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ClassicStripe · 2026-05-29T06:12:44+00:00

When I was new to MN I used a way of phrasing something that is very common in my local dialect. To the point that I still can’t figure out what was wrong with how I phrased it. However rather than answering my thread there was just a pile on about my typing. Another time someone became very angry that I said I worked at a school with a farm. I did at the time. But they were so angry that I might have “outed” my self. I’ve never put anything on here that I would be embarrassed people in my life finding out so I don’t know why they were so worried for me!

FunMustard · 29/05/2026 14:53

For saying that I had assumed that posting on the "Am I being unreasonable?" board meant that a question was being asked, and not just that a statement was being made.

There was other shit, but like happens so often, a few people thought that was terribly, terribly amusing. The thread wasn't even that interesting so I just abandoned it.

Lomonald · 29/05/2026 15:00

Eastie77Returns · 29/05/2026 14:34

I got my arse handed to me on a thread when I mentioned taking my 11 year old DD to the gym with me early one Saturday morning. She had breakfast in the gym restaurant and then played Padel with another child while I did my class. I was told Social Services would intervene and remove her if they ever found out because it was child abuse to wake a child up early on the weekend when they need their sleep. Several people mentioned it was the height of selfishness to exercise on the weekend when you have DC. Another poster speculated that she could easily have been kidnapped from the indoor Padel Court. When I mentioned she was with another child and an instructor I was berated for being naive, the instructor could be the kidnapper or a sex abuser.

I saw this ! I was on that thread in a previous name was absolutely bonkers.

Stardancerintheskye · 29/05/2026 15:05

BauhausOfEliott · 29/05/2026 14:48

There was a poster who has appeared on more than one thread who gets really, really angry about anyone who buys drinks in coffee shops and accuses them of stupidly wasting money on something that isn't very good when she makes a good quality espresso coffee with a pot on the stove. If people say 'OK, but I don't actually want a good quality espresso - I'm not a coffee connoisseur so to me, a toffee hazelnut latte with whipped cream and chocolate sprinkles is a huge treat, so I'm happy to spend money on it' she just gets increasingly enraged and says 'No, you're wasting your money on horrible sickly shite, you're an idiot'.

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I think I've been 'bitten' by her on here

She (or could been someone else to be fair) almost had a meltdown when I admitted to buying a meal deal for my lunch at work (im a shift worker)

I should give up that habit immediately and make my own at home-much cheaper and less hassle apparently

The fact I dont like homemade sandwiches,i budget for my meal deals and earn my own money and can spend it on anything I like,seemed to go 'whoosh' over her head-I had to stop buying meal deals on her say-so

I think this poster would have melted if id admitted to buying a cherry coke as my drink and mini chedders as my snack!

I do buy salads as my main!

HauntingBillCrouse · 29/05/2026 15:28

I'm on benefits. That's enough for some people. Anyway, when my mum died she had enough in her bank account to pay for her funeral, and about £500 left after that that I booked a cheap caravan holiday at the place my mum took me to as a child, so I could scatter her ashes.

Apparently going on holiday when on benefits is disgusting. Someone was very cross at me for having such a luxury, even if it was only possible because my mum had died.

Dorothyperky · 29/05/2026 15:46

@JuvenileBigfoot
That is so funny.

ruethewhirl · 29/05/2026 15:48

lonelyplanetmum · 29/05/2026 08:23

I’ve been told off by another poster and then reported and deleted for using AI ….when I didn’t! Apparently it was my use of bullet points that gave me away.
I used to like bullet points:
• used them a lot in my job for years
• But apparently they signify AI use now!!!

I saw that! Even more depressing is people being accused of being ChatGPT simply because their post is... well written. 🙄

To be clear, I don't doubt some are using ChatGPT, but the blanket assumptions are just so depressing.

ruethewhirl · 29/05/2026 15:52

Aliflowers · 29/05/2026 11:26

Someone got immensely annoyed at me on a Christmas thread because I said I thought bread sauce was rank. Like took it to the heart like a knife like I was personally insulting her bread sauce. Kept telling me I was wrong and her bread sauce was delicious.

All bread sauce is rank. Fact. 😄

I've just remembered I really seemed to upset a few people last Christmas by stating that I, personally, don't like starters at Christmas dinner, each to their own but I'd rather have more room for the turkey/trimmings. Apparently that meant I didn't know civilised dining and just wanted to 'stuff myself' on turkey and roasties. 🙄

Dollymylove · 29/05/2026 15:55

anothernewname6789998212 · 29/05/2026 14:18

The most baffling ones to me are when someone writes a post about the most bog standard situation that happens commonly, such as “lightly scuffed against a parked car this morning, left a note with my number on and have called my insurer, is there anything else I need to do”

and there will a response within the first 5 comments telling them they should be disgusted with themselves, have committed a serious criminal offence, need to hand themselves into the police, that they should’ve knocked on every door within a 10 mile radius to find the driver and begged on their hands and knees for forgiveness and that they should calling the DVLA to arrange voluntary surrender of their licence.

Its a good job mumsnet wasnt around back in the days when I did a hit and run on a parked taxi's wing mirror. Quick glance to check the taxi was unoccupied and I roared off like Jensen Button. Yes I know I should be serving life now but hell, there was no proof I did anything wrong 😉

BashfulClam · 29/05/2026 16:02

Iwanttobeafraser · 29/05/2026 13:38

As someone from Africa, I wouldn't call you racist for this but it would make me roll my eyes. There's a massive difference between countries across the African continent.

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He told me he was African, he didn’t tell me which country.

BashfulClam · 29/05/2026 16:04

Don’t mention you dint have a bathroom bin…oh my god you are forcing people to walk through your home with dripping sanitary items.

Dorothyperky · 29/05/2026 16:12

I have had to leave Mumsnet a couple of times due to abuse and stalking.
I've been called a fraudster for a family loan being used for a house purchase. The poster wanted to know the lender. That was particularly nasty. Three people were reported by other posters.

An ex landlord stalked me and it was my fault I didn't leave his house immediately he wanted to sell it in the covid boom. ( I did have him arrested). He's still at it and searches Mumsnet for anything I write.

I have a LGBT family member (adult) and the abuse is so bad I just don't comment anymore. There are a group of women on FWR who rule that board.

However I've loved this thread it's so funny

Stardancerintheskye · 29/05/2026 16:13

HauntingBillCrouse · 29/05/2026 15:28

I'm on benefits. That's enough for some people. Anyway, when my mum died she had enough in her bank account to pay for her funeral, and about £500 left after that that I booked a cheap caravan holiday at the place my mum took me to as a child, so I could scatter her ashes.

Apparently going on holiday when on benefits is disgusting. Someone was very cross at me for having such a luxury, even if it was only possible because my mum had died.

Im so sorry about your mum

Some people can be so ignorant

I was on benefits years ago as my ex walked out on us (hes never paid a penny for his dc) and I ended up on income support/child benefit (this was years ago)

I dared to spend £10 on a pair of boots (in the new look sale) and my sister in law went looney (to my face) as I was 'spending her money on myself,it was bad enough she was paying for my dc' (I hadn't bought myself anything for months and she knew that)

(We'll gloss over the fact she spent more time 'ill' than she did at work-my father told her to her face that he was amazed she kept her job)

Im a stubborn bitch and went back and bought the same boots in a different colour and made sure she saw them

As few years later,id retrained and gone back to work (earning more than she did) and she ended up on benefits herself

I did smirk whenever she bought something for herself and she knew it

Ignore the ignorant and again,im so sorry you lost your mum,I hope you had a lovely holiday

fancypantstoday · 29/05/2026 16:39

anothernewname6789998212 · 29/05/2026 14:18

The most baffling ones to me are when someone writes a post about the most bog standard situation that happens commonly, such as “lightly scuffed against a parked car this morning, left a note with my number on and have called my insurer, is there anything else I need to do”

and there will a response within the first 5 comments telling them they should be disgusted with themselves, have committed a serious criminal offence, need to hand themselves into the police, that they should’ve knocked on every door within a 10 mile radius to find the driver and begged on their hands and knees for forgiveness and that they should calling the DVLA to arrange voluntary surrender of their licence.

Yes- vicious OTT insults and trying shame people for ridiculously minor incidents.

Eg "I forgot to say thank you to the lady serving me on the check out today and I feel really bad about it. I had a dreadful migraine coming on and I felt really ill"

Response: "You forgot to say thank you? To a checkout lady? During a migraine?

I'm actually shaking.

That poor woman has probably gone home, sat in the dark, and wondered where it all went wrong. Her husband will ask what's for tea and she'll whisper, "Nothing. A customer with a headache didn't thank me."

Honestly, OP, I'm sick of people like you. Society is collapsing one unspoken "thank you" at a time. First it's this, then it's people putting recyclables in the wrong bin, then before you know it we're living in a lawless wasteland.

And don't even THINK about using your migraine as an excuse. I once had both legs amputated, was being pursued by wolves and simultaneously giving birth to triplets, and I still managed to thank a cashier."

Do better.

#BeKind
#MentalHealthMatters
#ExceptYours

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fabstraction · 29/05/2026 16:48

On a thread where the OP encouraged others to share nice little things their partner/spouse had done for them recently, someone took issue with me because the small but thoughtful favours I described were apparently not worthy of mention. 🙄

I'm guessing she was in a crappy relationship herself. There are some women on here who can't bear to believe that anyone else is happy with their husband, because all men are shit if you just look long enough.

Nogimachi · 29/05/2026 16:49

It wasn’t Mumsnet but I once agreed with someone who had jokingly mentioned neck tattoos in a list of undesirable features of a man to (not) date. Man did they pile onto me!
Never suggest that a tattoo is anything other than a mark of high class, intelligence and education or they will come for you. Definitely do not say they used to be known as a tramp stamp in the 90s. That is not allowed., Nor are you allowed to mention your great-uncle’s Navy tattoo. Completely discriminatory.

JustAnUdea · 29/05/2026 16:52

Dont dare to explain with Science about intoxication and driving.

I once said that someone who had had two bottles of standard beer over the course of two hours with a meal could well be under the legal level for driving in England. Didnt say it was a good idea, or whether I would...

I might as well have said I down a litre of vodka while driving on the M1.

justasking111 · 29/05/2026 16:53

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 29/05/2026 10:53

I started a thread a couple of weeks ago complaining about people who tell you how rubbish they 'know' Eurovision is, even though they clearly haven't watched it for decades/ever, yet they assume they are the experts who know more than the actual fans.

I fully accept that brevity isn't my strong point; but I was laying out several of the tired, cliched proclamations that are always trotted out and my responses to them.

The thread got completely sidetracked by people declaring with confidence that I'd obviously used AI for my OP, and even arguing with me when I said that I personally hate AI - it would no more occur to me to start an OP using AI than it would to write it in Japanese (which I assuredly do not speak). They picked up on my use of speech marks and italics as 'proof' that it must be a robot, as apparently actual people just wouldn't be able to do this!!

I can only assume that, if you can put together a couple of coherent paragraphs that aren't liberally littered with SPAG errors and slang, some people cannot fathom that plenty of us did go to school and are confident in using our native language all on our own.

I did consider starting another thread in Site Stuff calling for AI-hunting to be banned the same as troll-hunting is. It's so tedious and really does detract from the point being discussed.

Maybe it's a new online 'sport' for bored people with far too much time on their hands - the same as the people who search for a thread that doesn't interest them and then eagerly choose to engage and participate in that thread purely to tell the people on it that it doesn't interest them! I suppose it could also be some kind of Main Character Syndrome, whereby they just cannot understand that the internet is for the entire world - billions of people - and thus that a great deal of it won't be all about them or relevant/interesting to them.

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I got picked up for my spelling of a word. I did check and I was correct. Still not believed. Weird.

YoBetty · 29/05/2026 16:57

Pilgrimlady · 29/05/2026 10:14

A poster was despairing about trouble she was experiencing with her son. I merely sympathised with her and wished her well. I then got another poster, "Bluntness" something or other, having a right go at me. This poster was actually verbally abusive towards me, they called me some really offensive names, all because I'd wished this poor woman well in dealing with her son. I was new to mumsnet and it really shocked me. I've since found out this person was notorious for verbally attacking people on here. On the other hand, I once had to go to hospital for a very traumatic procedure and the support I got from people on here was amazing. I was totally on my own in the world at the time and, even as I sat in the car park waiting to go in, I received messages of support from people on mumsnet and it meant the absolute world to me.

That poster has also had a go at me, I remember the name now you come to mention it. She was obnoxious to me on a variety of threads for several weeks when I was under a particular username. It was in the days when you could still namechange mid-thread so one day I did two posts on the one thread both making the same point, but with slightly different wording. She took me to task and had a right go at me about my post in one name, and fell over herself agreeing with the other one! 😁

JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff · 29/05/2026 17:05

My favourites from this thread are

Peas = sugar bombs

And

"But what about discharge?!"

I also once had someone get really angry as I posted that my then 5yo kept pestering during my 2yo twins' bedtime, and how could I get her to stop, as I work FT and it was my only time during the day with the twins, and I was about to do the 5yo's bedtime right after so she would get quality time then?

That produced a rant about how "I sound cold" and my DD1 would go NC with me as an adult, and "your 5yo needs you, you chose to have her. Do better"

I did ask how she herself used to handle putting twin toddlers to bed after a 10h working day with a 5yo shouting MUMMY MUMMY MUMMY.

Oddly she didn't answer.

Gatekeeper · 29/05/2026 17:14

Iwanttobeafraser · 29/05/2026 13:38

As someone from Africa, I wouldn't call you racist for this but it would make me roll my eyes. There's a massive difference between countries across the African continent.

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And yet you say you are from "Africa" rather than Nigeria etc

MiserableMrsMopp · 29/05/2026 17:30

Oh so many things. Mentioning old people, because I'm old. Told I was ageist. Being anti Reform. Approving of multi culturalism. Being a trans rights supporter. Not being anti Muslim. Not being in favour of having children past mid 30s. Thinking old dads aren't a good idea. Believing people with children with disabilities should limit family size. For thinking SAHMs are daft, taking a risk with their future, depending on a man.

On and on and on. I'm surprised I've not been hunted down in real life! LOL

OH! And repeatedly for asking AIBU posters why they asked in the first place if they didn't want an answer they wouldn't like LOL.

EvieBB · 29/05/2026 17:30

YouRemindMeOfAYoungerMe · 29/05/2026 07:27

I got told off on a weight loss thread, when I said I’d like to find a vegan version of whatever diet was being recommended. I was told in no uncertain terms by one poster that there was NO WAY a vegan could be remotely overweight, as they are all thin and probably undernourished. Ummmm… I was that fat vegan!

Ha, yes, that's crazy! You could live on vegan diet of crisps, fizzy drinks, cake, chocolate and sweets and still, understandly, be overweight. Sorry you got told off op! (I'm not suggesting this is your diet, btw, lol)

ForWittyTealOP · 29/05/2026 17:34

I had a big pile on once for saying that the welfare state encompassed public services and not just benefits. Loads of posters were queueing up to tell me I was laughable and stupid. It was so weird because really who cares?

I think once someone says something, others feel emboldened. I had that the other day when someone told me I was rude then another three or four posters were brave enough to say yes, you are. You are rude. Be self aware. You're rude.
Never denied I'm blunt but they felt the need to let me know anyway, in case I was under the mistaken impression that I'm Pollyanna!

Bjorkdidit · 29/05/2026 17:35

EvieBB · 29/05/2026 17:30

Ha, yes, that's crazy! You could live on vegan diet of crisps, fizzy drinks, cake, chocolate and sweets and still, understandly, be overweight. Sorry you got told off op! (I'm not suggesting this is your diet, btw, lol)

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Plus chip butties and jam sandwiches. I think the problem is that too many people think that vegan food is special weirdy food that's only attractive to vegans, rather than normal food that everyone eats.

Look at all the outrage if people suggest their wedding food or catering at another event will be vegan. All those people who 'never eat vegan food' or 'would be pissed if they so much as walk past the bar because there's nothing to soak up the alcohol'.

NoCarCantGoFar · 29/05/2026 17:36

AddictedToBooks · 29/05/2026 08:53

I got a roasting because I have Border Collies - the person knew absolutely nothing about the circumstances or how the BCs live, my knowledge and background with the breed etc - just the simple fact that I have Border Collies was enough to make me the Devil Incarnate apparently.

I’ve had the same sort of “pleasant chat” with a poster who thought my life-long owning and loving of German Shepherd Dogs made me a murderer by proxy!
She became so nasty and relentless about the breed and its owners, that I reported her and got the thread removed. I would have asked my murdering GSD what she thought… but she was asleep on the bed next to me, with her toy and blanket!