What’s the strangest reason someone has got cross with you on MN?

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When I was new to MN I used a way of phrasing something that is very common in my local dialect. To the point that I still can’t figure out what was wrong with how I phrased it. However rather than answering my thread there was just a pile on about my typing.

Another time someone became very angry that I said I worked at a school with a farm. I did at the time. But they were so angry that I might have “outed” my self. I’ve never put anything on here that I would be embarrassed people in my life finding out so I don’t know why they were so worried for me!

We've a member of the family who's Hindi and a great cook. She's given me tips food wise. Another is Chinese again a wonderful cook has given me tips on cooking.

I've learnt so much over decades of their culture too. I wouldn't discuss it on here though. It's really not worth it.

I referred to menstruation in, what I was taught was a polite and ladylike way, and people would just not shut up about it. Started calling me names, taking the mick, ganged up on me etc all because I didn't refer to it in their preferred way.

It was vastly enlightening to me, regarding "feminism", and not in a good way.

What on earth were you supposed to call it?

Apparently, I had to call it a period. No exceptions. There was a TV sitcom where an older lady referred to her period in a certain way, and I used that phrase because I thought it was cute, and you would have thought I sacrificed a child into a volcano. It was absurd.

I just remembered another one. I said, on a thread where women were being sneered at for saying they found smears painful, that this is indeed the case for some of us (I'm one of them) through no fault of their own, and that the maxim of 'have your smear, it's very important' should be extended to say that some women do find it painful and to tell whoever is performing the smear as there are techniques that can help.

One person really kicked off at me saying they hoped I was proud of myself for scaring women out of having their smears, what good could it possibly do to frighten people and she hoped I was pleased with myself because now young women would be put off having their first smears, and what if a mum died and her kids were left orphans because of what I said? (I promise I'm not exaggerating here.) The whole thing peppered with exclamation marks and yet somehow I was being accused of hyperbole by saying smears can hurt. Appeared to completely miss the point that going for one's smear, being honest about any pain and getting help with it would be far more likely to lower the rate of deaths from cervical cancer than raise it.

People got very annoyed with me once because I wanted some ideas to pad out my daughter’s Christmas presents. We had got her a “big ticket item” and as she is an only child, it was going to look a bit sad under the tree. We had enough money to buy some extras, and I asked for ideas for a couple of low-budget but fairly large presents that would make it all look a bit more exciting. I wasn’t looking for completely wasteful ideas, was very happy to receive some
good advice about food items, toiletries that would all go to good use, craft ideas that would definitely get done. I got berated for giving for the sake of giving, told it was insane and one poster even said it was “pretty disgusting”.

Interestingly, in the same post I said that because my husband and I were treating ourselves to a weekend away instead of a present, we didn’t have anything for each other under the tree. I was told that gave the wrong message to our child, and that we ought to buy each other a couple of gifts so it could demonstrate that it’s not all about the child receiving gifts at Christmas 🤷🏼‍♀️ Bonkers.

I once had a whole bunch of people come down on me like a ton of bricks for daring to suggest that perhaps the train company could have provided a service with the normal 8 or 12 carriages on a particular Saturday lunchtime, instead of one with only 4. Especially since Arsenal were playing at home that afternoon, and the train was bursting at the seams (dangerously so) with supporters on the way to the match (fyi - the main railway line stopping at Finsbury Park, the closest station to the Emirates Stadium). I have never known a train so packed full as it was that day.

It was my own stupid fault for getting on at all appparently, and when I tried to explain that I was visiting a family member in London who'd been suddenly taken ill, I was then accused of making the whole thing up.

I once described myself as dark blonde. I was told that no, sorry, I was not blonde, I had brown hair. I had not put a photo up so no idea why this person was so vehement.

The whole smear test thing just bemuses me. Firstly how does it affect you if someone doesn't go.

And not going does not mean you will get cancer. It does mean that if you get cancer you will not spot it as quickly (or beforehand when dodgy cell changes start happening). That is not the same, and cancer is not an inevitability. But MNers act as if it is.

Anyway there's a much easier option now - get a home HPV test. If it's positive then you can decide whether to go for the NHS one. But if it's not, you can forget it for a while (I now have a HPV test every year privately).

Oh I know, fancy thinking that rail companies should try to accommodate events?

They do when they want to like for Ascot.

You might be right - maybe I was successfully taken in by that one!

I got absolutely blasted and accused of having ‘weird Victorian morality’ for laying out the possible drawbacks to giving up work to be a SAHM when not married to the father of the children (with all the assets ‘coincidentally’ in his name and no other source of income).

Apparently disapproving of pre-marital sex is the only possible reason for thinking this was a bad idea. It came out in subsequent posts he’d already given a spurious reason why she couldn’t be on the title of the house that she was paying half the mortgage for and was clearly financially abusive. But nope, Victorian morality was the only possible reason I might think becoming financially dependent on such a charmer should be avoided.

The same thread had multiple people piling in to confidently tell the OP about her ‘common law rights’ (which don’t exist in England & Wales).

I think I remember they thread was it many many many years ago!!

I once said that unless she was independently financially secure, a woman shouldn't give up her job to become a SAHM without the protection of marriage. Some freak started following me on to other threads, including completely unrelated ones, and telling everyone that I had said women should only have relationships with very rich men.

I was accused of using AI too, because I made a recommendation of a particular company that's I had genuinely used. Apparently a real person would not be that complimentary so I must be ai 😓

My morals were questioned for the crime of wearing nineties club gear - to go clubbing in the nineties.

To be fair, that stuff was indeed criminal.

I said I found a name old fashioned and they were absolutely furious because it was very modern apparently. They gave examples of ‘modern’ celebs with the name and were even more incensed that I had no idea who they were (they were born something like 50 years before I was!)