What’s the strangest reason someone has got cross with you on MN?

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When I was new to MN I used a way of phrasing something that is very common in my local dialect. To the point that I still can’t figure out what was wrong with how I phrased it. However rather than answering my thread there was just a pile on about my typing.

Another time someone became very angry that I said I worked at a school with a farm. I did at the time. But they were so angry that I might have “outed” my self. I’ve never put anything on here that I would be embarrassed people in my life finding out so I don’t know why they were so worried for me!

I do think there are threads where people want to discuss something with like minded people rather than have a debate and I don’t think that’s a problem.

Eg there’s nothing wrong with there being a thread in royal family that is supportive of Meghan or Catherine that doesn’t need people who hate them jumping on and causing a bunfight.

I'm amused at the thought of people being apoplectic about jam.

For expecting my landlady to do her job regarding a flea infestation. I'd taken great pains to explain I lived in a house share/HMO in my OP, and that the only room I was responsible for was my bedroom. I still got a pile on. I ended up moving out to get away from the fleas and the drug dealing!

You confirm my point

It is wrong, though. Men don't belong in women's spaces.

I think as someone said earlier some posts are about mutual understanding and sharing and they don’t want a debate . I think it was a case of misreading the room.

I don't know why you assumed you wouldn't get pushback or why you class it as a "strange reason" to get it. You are totally entitled to say that women don't have a right to single sex toilets, changing rooms, prisons, rape crisis services and sports and you are totally entitled to campaign for additional third spaces for "sharing" if that's what you want provided (I am sure you are putting lots and lots of energy into that, since you obviously think it is essential). You won't be deleted for saying it. It's allowed.

However, there is nothing strange or inexplicable about women disagreeing with you robustly, or arguing that as a position, it doesn't actually advocate sharing or mutual understanding at all, since it denies a suitable service for a great many women (most, actually) and involves removing and restricting options rather than adding and expanding them.

It's actually far stranger that you think it belongs in a class of posters who attack people for giving drinks to delivery men or suggesting fish, blood and bone instead of menstrual blood in the garden.

"women disagreeing with you robustly"

Robustly? LOL. Ripped to shreds more like. I've been a feminist since the late 1970's and as far as I'm concerned, my opinion is as valid as anyone else's. But will I ever join in a thread on a feminist topic on here? Not bloody likely. 😂

You don't have to.

However, the case for single sex spaces is not a strange position to hold and I think there's something dishonest about trying to include it in a thread like this alongside actually nutty stuff.

I wasn't commenting on single sex spaces. I was supporting the right for a woman to post her opinion on a thread without being attacked for it. That's what feminism is all about. Allowing women to voice their opinions, which won't necessarily agree with others. That is, quite literally, what feminism stands for. Fighting for the rights of women to have an independent voice without having that voice quashed by other people who disagree with it. If some of the people disagreeing with her also happen to be women, so be it.🙂

Back to the thread...

Someone on here got cross at me the other day because I mentioned Gransnet 😬

No, stout was given to help specifically with breastfeeding. Apparently there’s some evidence that stuff in barley and hops might help but you can get that from other plants. Also alcohol just helps people relax.

And years ago someone got angry with me because I shared a list of 20 Christmassy things to do with children that were free or frugal.

The poster mocked me because I was poor and called me names. Thankfully Mumsnet stepped in and removed the horrid posts.

After that incident, I didn't post anywhere online for a few years.

Did they tell you that you were being ageist?!😂

@YouPromisedToStopPosting - I hear you on this one! I commented once about our local Aldi, which genuinely is awful, and two posters in particular were inexplicably furious about my comments. Like you, I bowed out of the thread, but these two posters hunted down every comment I made on Mumsnet for quite a while after that, and commented negatively on them. Mumsnet can be amazing, but there are definitely some odd posters too!

No thank goodness 🤣

I remember you. The lawyers I work for love their bullet points!

And there's a whole area of Mumsnet to discuss it in. It's irritating when people insist on hijacking unrelated threads in other areas of MN.

If people broke talk guidelines then they should be reported. That's a separate issue. I actually don't find the FWR boards to be abusive or awful at all; AIBU is far worse. Honestly, I think a huge part of the issue there is that a lot of people go on there to discuss SSSs, thinking that they will be the ones to destroy the case for them and defeat all the GC posters on there and, needless to say, they never do.

However, that poster was citing women who support single sex spaces on a thread about strange and inexplicable things for people to get worked up about. As if it's as weird as getting angry over feeding children fruit or giving delivery men cans of drink. It obviously isn't and I think it's dishonest to try to group them together like that. Still, as far as I can see, nobody has been abusive to that poster for saying it.

As you wanted to go back to the thread, I'm sure you'll be happy to leave it there.

I posted on one of the Covid threads about how the lockdown was being dealt with in France (we lived there at the time). I was told that as I was not paying tax in the UK, I had “no right” to be
posting on MN.

That's hilarious 😂

people lost their minds during lockdown

@HRTQueen yes, I thought it was hilarious too. I was simply giving a different perspective as some of the “rules” in France were pretty draconian compared to the UK.

Not liking the Barbie film

It was absolute chaos ! 😂

It was, and the cheese in coffee comment, if true (I never saw it) was bonkers. At the same time, I think it's easy to forget now just how scary it was at the time. We really didn't know much about it, didn't know what we were facing, and it was frightening.