up in a kilt and walked through town with a knife with the intention to commit a crime
If he is stopped on the way to the crime and questioned.
If he said I'm off to a wedding so allowed to carry this - presumably - under current rules this would seem plausible.
If sam was doing the same but actually going to a wedding

How would the police determine which was reasonable and legal and which wasn't ?

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 14:36

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:10

So you would feel the police had acted proportionally and reasonably if it had been your son who died?

No, but theres a reason we don’t let family members of victims decide on guilt/punishment.

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:36

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 14:21

Do we know that he was never handcuffed?
He wasn’t cuffed in the van - that’s normal. He wasn’t cuffed at the station - that’s normal.
But we haven’t seen the footage of the arrest and I haven’t read any reports on it. Was he handcuffed when arrested on the street at the property they were gathered at? Or was he placed under arrest and just help by the wrist?

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The Novak family statement say he was never cuffed at any time

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:38

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 14:36

No, but theres a reason we don’t let family members of victims decide on guilt/punishment.

But you would expect this to be independently investigated and dealt with

You wouldn't want people minimizing what your son experienced

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 14:41

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:35

I more concerned about how many people will use these loop holes to commit crime

If Mark dressed up in a kilt and walked through town with a knife with the intention to commit a crime
If he is stopped on the way to the crime and questioned.
If he said I'm off to a wedding so allowed to carry this - presumably - under current rules this would seem plausible.
If sam was doing the same but actually going to a wedding

How would the police determine which was reasonable and legal and which wasn't ?

No one who wants to stab someone is doing that.

Chefs can carry knives. Legally. Big ones, not little ones. They could stab someone. Plenty of chefs are alcoholic either anger problems.

You could be moving to a flat down the street and carry a box of kitchen utensils, you’d be legally carrying a knife. You can then stab someone.

Going to a friends to help with dinner, just bought one from John Lewis, Wiccan going to a ritual gathering, literally any reason that is “oh, I’m going to this thing and need the knife for that, but it’s wrapped and in a bag.” And they could, if they chose, stab someone.

These things don’t happen. Because the people who want to stab someone are carrying concealed weapons illegally with the intent purpose of being able to stab someone. They don’t come up with excuses to carry it. I’m sure it’s about 50/51% of knife crime is committed with a normal kitchen knife - which aren’t being carried for traditional or religious reasons, nor are they being carried by a chef or similar. They are being carried illegally.

Closing these exemptions will have no effect on knife crime. It is a knee jerk reaction.

Knife crime campaigners have been trying for years to have pointed kitchen knives phased out, other than for professional use, and make it so you can only buy curved tip or flat tipped kitchen knives as they cannot easily pierce skin or clothing, and would be much less of a threat in spur of the moment “grab a knife” crimes and they would be less attractive to carry around without the sharp point. Are you joining that campaign? The one that really would make a difference? There is the brand Viners Assure who have started making those, and who are trying to help push safer kitchen knives which would be less use in knife crime as it is now. Do you own those?

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 14:42

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:36

The Novak family statement say he was never cuffed at any time

They obviously cannot release the footage of the moment they realised he was dying, and found the stab wounds and tried CPR and everything. But they really need to release the footage showing the moments of arrest and being loaded into the vans. That needs to be public.

EasternStandard · 03/06/2026 14:43

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 14:36

No, but theres a reason we don’t let family members of victims decide on guilt/punishment.

Well nearly everyone can see it’s a no, even if it’s someone else’s child.

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 14:49

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:38

But you would expect this to be independently investigated and dealt with

You wouldn't want people minimizing what your son experienced

no

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:50

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 14:41

No one who wants to stab someone is doing that.

Chefs can carry knives. Legally. Big ones, not little ones. They could stab someone. Plenty of chefs are alcoholic either anger problems.

You could be moving to a flat down the street and carry a box of kitchen utensils, you’d be legally carrying a knife. You can then stab someone.

Going to a friends to help with dinner, just bought one from John Lewis, Wiccan going to a ritual gathering, literally any reason that is “oh, I’m going to this thing and need the knife for that, but it’s wrapped and in a bag.” And they could, if they chose, stab someone.

These things don’t happen. Because the people who want to stab someone are carrying concealed weapons illegally with the intent purpose of being able to stab someone. They don’t come up with excuses to carry it. I’m sure it’s about 50/51% of knife crime is committed with a normal kitchen knife - which aren’t being carried for traditional or religious reasons, nor are they being carried by a chef or similar. They are being carried illegally.

Closing these exemptions will have no effect on knife crime. It is a knee jerk reaction.

Knife crime campaigners have been trying for years to have pointed kitchen knives phased out, other than for professional use, and make it so you can only buy curved tip or flat tipped kitchen knives as they cannot easily pierce skin or clothing, and would be much less of a threat in spur of the moment “grab a knife” crimes and they would be less attractive to carry around without the sharp point. Are you joining that campaign? The one that really would make a difference? There is the brand Viners Assure who have started making those, and who are trying to help push safer kitchen knives which would be less use in knife crime as it is now. Do you own those?

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Safer knives sound perfect. I will order those design now. Thank you for sharing the brand information.

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:51

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 14:49

no

No you wouldn't expect an investigation?

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 14:53

EasternStandard · 03/06/2026 14:43

Well nearly everyone can see it’s a no, even if it’s someone else’s child.

My dad (who works in the criminal justice system) would regularly condemn the use of a jury, as he says the general public are gullible and emotional, and unable to think outside of a narrow view. Every time something like this happens, I understand what he means.

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:55

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 14:53

My dad (who works in the criminal justice system) would regularly condemn the use of a jury, as he says the general public are gullible and emotional, and unable to think outside of a narrow view. Every time something like this happens, I understand what he means.

Does your dad think in this case the jury was wrong?

Does your dad think the victim was treated correctly by the police?

EasternStandard · 03/06/2026 14:56

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 14:53

My dad (who works in the criminal justice system) would regularly condemn the use of a jury, as he says the general public are gullible and emotional, and unable to think outside of a narrow view. Every time something like this happens, I understand what he means.

How interesting to hear about that. Legal system generally rates jury trials. Whilst not perfect it is a judgement of peers. If you look it up you’ll see a few orgs including the Criminal Bar Association strongly oppose these cuts.

What job does he have?

Allisnotlost1 · 03/06/2026 15:00

2dogsandabudgie · 03/06/2026 13:51

I think it depends which clips you saw. Footage that I saw showed quite a number of women there earlier in the evening. Didn't see any women throwing stuff though.

Fair enough. I looked through the local paper’s footage and Twitter, as well as the BBC.

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 15:11

EasternStandard · 03/06/2026 14:56

How interesting to hear about that. Legal system generally rates jury trials. Whilst not perfect it is a judgement of peers. If you look it up you’ll see a few orgs including the Criminal Bar Association strongly oppose these cuts.

What job does he have?

He works in victim liaison.

I don’t know anyone who works anywhere in the justice system (from police to court) who thinks jury’s are the way forward.

When people make up their mind, it’s hard to sway them.

tengreencats · 03/06/2026 15:13

upinaballoon · 03/06/2026 13:54

Do you know how many minutes had elapsed between the police arriving at the scene and Henry's death? Does anyone know that?
Am I correct to think that they arrested the stabber that same evening, but later on?

Yes his mother hid the weapon.

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 15:16

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:55

Does your dad think in this case the jury was wrong?

Does your dad think the victim was treated correctly by the police?

The jury is irrelevant here.

The police had a small amount of time to decide what to. They realised pretty damn quick.

If you're on about the way the police spoke to/handled the victim (keeping in mind they hadn’t deciphered whether he was the perpetrator), then I guess that depends on what type of police force you are after.

EasternStandard · 03/06/2026 15:17

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 15:11

He works in victim liaison.

I don’t know anyone who works anywhere in the justice system (from police to court) who thinks jury’s are the way forward.

When people make up their mind, it’s hard to sway them.

Here you go a couple of orgs that can give you the alternative view

https://www.justice.org.uk/news/justices-response-to-government-jury-trials-announcement

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cm2x01yne13o

‘Bar Council urges government not to pursue changes to jury trial under mistaken belief that radical equals effective’

https://www.barcouncil.org.uk/resource/bar-council-urges-government-not-to-pursue-changes-to-jury-trial-under-mistaken-belief-that-radical-equals-effective.html

Dollymylove · 03/06/2026 15:20

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 12:27

A few points

  • those arrested regularly use “I can’t breathe” and other phrases to prevent the police arresting them.
  • The victim had blood which was had presumed to come from his face - a common injury in altercations involving two males
  • They come into a situation with not much information
  • He was arrested for a minute before they realised something was wrong. He was not “left to bleed out”
  • the injury was hidden,
  • he would not have lived regardless.

God the UK is a big pot waiting to boil over and you are all turning up the gas yourselves

Are you one of.the police officers involved
?

FrankieMcGrath · 03/06/2026 15:28

MsGreying · 03/06/2026 13:44

All of them carrying knives need dealing with properly.

Ibrahim would be alive today if this had been done.
https://www.cps.gov.uk/north-west/news/teen-who-boasted-we-just-done-murder-rap-video-convicted-killing-ibrahima-seck

The police at one of the local meetings after said they can not deal with kids with knives because the govt doesn't want them criminalised.
And until they are then people (including children) will keep being killed.

That’s awful.

MushMonster · 03/06/2026 15:48

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:35

I more concerned about how many people will use these loop holes to commit crime

If Mark dressed up in a kilt and walked through town with a knife with the intention to commit a crime
If he is stopped on the way to the crime and questioned.
If he said I'm off to a wedding so allowed to carry this - presumably - under current rules this would seem plausible.
If sam was doing the same but actually going to a wedding

How would the police determine which was reasonable and legal and which wasn't ?

Exactly! No to any knife, carried by anyone in public spaces (bar work ones when you are working).
I do not agree with exceptions to laws like carrying weapons!
I think the lead police officer assumed this poor boy was drank, rather than serioisly injured. One of the female officers mentioned at least two times about checking him up for injuries, but the one leading did not make it easy for her, as he was handcuffing him. Apparently, he had a cut on his face, yet he was arrested, instead of checked properly for further injury. It is heartbreaking. He was not resisting, not trying to escape, he could barely talk. The officer did not need to handcuff him on his back. At all. They could have calmly checked him, use a torch or bring him closer to a good light spot.
I do not think he would have survived. It looks like he was fully unconcious within a few minutes of police arrival. I really feel for his family.

RoboBoogie · 03/06/2026 16:07

MushMonster · 03/06/2026 15:48

Exactly! No to any knife, carried by anyone in public spaces (bar work ones when you are working).
I do not agree with exceptions to laws like carrying weapons!
I think the lead police officer assumed this poor boy was drank, rather than serioisly injured. One of the female officers mentioned at least two times about checking him up for injuries, but the one leading did not make it easy for her, as he was handcuffing him. Apparently, he had a cut on his face, yet he was arrested, instead of checked properly for further injury. It is heartbreaking. He was not resisting, not trying to escape, he could barely talk. The officer did not need to handcuff him on his back. At all. They could have calmly checked him, use a torch or bring him closer to a good light spot.
I do not think he would have survived. It looks like he was fully unconcious within a few minutes of police arrival. I really feel for his family.

I have read the judge's sentencing again , he says this :

"The murder did not involve taking a knife to the scene with the purpose
to use it to commit an offence or to have it available to do so. It is possible that
you had a good legal reason for having the dagger when you met Henry."

The judge then applied that as a mitigating factor in his sentencing and reduced his sentence accordingly.

HOWEVER , we have been made aware that Digwa had an obsession with knives and weapons and was in court the day after his sentencing for possession of weapons in private and public places alongside his brother and father.

It looks to me like there's a loophole there in his sentencing.
Because he was carrying a 'religious knife,' it was seen as a none pre- meditated crime and seen as a mitigating factor.
If he had been carrying a kitchen knife would that have been an aggravating factor? And would he have received a longer sentence?

I just think if he has a history of obsession with weapons then perhaps he wasn't carrying it for religious reasons at all?