What’s the strangest reason someone has got cross with you on MN?

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When I was new to MN I used a way of phrasing something that is very common in my local dialect. To the point that I still can’t figure out what was wrong with how I phrased it. However rather than answering my thread there was just a pile on about my typing.

Another time someone became very angry that I said I worked at a school with a farm. I did at the time. But they were so angry that I might have “outed” my self. I’ve never put anything on here that I would be embarrassed people in my life finding out so I don’t know why they were so worried for me!

its hard to sympathise with people earning 6 figures complaining that money is tight and they can't afford to go on holiday (because they live in an expensive house / send kids to inde schools/ drive 3 cars or whatever) - when other parents are having to go hungry to feed their kids and are having to save the pennies to pay for new shoes.

Here we go.

@FlowerStickerproving a point beautifully. Wasn't referring to those posts. When people come and ask for advice, on pensions, mortgage, savings etc. it always derails into angry judgment over practical help. Yes. Some people are more fortunate. Doesn't mean they can't ask for information and advice.

Actually this is true of many threads about skiing. When someone starts one they often end up caveating it so much (this is our only holiday / we fit 12 people into a tiny French 4 person apartment / I sold all my shoes to afford it) that the main point gets lost.

There was a thread about ski resorts people have enjoyed going during the first lockdown. It was in the “Skiing” section, under travel so you had to actively seek it out. There were still a bunch of people who came onto the thread to tell everyone that they were responsible for coronavirus and even discussing going skiing (without actually doing so - because it wasn’t possible) was a terribly irresponsible thing to do.

The post about saving for kids reminded me of the thread where a mum wanted to buy her student daughter a rucksack and was asking for recommendations.

There were so many posts telling her she was smothering her daughter and surely her daughter could buy her own rucksack etc.

Rather than giving her recommendations for something useful that she could by for her dd.

It's a fair point though isn't it? it's completely different struggling to pay bills and buy food as opposed to having to go on a cheaper holiday or cancel one of your child's hobbies as you can no longer afford it.

The thing that gets me isn't on MN so much but all the whining in my local FB group about parking charges by people who are paying £££s a month to lease expensive SUVs but can't afford £2 in a car park. Along with the people who apparently can't afford two car seats and constantly switch them between the said leased SUVs.

I am a Welsh speaker and wrote something in Welsh (it was relevant to the thread). Someone then decided to start piling on because I don’t speak precisely the same dialect as they do and that must mean I was lying about being a Welsh speaker.

Still think she was a dickhead

Just explaining why people might get shot down 🤷‍♀️

Agreed.

Someone had a problem because I wanted to make a special afternoon tea for my husband for father's day. Apparently I shouldn't need an excuse! 😆

This one was in RL rather than MN but DH had had sole care of baby DS for 10 days becuase I'd had to travel for work. It was not particularly onerous work travel and I'd had plenty of time in evenings to chill, meet people for dinner etc as well as an entire weekend during that time to myself.

I mentioned, in passing to a newish friend I'd met through having a baby, that when I got back I would be insisting DH go off and do something or disappear upstairs for a nap, not least because DS was a truly awful sleeper so I knew DH would have had a tough time of it.

She went completely ballistic. "So typical, a man looks after his child and you are suddenly treating him like he's done some incredible thing and women have to do this all the time without help....blah blah blah."

I unpacked after, with the help of a mutual friend, that her DH was a total prick who didn't help at home and regularly disappeared on work or social trips leaving her to do it all. But her response was so OTT and aggressive and she was SOOOOO angry with me. It soured the friendship and it wasn't long after that we totally driffted apart.

Yes, it is definitely a fair point. But not what I meant or was referring to. Poverty and the middle income pinch are not comparable issues in the slight. But I think they are relative issues to each person's experience. But it doesn't feel like there is space here for those with even the slight fortune (like the rucksack thread you mentioned) to say a lot before someone comes along to judge them or shout them down. Pensions threads are bloody awful. Given women are so under pensioned and not as financially lucrative as men, and this space has helped me so much, it's slightly barmy you can't aim for better without being shouted down because of others misfortune. The same way when people encourage maintaining financial independence (for good reason) get accused of being anti SAHM Things just gets taken too far on any threads vaguely relating to money! They are the maddest derails is see here 😂

Friends husband had work trips six weeks long leaving her with three children. She'd plan a long weekend abroad with her sister and mum to Europe when he got back. It worked very well for both of them.

Being on benefits and having Netflix. That gets some people in an absolute rage. It is £6pm.

Staffies can be amazing - my parents had one that was soppy as anything, but if he perceived a threat to a family member he was on guard immediately.

Ds's dog (different dog) has just proved you right (we've got him for the week)

Sappy and lazy-hes spent the day asleep on the sofa,snoring like a steam train and 'running' in his sleep

Dp came in (was just out of sight) and he was there,growling,barking and making it clear nobody was coming in on his patch

Dp walked in,and this growling ball of teeth and fur turned into a cuddle monster and demanded his fuss

If that has been someone breaking in,God help them-no thought to his own safety,hes protecting his people and his patch

I love both dogs to bits-as humans we dont deserve them,ive yet to meet a human thats as loyal as a dog

He's not even mine and he protects me

But you can back to AMA yesterday and started another thread about being a business coach, and then when you didn’t get the questions you liked @Happyfeet234 yoi flounced in a huff

I’ve been told I’m lying about my job (perfectly boring job if I was going to
lie I would pick a far more glamorous one!)

Well there's no difference in material but one outfit implies bedtime attire so I'd be too embarrassed myself to wear that in public (although have been known to drop the kids off at school in my PJ's - but would never leave the car! God forbid I broke down 😱😂

On a discussion about pebbles being taken from the beach (picked up by young children) and how this was damaging the coast line I posted how great MN is as the thread was hilarious as the drama was off the scale

I got told off 😆

still makes me chuckle years later

There was a relatively recent one about that. The bullshit competitive ‘care’ for the environment was risible.

Oh! I wrote this down years ago so I wouldn't forget.
I asked for advice re losing a friend when she took up with an unpleasant, narcissistic (imho) guy - the sort of guy there are literally THOUSANDS of threads about on MN - and the responses included (bullet point overload klaxon):

• You're wrong
• You don't understand narcissism
• You're angry
• You're possessive
• Are you sure she's a real friend?
• You're letting your friend down
• It's your fault for not calling out his behaviour
• It's your fault they're together
• You're being rude
• You're unqualified to judge him
• You love drama
• You don't have a problem
• Butt out
• He might be a nice fun guy
• Your nose is out of joint bc no-one called when you were ill (gleaned from another thread)
• Stop banging on about Narcs, I'm bored of them
• Stop slagging off her bf
• You're the narcissist
• You're dismissive
• You're pathetically jealous
• You flounced
• I doubt your friend gives a hoot

Tbf there were more sympathetic responses but I really got it in the neck.

Yes that one was very funny too 😁it didn't quite reach the heights of drama of the original

Years back I said Lundy Bancrofts book 'why does he do that?' wasn't very well referenced and a poster said it was people like me who murder 2 women a week in the UK.

There was a post once about the OP saying her new in-laws put butter on crackers before cheese and she'd apparently not experienced this extreme phenomenon in all her life and was so troubled by it she made a MN thread, so I replied I thought that was pretty normal and really not something to be surprised by and the OP went off on me about how she'd eaten cheese across continents and cheese boards in 5 starred restaurants and had NEVER seen it so I must be lying.

Another poster who went off on me when I spoke about putting cash in a card for an adult birthday present. Apparently she'd never heard of such a thing as no-one puts cash in cards for anyone over the age of 16 and it was lazy and offensive.

I can’t even remember the topic of the thread, but I replied to someone about something she’d said and I said I disagreed and explained why. She lost the plot, called me ‘cheeky’ for talking to her, and said I had no right to do so. So i pointed out that she’d started a thread asking for opinions, and if she didn’t want those, perhaps a blog would suit her better, and I suggested she disable comments on her blog if she didn’t want to encounter others opinions. That triggered further abuse!