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What’s the strangest reason someone has got cross with you on MN?

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ClassicStripe · 29/05/2026 07:12

When I was new to MN I used a way of phrasing something that is very common in my local dialect. To the point that I still can’t figure out what was wrong with how I phrased it. However rather than answering my thread there was just a pile on about my typing.

Another time someone became very angry that I said I worked at a school with a farm. I did at the time. But they were so angry that I might have “outed” my self. I’ve never put anything on here that I would be embarrassed people in my life finding out so I don’t know why they were so worried for me!

OP posts:
Lurleene · 29/05/2026 09:38

On a 'light hearted' thread, I can't remember why but I referenced the Newman and Baddiel history professors comedy sketches. They would start off talking seriously about a subject then would degenerate into increasingly childish insults.

I quoted 'Your Mum does it for money' 'Well your Mum does it for free' as an example.

Well apparently that makes me a misogynist, shaming of sex workers and I am upholding the idea that women cannot enjoy sex in their own right. Or something like that.

Stardancerintheskye · 29/05/2026 09:38

Oh I forgot about the op that called me a liar

During covid,our loony neighbour ,(who thinks the world spins around her arse and only her rules matter) called the police on us for going out

What she didnt know was wed just got the call to say my darling fil was dying and we either got there to say goodbye or miss our chance

We where running around,flinging knickers into a suitcase before belting out of the door to get there-from the front door to the car,from the car to pil's front door and back again a few days later

She has one of those ring doorbells and sits on it all day-she doesn't work and has fuck all else to do all day,plus she considered herself the covid police

About 2 weeks later,the police knocked on our door,demanding to know where wed gone and why

They where fine once wed explained what had happened and nothing else was said

I was a liar because 'the police wouldn't come out for something so minor'

Normally id agree but this was covid-the world had gone to pot and my neighbour is a very forceful woman (who would have nagged and nagged,before going higher and higher up the ranks until someone came out,just to shut her up,plus the police had fuck all else to do).

Maybe I should have gone to the press complete with sad face and headline 'police hounded us for seeing dying family member' for people to believe me

This poster just refused to let it go and repeatedly called me a liar-I think I posted once more then ignored her

JustAnUdea · 29/05/2026 09:40

I said that Id had to sign mt passport.

One poster was adament I was lying, no one had to sign passports issued in that partucular year... several posts about it.

I dont what she wanted. Id had to sign my passport. DH had had to sign his (issued a similar time). Why would i be lying?

Lomonald · 29/05/2026 09:41

AddictedToBooks · 29/05/2026 08:53

I got a roasting because I have Border Collies - the person knew absolutely nothing about the circumstances or how the BCs live, my knowledge and background with the breed etc - just the simple fact that I have Border Collies was enough to make me the Devil Incarnate apparently.

What ! Why ?

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 29/05/2026 09:43

ClashCityRocker · 29/05/2026 07:28

Someone once got very irate with me for not encouraging my mentally fragile physically disabled mother to allow the homeless man who'd taken up residence in her shed to move in with her.....

I remember that!!!! How is your mum? I read that whole thread, agog!

ThisIsMy · 29/05/2026 09:45

On a thread, I once mentioned that I live rurally and could drive to a Korean restaurant 20 minutes away. A poster got very upset because there are no Korean restaurants within 20 minutes of any rural area anywhere in any country.

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 29/05/2026 09:47

Mine was quite recent - I am a professor and have a senior leadership in a university. As part of that, I sit on our admissions committee. There was a question from a poster about her son's GCSE results and how they would be taken into account for a specific, quite competitive degree. I answered with general reassurance but with some detail about how the results might be used in a decision.

I had loads of people implying I was a liar, asking to post links to where I worked... it was so odd! I've been doing this job at 2 different universities since 2020, I do know what I am talking about!

JustAnUdea · 29/05/2026 09:48

ThisIsMy · 29/05/2026 09:45

On a thread, I once mentioned that I live rurally and could drive to a Korean restaurant 20 minutes away. A poster got very upset because there are no Korean restaurants within 20 minutes of any rural area anywhere in any country.

I said once we had a zoo in the village. Apparently nonsense, why would a village have a zoo?

Except... many zoos are in the the countryside, as they need acres of land. Technically it borders several villages. (We just have the main entrance)

meltingmoaner · 29/05/2026 09:51

I recently said assisted dying was expensive due to extra staff, legalities etc. One poster got very angry & assumed it meant I preferred old people to starve in a hospital bed 🤷🏻‍♀️

Bjorkdidit · 29/05/2026 09:53

There was a long running series of threads from a woman who had bought a house where it wasn't mentioned that a neighbour was storing things in a garage and another neighbour had use of an allotment associated with the property. I don't know if it was real or turned out to be fiction because it was certainly an extraordinary tale.

I said early on that it sounded like the seller had 'forgotten' to mention these agreements and the OP needed to talk to the solicitor to get it all sorted out but several posters told me I was wrong for reasons I can't remember. However the OP later came back and said that it had been exactly as I had said.

AddictedToBooks · 29/05/2026 09:53

Lomonald · 29/05/2026 09:41

What ! Why ?

I have no idea. Apparently I was cruel for having them.
I've had Border Collies for my entire life and I'm almost 50 and all of our Border Collies have always been rescues and people who know us always comment on how happy and relaxed all of our dogs have been.
Currently got two - both of whom are lying infront of a huge fan and perfectly content,

ThatCyanCat · 29/05/2026 09:53

Someone once blew her lid because I told her fish, blood and bone would do the garden more good than her menstrual blood.

Another one went postal because a lot of people preferred cutting pizza with a round cutter than with scissors.

INX · 29/05/2026 09:54

I made the mistake of typing 'Lol' about 14 years ago.

This sent the regular MN royalty into absolute meltdown as apparently this is not Facebook so no-one should ever add 'LOL' to their replies.

I wouldn't mind but I hardly ever did, so I made a point of using it whenever I replied to them 😁

lifeisgoodrightnow · 29/05/2026 09:56

ThisIsMy · 29/05/2026 09:45

On a thread, I once mentioned that I live rurally and could drive to a Korean restaurant 20 minutes away. A poster got very upset because there are no Korean restaurants within 20 minutes of any rural area anywhere in any country.

I saw that. It was bonkers !

Lomonald · 29/05/2026 09:56

AddictedToBooks · 29/05/2026 09:53

I have no idea. Apparently I was cruel for having them.
I've had Border Collies for my entire life and I'm almost 50 and all of our Border Collies have always been rescues and people who know us always comment on how happy and relaxed all of our dogs have been.
Currently got two - both of whom are lying infront of a huge fan and perfectly content,

Was it maybe because they saw them as "working dogs" or something so they should be outside herding. That is weird though. We have had a BC rescue he was hard work tbf but a perfectly nice dog and pet to have in the house.

Littledidsheknow · 29/05/2026 09:56

ThisIsMy · 29/05/2026 09:45

On a thread, I once mentioned that I live rurally and could drive to a Korean restaurant 20 minutes away. A poster got very upset because there are no Korean restaurants within 20 minutes of any rural area anywhere in any country.

😂 Not even in Korea?

BlindSpotForCats · 29/05/2026 09:58

whyyyyyisitmonddayy · 29/05/2026 09:24

I said my car had “died” and I was told to get psychiatric help because I was devastated 😂

this was my first car and I’d had amazing fun with it. 2000s Land Rover type, my mother had given to me after she’d driven it throughout my teen years. It even had a sodding name. Suddenly, it all went “bang” and it couldn’t be fixed. My mechanic was gutted for me. He knew how much I adored that bloody thing.

insult to injury was that I had just had genuinely the worst six months of my life. My best friend moved in with me and my boyfriend, had a breakdown and said some really evil shit to me, and then, once I kicked her out, partner and I couldn’t pay the rent. So… we both had to move back to our parents hours apart. I was so fucking gutted. And my car literally broke down with all of my belongings in the back, as I was mid move out to my folks’ two hours away. So, sobbing behind the wheel of quite genuinely felt like the last familiar thing I had left in my life… I felt actual grief.

my dad, bless him, found the money to help me buy another car. But I remember just crying and saying “I’m not sad that my car is gone. I’m sad that [name] is gone. Nothing can replace her”.

id gone car camping, worked as a delivery driver, driven to other holidays, all in my beloved car. Beach days so often there was sand all in it. I got all my confidence from driving it. So when it went… I felt trapped at my folks’ house. Away from my old life. Just so gutted.

I eventually (six months later) got a Mini Cooper 3 door. Very different to my old tank of a car, but at the time I knew I couldn’t stomach going like- for-like. Especially with upkeep costs of a diesel Land Rover. only thing that made me feel better is my partner had promised that one day, when we have the money, we’ll buy me the same model and do it up together so I get to have my lovely old banger back. Upgrade the engine and all sorts.

I do feel a pang of sadness when I think about how my og car is gone forever but i love my new car an awful lot.

I remember your thread also and the reaction.

What a lovely plan to do up the same model one day.

CoffeeAndACroissant · 29/05/2026 09:58

I made what I thought was a reasonably light hearted thread, moaning about the fact that my husband was sulking and refused to eat because we had run out of white bread and only had brown.

Apparently I was abusive and should have dropped everything and gone out and bought the poor lamb a loaf of white. I got a lot of grief from people I can only assume work for Hovis's white bread division.

TiredMagpie · 29/05/2026 09:58

I got told I was an awful person once for telling a poster the dress she was thinking of buying was hideous. The post was titled something along the lines of ‘what do you think of this dress?’

NorWouldTilly · 29/05/2026 09:58

OP on Style and Beauty thread: Please tell me what you think of my style. Here’s a photo.

S&B Posters: Maybe you could do this, this, and that differently? Don’t much like the dress.

OP: How very dare you? No wonder my mental health is so terrible. You are all bullies and this board needs shutting down!

needastrongone · 29/05/2026 09:59

This is a bit different but I once posted, as someone who has lived with and supported someone with a significant MH issue for 30 years that (during a particularly difficult period for them) I was struggling too to keep supporting them and managing our young family. I was told I making THEM and anyone else with a MH condition feel even worse about themselves for having a MH condition. I wasn’t, I was just getting to breaking point myself and needed someone to hear me. It made me feel ten times worse.

I’ve been smiling at some of the batshit examples on here though this morning, thanks OP for this thread. 😊

SpinSpinSugarPuff · 29/05/2026 10:01

Someone lost their shit with me because we were moving out of a city to a neighbouring village which was child abuse in their mind.

The part of the city we were then in had open drug dealing and gangs and the school my dc would go to was in special measures.

The village had dc playing out together, lovely dog walks and access to a fantastic school. Child abuse apparently.

BlindSpotForCats · 29/05/2026 10:01

Spidey66 · 29/05/2026 09:16

I was told off for sitting on a priority seat on the bus. I had a broken shoulder and couldn't stand safely without risking further injury. I was even told it couldn't have been that bad as a&e put it in plaster which was removed a week later by the fracture clinic and a collar and cuff put on..... apparently if it was bad it would have been in plaster for several weeks. Casts are not usually a recommended treatment plan for the type and site of fracture. But she knew better than orthopedic surgeons!

I wasn't disabled so shouldn't have sat there, even though it wasn't a disabled seat it was a priority seat for those less able to stand (so pregnant women, those with injuries etc.) There was an old lady there but she got given a seat by another lady sitting next to me. Fortunately plenty of people agreed I was fine sitting there

Edited

There we go- another thing I'd be told off for! I often sit in the pririty seat. I have the dreaded 'invisible conditions' (fibromyalgia and arthritis of varying types) and frequently struggle just to stand, never mind walk. I usually collapse in the priority seat as stepping onto the bus and walking a metre or so takes it out of me.

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 29/05/2026 10:02

Chemenger · 29/05/2026 08:32

I have had many accusations of lying because I used to be involved with university recruitment and selection. Apparently I had no idea how the selection process in my own department, which I oversaw, worked. In the end I found the Higher Education section so hostile to academics that I pretty much stopped posting there.
Another very angry woman, who knew everything about engineering work placements because her husband was an engineer, kept telling me I was wrong about those too, even though I was an engineering lecturer for three decades.

OMG, exact same!!! Crikey. I have also stopped posting on HE board.

Heatwaveintheoffice · 29/05/2026 10:02

There is a thread running in Genealogy at the moment where anyone that tries to point out the risks of giving out their DNA to these companies is called a weirdo, arsehole or told to 'sort their bloodline out'.

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