What’s the strangest reason someone has got cross with you on MN?

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When I was new to MN I used a way of phrasing something that is very common in my local dialect. To the point that I still can’t figure out what was wrong with how I phrased it. However rather than answering my thread there was just a pile on about my typing.

Another time someone became very angry that I said I worked at a school with a farm. I did at the time. But they were so angry that I might have “outed” my self. I’ve never put anything on here that I would be embarrassed people in my life finding out so I don’t know why they were so worried for me!

It was just Gumbo!

I know 🤣 they just wouldn't understand that I'm severely arachnophobic so couldn't just trap it and set it free. Did give me a giggle though🤣

I got a roasting because I have Border Collies - the person knew absolutely nothing about the circumstances or how the BCs live, my knowledge and background with the breed etc - just the simple fact that I have Border Collies was enough to make me the Devil Incarnate apparently.

I was told I was in an abusive and controlling relationship as my husband bought a new bedding set and I ironed the duvet cover as a treat.

🤣

You wicked woman.

What is this iron that you speak of?

I find it amusing that if someone complained that their biological child had assaulted them, spat in their face and called them a cunt, MN would respond with heartfelt sympathy and even suggest that OP should thrown the child out.

If a step-parent writes that their step DC has behaved in the same way the response is “Sounds like a cry for help. You clearly resent the poor child. Were you the OW? And no, you can’t ban them from your home. It’s their home too!”

Called my now-ex's son "the boy". That's what ex always called him and I'd never seen the terms "DS" or "DSS" (good job I didn't try to use either of those anyway as he was not my S, and as we weren't married he wasn't my SS either).

They said it proved I didn't like him. Weird assumption.

He's 25 now, I split from the ex ten years ago, stay in touch with the boy, and have an open invite to stay with him and his gf. Funnily enough, his dad's new partner is not allowed to come to their house as she's always been nasty to him.

I can guess which poster told you off about engineering placements. She is an MN legend, so easy to spot despite the regular name changes. I’ve had similar from her, despite being a specialist civil engineer and chartered too.

ETA: @Chemenger

I've noticed this too

Word has gotten around that AI uses Em dashes quite a bit - so now a lot of users will instantly dismiss any post containing a dash as AI slop!

I was about to come on here to say the ND gatekeepers! As if they magically became autistic the day they were diagnosed and couldn’t possibly have been before.

Boils my piss. The majority is undiagnosed yet they try monopolise it for some reason.

To be fair, this is extreme!!!

What else does your husband coerce you into doing? If you're not careful, you'll end up ironing his PJs.

Please phone women's Aid ASAP and try and get some items packed.

Make sure they're all ironed though, or he'll get suspicious...

I created a thread as I was struggling with low libido. A few posters seemed to take it very personally and were quite cutting, as though I’d said I didn’t want to have sex with them themselves. I’m a straight woman so they wouldn’t have had a chance anyway!

Pensioners.
There's a small faction of MN who just don't like pensioners.

And wo betide if I mention I live on a state pension.
Apparently I shouldn't, apparently I should have private pensions because it's hard for anyone to get their head around the fact that there are some of us (in fact 1.4 million of us) who neither had the opportunity or the money/jobs to do this.
When I was a single parent, living in utter poverty, I was using a credit card to pay the bills and had barely a penny over to eat, how was I going to fund a pension pot??
Sigh....

What MN shows is that a lot of people aren’t able to understand that just because they haven’t experienced something doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. They have no nuance or ability to consider another perspective. So then they get really angry if someone disagrees with them. See it a lot with politics!!

A covid one. Just before lockdown I went for a birthday walk with friends. Outside, in the fresh air, with an appropriate distance between us. We then had a cup of tea in the garden. I was the devil incarnate who was responsible for the entire pandemic

I had a post deleted for racism.

The offence?

Suggesting that a French Au Pair who the OP was complaining about not wanting sandwiches for lunch might prefer something like an omelette and salad instead.

I had this too!
I’d explained I was in menopause, had one DC with cancer, and another in a MH hospital; was trying HRT but had high stress and anxiety.

One poster said I should let my husband go so he can have a chance at “true happiness” rather than being lumbered with me. This is the same DH that I’ve been happily married to for 35 years, and that had just bought me a car for my birthday.

But no, happiness = sex and nothing else.

I was banished from the gardening section after admitting I took a cutting from a nice salvia in the park.

I was told off for sitting on a priority seat on the bus. I had a broken shoulder and couldn't stand safely without risking further injury. I was even told it couldn't have been that bad as a&e put it in plaster which was removed a week later by the fracture clinic and a collar and cuff put on..... apparently if it was bad it would have been in plaster for several weeks. Casts are not usually a recommended treatment plan for the type and site of fracture. But she knew better than orthopedic surgeons!

I wasn't disabled so shouldn't have sat there, even though it wasn't a disabled seat it was a priority seat for those less able to stand (so pregnant women, those with injuries etc.) There was an old lady there but she got given a seat by another lady sitting next to me. Fortunately plenty of people agreed I was fine sitting there

I was on a thread about fat shaming/fat comments. I mentioned it also goes the other way, my dd hated being called skinny, it hurt her equally as much as those who are called fat. One poster “ah well, that’s because your dd works tirelessly to keep her weight down, doesn’t eat, is secretly sick afterwards, secretly exercises, you’ve made her believe skinny is beautiful, fat is gross” .. WTAF?? When in actual fact my DD ate constantly, good food and lots of rubbish too, yet was very slim, proportionately so, is naturally a small build and currently an age where she can eat like this without consequences 🤷‍♀️ But no, the poster would not let it go, she must be anorexic, secretly exercising to burn everything off, due to peer pressure and sm influence, I was also making her believe girls must be slim to be beautiful 😵‍💫 This poster argued with me, for a long while until I ignored her. Madness.

A comment I made on a weight loss thread about how disheartening it is to be told, ‘eat less, move around more’.
I received a very angry reply from someone who seemed to think I was comparing the struggles of dieting to the dreadful conditions of the people held in concentration camps during WWII.

I said my car had “died” and I was told to get psychiatric help because I was devastated 😂

this was my first car and I’d had amazing fun with it. 2000s Land Rover type, my mother had given to me after she’d driven it throughout my teen years. It even had a sodding name. Suddenly, it all went “bang” and it couldn’t be fixed. My mechanic was gutted for me. He knew how much I adored that bloody thing.

insult to injury was that I had just had genuinely the worst six months of my life. My best friend moved in with me and my boyfriend, had a breakdown and said some really evil shit to me, and then, once I kicked her out, partner and I couldn’t pay the rent. So… we both had to move back to our parents hours apart. I was so fucking gutted. And my car literally broke down with all of my belongings in the back, as I was mid move out to my folks’ two hours away. So, sobbing behind the wheel of quite genuinely felt like the last familiar thing I had left in my life… I felt actual grief.

my dad, bless him, found the money to help me buy another car. But I remember just crying and saying “I’m not sad that my car is gone. I’m sad that [name] is gone. Nothing can replace her”.

id gone car camping, worked as a delivery driver, driven to other holidays, all in my beloved car. Beach days so often there was sand all in it. I got all my confidence from driving it. So when it went… I felt trapped at my folks’ house. Away from my old life. Just so gutted.

I eventually (six months later) got a Mini Cooper 3 door. Very different to my old tank of a car, but at the time I knew I couldn’t stomach going like- for-like. Especially with upkeep costs of a diesel Land Rover. only thing that made me feel better is my partner had promised that one day, when we have the money, we’ll buy me the same model and do it up together so I get to have my lovely old banger back. Upgrade the engine and all sorts.

I do feel a pang of sadness when I think about how my og car is gone forever but i love my new car an awful lot.

I remember that thread. It was the most ludicrous idea I have seen for ages.

I said I didn't have any problem with friends' siblings coming along to my son's softplay birthday party. The parents always pay for siblings and it's no big deal at all.

This means I am raising my son to think he is entitled to be anywhere he wants to and he will likely become a sexual predator.

Years ago I posted asking how people balanced working with having a child with SEN and not being able to access suitable wraparound care.

I got a mini pile-on from posters telling me they all had to give up work completely to support their children with SEN through the school years and I must think I was better than all of them for not wanting to do that too😮