What’s the strangest reason someone has got cross with you on MN?

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When I was new to MN I used a way of phrasing something that is very common in my local dialect. To the point that I still can’t figure out what was wrong with how I phrased it. However rather than answering my thread there was just a pile on about my typing.

Another time someone became very angry that I said I worked at a school with a farm. I did at the time. But they were so angry that I might have “outed” my self. I’ve never put anything on here that I would be embarrassed people in my life finding out so I don’t know why they were so worried for me!

I’m with you. They were crap.

Because I was male.

Which, I get it. Men on Mumsnet are a contentious topic, and there are certain sections of the site or topics of conversation that I avoid as a result.

But this was a thread about Buffy the Vampire Slayer, on the Telly Addicts board!

I don't know why I post on S&B threads as I have no interest but occasionally he title draws me in.

1. On an "Is this dress suitable for a wedding" thread about the OP's young adult DD. The dress was lovely but clearly far too tight. I posted something like "It's lovely but needs a size up" and got hammered for "body shaming", "it's no wonder young women get EDs", "she has a lovely figure" etc. She did have a lovely figure and she could well have been a size 8 but needed a 10 in that dress.

2. A S&B thread about an actress's jumper. She'd appeared on a programme with her dog which looked like a chihuahua x pug, it was not a bonny dog. I and a couple of other posters commented on the dogs looks and one particular poster got really offended on the dog's behalf. How would we like it if we went on national telly and people criticised our looks? How the dog was beautiful on the inside while I was horrible and ugly at heart etc.

The dog can't read and only other person likely to be offended by the comments was the actress herself and I'm sure she's not going to be reading them out to the dog like a bad review.

I once got sternly told off for referring to "Catherine, Princess of Middleton".

"That's not her real title!!!"

Ok

(and the Beatles are overrated)

I posted about the tat my mil keeps trying to foist on us. We have limited storage and work long hours so charity shop trips etc are a pain in the arse. I’d rather she kept her money. Also if she has a clear out she tries to offload utter shit into us that she doesn’t need/want. When I moved in with DH there was a hold-all in his cupboard full of China she wanted to keep but had no space for (when he asked he what she wanted done with it when we were moving she forgot about it and suggested we store it at our new house for her….)

One poster said I should treasure it all as one day she won’t be here. Aye that scabby Pom Pom. Made into a Christmas tree decoration that she won in a church raffle will hold previous memories.

No matter how much I explained we won’t miss it at all we would miss her we work a lot and live in a small village so need to special trips to charity shops for the salvageable stuff etc and don’t have space for actual shite she kept banging on about how we would miss it. I offered to bring the bottle with fairy lights inside to her house!

I think it's often the racists themselves who like to 'fill in the racist gaps' in their own mind to turn things around a and frame perfectly neutral non-racist statements as though they are hateful. They're on high-alert because they know the nastiness that they themselves have bubbling under the surface.

Like the PP in this thread commenting on her Barbadian family member's delicious Barbadian cooking and then the cogs churn inside these people's minds:

1. She's from Barbados, so the likelihood is that she's black - I will bank that;
2. I have a real hang-up with black people in general, as I am a racist;
3. I don't like to admit that I am a racist, as I know that it's 'frowned upon' for some bizarre reason;
4. Therefore I will pre-emptively deflect any potential criticism of me on to somebody else who has spoken fondly of her loved family member and her wonderful cooking skills from her traditional heritage and randomly accuse her of being racist.

Any time I say I think grey hair ages a person someone on MN is furious with me.

Ooh, I think I must have fallen foul of that same poster on a music thread years ago. I can't remember what it was all about exactly - it may have been 'hugely popular bands and artists that you personally don't really like' or similar.

I commented that I didn't really think that much of PM's music - I may also have expressed an opinion that The Beatles, whilst clearly talented, happened to be in the right place at the right time and ended up as these global eternal megastars when other artists from the time, whom I thought were much better, flew largely under the radar and were seriously underrated. All just my own personal feelings - not declared as objective fact!!

I hardly think that Paul cries himself to sleep every night, because some of us aren't particular fans of his, desperately worrying about how he will be able to pay his electricity bill!!

I did once get angrily told my mind would be blown by Scotland exam system being complete different - which I knew but the discussion was about GCSE exams which Scotland doesn't have.

My crime was to mention Welsh GCSE were different to English and in Northen Ireland they sat a mix of English and N.I board GCSE which are different again. In context of the discussion on GCSE qualification it was relevant.

Not including Scotland's Nat 5 was taken to mean I had no idea they existed rather than I did and knew weren't called GCSE so not relevant to dicussion and when I pointed that out I was being racist to the Scots.

I love the inveterate haters of a whole half of humanity, for whom the most cutting, upsetting insult they could possibly think of is to 'accuse' somebody of being one of them!

Some of them are effectively incels in reverse, assuming that everybody else must also automatically view the entirety of the male half of the world as obviously useless, vile and unquestionably an object of righteous hatred... and if anybody dares to disagree, well, they're clearly one of them, aren't they?!

Talking about celebrities with possible 'work done' ,
I mentioned one who had a jawline of a much younger woman (than the rest of us middle-agers)

One woman took it very personally and crossly told me that her own jawline showed absolutely no sign of ageing "Thank you very much!" 😂

I was tempted to ask for a photo for my unbiased judgement 😶‍🌫️

I was told off for saying Lol once too! It was in a reply about the positives of sending toddlers to nursery so a double whammy of mumsnet rage

I remember that one!!!

Sigh. Happy Days. (With a side order of some people are nuts).

There are two appalling things that male posters do on here...

1. Mentioning that they are male, which is mansplaining and patronising, when it's completely irrelevant that they are male;
2. NOT mentioning that they are male, as this 'pretending to be female' - and thus is mansplaining and patronising, because it's completely relevant that they are male and everybody should be made aware of this and warned in advance.

And all when discussing last night's TV, asking for local insider information when considering moving to Widnes, discussing dog food or gardening or grumbling about Tesco Clubcard deals!

For caring about my dog. It seems to be a massive issue for a lot of mumsnetters!

I posted about speeding drivers - my thread ended up full of frothers accusing me of being a bad/slow/angry driver. Madness.

I remember that one too. A perfect example of somebody looking to project and construct their own entire narrative, and then blame the PP for that! Then, when called out on it, claiming that what PP wrote was extremely ambiguous, when every other poster who read it could clearly understand it - by reading the actual words that had been used in the post!

Oh that reminds me on a cashless society post I said I had £50 in my purse for 4 months as I mostly just take my phone when I go out so it’s fine for me. Someone accused me of showing off that I have money…it was my Christmas money and it was £50 not exactly a fortune.

The threads about non drivers always bring out defensive loonballs. It's as if because they don't drive, they're saving the planet, and drivers are condemning Earth to an apocalyptic hell future.

I had done the same course as another poster, she was adamant that I was lying when I quoted something my instructor had shared, so because hers hadn't, clearly I was just making it up 😐

Even more odd when the person you are talking about is white.

As someone from Africa, I wouldn't call you racist for this but it would make me roll my eyes. There's a massive difference between countries across the African continent.

I don't drive because I kept on failing tests so I gave up ! I do get accused of always wanting a lift on threads about non drivers so it is a fllp flop scenario 😀

I was ripped to shreds because I didn’t want to continue living in Australia. By two posters who were absolute strangers to me who seemed to think I should be thrilled and indeed grateful and that they were happy there so it was unfathomable that I was not.

I’ve spotted posts from both of them over the years and I must be a proper cow because it greatly cheered me that things did not end well for either of them in their utopia.

Oh I think I've met this one too! Mentioned that if I'm wearing leggings under a dress in winter then I don't bother with knickers (bum gets too hot) and she was after me about discharge until I gave up and stopped watching the thread so I could ignore her.