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Henry Nowak second thread, as requested.

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rolloverbeethoven · 02/06/2026 14:21

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upinaballoon · 03/06/2026 13:33

Whyohwhy321 · 03/06/2026 10:07

Men. Not people. Men. Let's give it the correct name.

Myra Hindley and Rose West weren't men.

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 13:34

JaggyJumper · 03/06/2026 13:28

Regardless if it’s a religious weapon or not, it’s a weapon. To hire a kilt now you aren’t allowed to carry a sgian dubh they come with plastic ones are you aren’t allowed something which can be used as a weapon

They come with a plastic one when rented, but you can wear a proper one. If you want to buy one, you can wear it. We are legally allowed to carry a real sgian dubh when wearing a kilt. What they provide when you rent one has nothing to do with it.

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 13:38

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 13:34

They come with a plastic one when rented, but you can wear a proper one. If you want to buy one, you can wear it. We are legally allowed to carry a real sgian dubh when wearing a kilt. What they provide when you rent one has nothing to do with it.

Would you accept a change in law where real blades couldn't be worn with kilts?

Could anyone put in a kilt and walk around anytime with a dagger or do you need to have Scottish heritage?

quantumbutterfly · 03/06/2026 13:42

Allisnotlost1 · 03/06/2026 12:29

Does no one find it strange that the images of the ‘protest’ show almost exclusively white men, no women. If this was a legitimate protest, with real and genuine sentiment from the community, where are the women?

I'm often twitchy when I see an all male crowd, whatever colour they are. There's a lot of it about these days.

MsGreying · 03/06/2026 13:44

FrankieMcGrath · 02/06/2026 23:06

Never been an issue until it is in the most horrific way. Shouldn’t be allowed full stop & known knife carrying, weapons obsessed individuals should be dealt with with the full force of the law - never treated leniently.

All of them carrying knives need dealing with properly.

Ibrahim would be alive today if this had been done.
https://www.cps.gov.uk/north-west/news/teen-who-boasted-we-just-done-murder-rap-video-convicted-killing-ibrahima-seck

The police at one of the local meetings after said they can not deal with kids with knives because the govt doesn't want them criminalised.
And until they are then people (including children) will keep being killed.

Teen who boasted ‘we just done a murder’ in a rap video convicted of killing Ibrahima Seck | The Crown Prosecution Service

https://www.cps.gov.uk/north-west/news/teen-who-boasted-we-just-done-murder-rap-video-convicted-killing-ibrahima-seck

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 13:48

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 13:32

They arrived at a completely calm scene. There was no pandemonium going on that they had to deal with, there was no bad behaviour from anyone. There were 4 officers, and a totally calm scene. They should have immediately had two officers attending to the man lying on the ground. When Henry realised police were there, he said I’ve been stabbed, he said ambulance, he said he couldn’t breathe. Whilst he was sitting up. This was ignored. They continued chatting to the family, they went and dragged Henry across the ground and told him he hadn’t been stabbed.

I could understand them missing this if the scene was chaotic. But it was calm. And the ignored him. They should have immediately had their attentions on the man on the floor, who was a grey colour, you could hear gurgling when he spoke… there is no excuse for his long they took. And there is no excuse for handcuffing him, and then just sitting there saying “I’ll stay here and hold him in his side, you talk to them.”

This was bad policing. In a completely calm scene, they should have had their attention in that boy, checked his pupils and removed his shirt to check for wounds. There was no excuse for not bothering to do any of that once they arrived on scene. His last moments should have been comfort, not being arrested and read his writes and called a liar.

“Should have, should have, should have”.

Imagine if we could watch everything we ever did, critique it, and re-do it? We’d all be perfect. The only people saying they’d have done it 10000 x better are those that have never done anything remotely similar.

They could have definitely done things differently. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

regardless, they did not cause his death. This is classic misplaced anger of the general public. It’s exhausting

upinaballoon · 03/06/2026 13:48

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 12:06

It’s staggering how many people will come in here to spout their views and complain when they clearly either haven’t read the sentence or simply don’t understand it.

He did not get 21 years. He got life, with a minimum of 21 years which means he will serve life in prison unless he qualifies for parole, and he cannot apply for parole for 21 years. And parole is not easy to get.

The attorney general is also currently reviewing the sentence and considering if the minimum of 21 years is too lenient, and this will likely be sent to the court of appeal to increase that or turn it into a whole life tariff. But I think we can all feel pretty safe that this guy will not be granted parole in 21 years regardless.

Thank you for mentioning this. Thank you for accuracy.
I should stop looking at Mumsnet because the ill-informed nonsense that people come out with gets me down a bit.

2dogsandabudgie · 03/06/2026 13:51

Allisnotlost1 · 03/06/2026 12:29

Does no one find it strange that the images of the ‘protest’ show almost exclusively white men, no women. If this was a legitimate protest, with real and genuine sentiment from the community, where are the women?

I think it depends which clips you saw. Footage that I saw showed quite a number of women there earlier in the evening. Didn't see any women throwing stuff though.

upinaballoon · 03/06/2026 13:54

NoisyBrickDog · 03/06/2026 12:07

Late joiner to the thread, so apologies if this has been talked about already

I think the police are often between a rock and a hard place.

Can you remember the farmer who shot the burglar as he fled his farm. So, lad on the floor bleeding to death and the farmer stating that he has just been in my farm. Police look at the injuries to the lad and arrest farmer. Police heavily criticised.

Older chap in his home finds a young lad has entered and is burgling it. Older chap picks up a golf club and chases the young lad from the address and hits him with it. Police arrive, find young lad on the floor with bad injuries. Older chap is arrested despite his account. Police heavily criticised.

On this occasion police find Henry on the floor with significant injuries. Police on this occasion listen to the other side (Digwa's account) and act on it. Police heavily criticised again.

Its also sometimes easy to ciriticise people having to make a decision within seconds without the full facts or the benefit of hindsight.

Do you know how many minutes had elapsed between the police arriving at the scene and Henry's death? Does anyone know that?
Am I correct to think that they arrested the stabber that same evening, but later on?

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 13:56

upinaballoon · 03/06/2026 13:54

Do you know how many minutes had elapsed between the police arriving at the scene and Henry's death? Does anyone know that?
Am I correct to think that they arrested the stabber that same evening, but later on?

They arrived at something like 11.36pm, Henry died a few minutes later and the police discovered the stab wound once they finally started CPR, the murderer was arrested at 11.55pm. It was all very fast.

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 13:56

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 13:48

“Should have, should have, should have”.

Imagine if we could watch everything we ever did, critique it, and re-do it? We’d all be perfect. The only people saying they’d have done it 10000 x better are those that have never done anything remotely similar.

They could have definitely done things differently. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

regardless, they did not cause his death. This is classic misplaced anger of the general public. It’s exhausting

It isn't just that they didn't give medical care.

There was no need to handcuff at that point.
There was no need to say ' I don't think you have mate'
They weren't just neglectful and missed the injuries they were unnecessarily rough and uncaring to the point of mocking.

If they had just left him on floor without checking it would have been a mistake, an awful mistake but they actually caused him harm and pain and treated him as a criminal

Yes - it may not have caused his death but it did cause even more pain and loss of dignity.

I don't know about you - but I often replay things and wish I had done differently after the fact - I thought most people would

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 13:59

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 13:56

It isn't just that they didn't give medical care.

There was no need to handcuff at that point.
There was no need to say ' I don't think you have mate'
They weren't just neglectful and missed the injuries they were unnecessarily rough and uncaring to the point of mocking.

If they had just left him on floor without checking it would have been a mistake, an awful mistake but they actually caused him harm and pain and treated him as a criminal

Yes - it may not have caused his death but it did cause even more pain and loss of dignity.

I don't know about you - but I often replay things and wish I had done differently after the fact - I thought most people would

I was going to reply similar to that poster, but I’ll just clap this. They still won’t get it though; some people can never accept that the police can actually be at fault, quite serious fault and it’s more than just “oh, a wee mistake as a lot was happening.”

Secretseverywhere · 03/06/2026 14:00

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 13:38

Would you accept a change in law where real blades couldn't be worn with kilts?

Could anyone put in a kilt and walk around anytime with a dagger or do you need to have Scottish heritage?

As a Scot I would say that that would not be a massive change from what happens in reality. You can’t get in a pub / nightclub with a bladed sgian dubh so most people have a plastic version. I think generally it’d be considered a bad idea to allow blokes who have been drinking knives.

Some people might have a bladed one tucked into their sock at a wedding (venue permitting) in all honesty the only time I’ve ever seen one drawn was when the pop up bar had failed to bring a knife for the lemons and an elderly relative saved the day.

I think restrictions on size / dullness/ plastic blade for kirpan and sgian dubh seem sensible. I think it’s better to have clarification on what is/ is not acceptable so no one can wear a large blade under the shield of religion/ ceremonial dress.

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 14:01

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 13:56

It isn't just that they didn't give medical care.

There was no need to handcuff at that point.
There was no need to say ' I don't think you have mate'
They weren't just neglectful and missed the injuries they were unnecessarily rough and uncaring to the point of mocking.

If they had just left him on floor without checking it would have been a mistake, an awful mistake but they actually caused him harm and pain and treated him as a criminal

Yes - it may not have caused his death but it did cause even more pain and loss of dignity.

I don't know about you - but I often replay things and wish I had done differently after the fact - I thought most people would

Agree to disagree.

EasternStandard · 03/06/2026 14:03

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 14:01

Agree to disagree.

I haven’t heard police say what you have on this.

Alexandra2001 · 03/06/2026 14:03

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 13:48

“Should have, should have, should have”.

Imagine if we could watch everything we ever did, critique it, and re-do it? We’d all be perfect. The only people saying they’d have done it 10000 x better are those that have never done anything remotely similar.

They could have definitely done things differently. Hindsight is a wonderful thing.

regardless, they did not cause his death. This is classic misplaced anger of the general public. It’s exhausting

Yes, sad and terrible as their actions were, it wasn't as if they knew he'd been stabbed and with hands covered in blood, handcuffed him.

As far as i can see, they had no idea he'd been stabbed, i believe the injuries were internal, so very little external evidence of being stabbed.

The Police get told lots of things by people they deal with.... in this case they got it terribly wrong.
The inquiry will show what needs to change in training and lessons learned.

What is deliberate though, is the 'right wing exploiting this for their own twisted ends, as historically they always have done.

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 14:05

Secretseverywhere · 03/06/2026 14:00

As a Scot I would say that that would not be a massive change from what happens in reality. You can’t get in a pub / nightclub with a bladed sgian dubh so most people have a plastic version. I think generally it’d be considered a bad idea to allow blokes who have been drinking knives.

Some people might have a bladed one tucked into their sock at a wedding (venue permitting) in all honesty the only time I’ve ever seen one drawn was when the pop up bar had failed to bring a knife for the lemons and an elderly relative saved the day.

I think restrictions on size / dullness/ plastic blade for kirpan and sgian dubh seem sensible. I think it’s better to have clarification on what is/ is not acceptable so no one can wear a large blade under the shield of religion/ ceremonial dress.

Yup. I wouldn’t support a change in the law because it is completely unnecessary. People wear a real one if they’re going to a high games, or doing those men in kilts up a mountain thing, at a wedding. But no one marches down the street in a kilt wearing a real one for the rugby. It’s a non issue. They’re allowed to be worn if it’s a legitimate reason, like a proper Scottish event or reenactment or whatever. It’s not a danger, I don’t think there’s been a stabbing with one. Most people use common sense, and no one wears a real one any chance they get in a kilt. But we can wear them, and I’d object to that being changed.

WimbyAce · 03/06/2026 14:07

ByGraptharsHammer · 03/06/2026 09:08

Anything above 2.5 inches will be an offensive weapon. That there is some religious legitimate excuse to carry something larger than this is ridiculous and should end.

Agreed. I think this should be across the board.

Secretseverywhere · 03/06/2026 14:08

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 13:59

I was going to reply similar to that poster, but I’ll just clap this. They still won’t get it though; some people can never accept that the police can actually be at fault, quite serious fault and it’s more than just “oh, a wee mistake as a lot was happening.”

I’d agree. I don’t see why someone who isn’t being violent or fleeing should be routinely handcuffed. I found this article written by a solicitor really apt although it’s from 2020 so this is a really long standing issue.

iaingould.co.uk/2020/07/09/handcuffed-for-no-reason-a-dangerous-police-habit/

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:10

Lovethystupidneighbour · 03/06/2026 14:01

Agree to disagree.

So you would feel the police had acted proportionally and reasonably if it had been your son who died?

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:12

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 14:05

Yup. I wouldn’t support a change in the law because it is completely unnecessary. People wear a real one if they’re going to a high games, or doing those men in kilts up a mountain thing, at a wedding. But no one marches down the street in a kilt wearing a real one for the rugby. It’s a non issue. They’re allowed to be worn if it’s a legitimate reason, like a proper Scottish event or reenactment or whatever. It’s not a danger, I don’t think there’s been a stabbing with one. Most people use common sense, and no one wears a real one any chance they get in a kilt. But we can wear them, and I’d object to that being changed.

Would you object to people opting to wear a kilt daily so they could fit the loophole to carry a knife daily ?

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:15

Secretseverywhere · 03/06/2026 14:08

I’d agree. I don’t see why someone who isn’t being violent or fleeing should be routinely handcuffed. I found this article written by a solicitor really apt although it’s from 2020 so this is a really long standing issue.

iaingould.co.uk/2020/07/09/handcuffed-for-no-reason-a-dangerous-police-habit/

I think what also really stands out in this situation was that they handcuffed henry but then when they realized he had died and been murdered - they did not handcuff the murderer at all.

If they police were routine handcuffing everyone across the board regardless of risk then they would have handcuffed the murderer when arresting for murder. But they didn't they only handcuffed the helpless victim

EasternStandard · 03/06/2026 14:19

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:10

So you would feel the police had acted proportionally and reasonably if it had been your son who died?

Yes most with dc, especially around the same age, ask this and agree with you. Idk how anyone thinks the treatment was ok.

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 14:19

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:12

Would you object to people opting to wear a kilt daily so they could fit the loophole to carry a knife daily ?

That wouldn’t fit the loophole. It’s not a loophole. You can wear one for a legitimate reason - like full dress and a Scottish event. Walking down the street in a kilt doesn’t qualify. It’s a non issue.

Scots can wear them when it’s legitimate, and it’s never been an issue.
Sikhs can wear them when it’s legitimate (which just so happens to be baptised Sikhs able to wear them daily) and there has never been an issue.

These allowances have no effect on knife crime. They’re non issues. How much knife crime will be reduced by changing these laws?

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 14:21

Scamworried · 03/06/2026 14:15

I think what also really stands out in this situation was that they handcuffed henry but then when they realized he had died and been murdered - they did not handcuff the murderer at all.

If they police were routine handcuffing everyone across the board regardless of risk then they would have handcuffed the murderer when arresting for murder. But they didn't they only handcuffed the helpless victim

Do we know that he was never handcuffed?
He wasn’t cuffed in the van - that’s normal. He wasn’t cuffed at the station - that’s normal.
But we haven’t seen the footage of the arrest and I haven’t read any reports on it. Was he handcuffed when arrested on the street at the property they were gathered at? Or was he placed under arrest and just help by the wrist?