What’s the strangest reason someone has got cross with you on MN?

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When I was new to MN I used a way of phrasing something that is very common in my local dialect. To the point that I still can’t figure out what was wrong with how I phrased it. However rather than answering my thread there was just a pile on about my typing.

Another time someone became very angry that I said I worked at a school with a farm. I did at the time. But they were so angry that I might have “outed” my self. I’ve never put anything on here that I would be embarrassed people in my life finding out so I don’t know why they were so worried for me!

Ive no idea, I never read any replies to my comments.. I feel its safer that way, also the one time I thought about posting on MN for relationship advice I thought, what would MN say about this situation, realised Id be mortified to even say out loud what Id been putting up with and immediatly dumped them.
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But the drivers on that thread can be equally crazy - accusing all non drivers of using their friends who are drivers, being infantile and how they couldn’t respect someone who can’t drive etc etc

there was a dog thread recently where someone complained about a dog weeing on her bin. 90% of dog owner posts said they agreed and didn’t let their dogs yet the anti dog brigade were clearly reading different replies and went on and on about how selfish dog owners are

For allowing my child free access to the fruit bowl. Apparently this is extremely awful parenting.

@whyyyyyisitmonddayy
I don't know if you have read the Strike and Ellacott books by Robert Galbraith but in the recent one something similar happens. It was really sad.

No one else in my household reads them, if they did I would have wailed aloud "oh no, now Robin's land rover had died!!"

Oh yes, I've seen a few threads where suggesting your child snacks on fruit is portrayed as akin to letting them mainline cocaine after school. Or, at the very least, smearing syrup on their teeth to sit in their mouth while they sleep / feeding them deep fried jam donuts 6 times a day until they're so large they can't walk.

And the vitriol when it happens is always so weird.

I got told off for not using capital letters once. Apparently its the beginning of the end of civilisation or something.

I have never intentionally used capitals since. If autocorrect doesnt do it for me, it doesnt get done. I never click the up arrow.

The ' has become a casualty of war as you can see.

Reading that back, I sound unhinged in my pettiness 🤣

Yes, i saw that. That was ridiculously funny.

There are a lot of people with disordered eating in this site and they project their issues aggressively

There was someone once who called peas "sugar bombs".

Are carrots 'death bayonets'?!

One person refused point blank to believe the existence of a public footpath near my house, which I'd happened to mention in a thread about something else entirely. Called me a troll and everything. Weird or what?😁

Probably.

There was someone the other week who claimed to physically gag every time someone in line-dried clothes walked past her, and then lost her mind at everyone who said she obviously didn't.

The most baffling ones to me are when someone writes a post about the most bog standard situation that happens commonly, such as “lightly scuffed against a parked car this morning, left a note with my number on and have called my insurer, is there anything else I need to do”

and there will a response within the first 5 comments telling them they should be disgusted with themselves, have committed a serious criminal offence, need to hand themselves into the police, that they should’ve knocked on every door within a 10 mile radius to find the driver and begged on their hands and knees for forgiveness and that they should calling the DVLA to arrange voluntary surrender of their licence.

Hard agree on the Beatles. Far rather listen to The Who or The stones.

Butternut clubs?

Food, especially children’s food, is a prime area for unpleasant, accusatory posts. Again, I think it’s to do with insecurity: the aggressive, scaremongering food posts are by posters who are terrified of being thought A BAD MUM, and who go full bonkers on here about their kids’ ‘healthy’ diets.

I doubt much of what they say about policing what their children eat is true, frankly.

I got my arse handed to me on a thread when I mentioned taking my 11 year old DD to the gym with me early one Saturday morning. She had breakfast in the gym restaurant and then played Padel with another child while I did my class. I was told Social Services would intervene and remove her if they ever found out because it was child abuse to wake a child up early on the weekend when they need their sleep. Several people mentioned it was the height of selfishness to exercise on the weekend when you have DC. Another poster speculated that she could easily have been kidnapped from the indoor Padel Court. When I mentioned she was with another child and an instructor I was berated for being naive, the instructor could be the kidnapper or a sex abuser.

I am not entirely certain about the fear of being seen as "bad mum". I've met a few of these types in real life. They exist in their own slightly odd bubble. There was one on the PTA at DD's primary who was known to try to cancel cake sales in favour of selling fresh fruit and who used to send batshit whatsapp messages to the class group begging parents to upgrade their children's lunch boxes.

She was more like a cultist than someone worried about being seen as a bad mum. she was laughed at quite often but just kept plowing on like she was trying to save the world, one children's cupcake at a time.

Needless to say, we never warmed to each other. My Ds was quite notably overweight in primary school and mostly I just felt judged by her all the time. But she also HUGELY disapproves of children being allowed to roam free and I got a very unpleasant message from her once because I was allowing Ds and his BFF to go to the park on their own and she saw them.

DS is now very tall, very athletic, very slim - I secretly hope she sees him out and about sometimes just to prove she was wrong about us!

I've got the same problem, could you tell me the name of it please ?

Off topic but can you share your secret with us? I'd love it if my kids were so useful! It could only get better if one was also a part time hairdresser!

Yes my 81 yr old mother lives on state pension, despite working full time all her life, since she was 15! In her case it’s a long story as to why no private pension but the last job she had, they initially employed her as a long term agency worker (they weren’t employing staff directly then) then eventually took her on. Then 2 bloody weeks before she would’ve been entitled to a company pension, they retired her! All before pension laws changed of course. She’s not entitled to pension credit either which infuriates me!

I use PlantMe

I once posted how I was a nursery nurse in a reception class, I got told I wasn’t as they only use TAs. I’m now a SAHM and often get told off in here for it!

A bunch of us got berated on a thread about what we were buying our dogs for Christmas because apparently it’s ridiculous to buy a small gift for a sentient being you share your home with.

There was a poster who has appeared on more than one thread who gets really, really angry about anyone who buys drinks in coffee shops and accuses them of stupidly wasting money on something that isn't very good when she makes a good quality espresso coffee with a pot on the stove. If people say 'OK, but I don't actually want a good quality espresso - I'm not a coffee connoisseur so to me, a toffee hazelnut latte with whipped cream and chocolate sprinkles is a huge treat, so I'm happy to spend money on it' she just gets increasingly enraged and says 'No, you're wasting your money on horrible sickly shite, you're an idiot'.