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Women who consider themselves 100% straight: Would you rather have sex with a very physically unattractive man or a very physically attractive woman?

185 replies

Alwaysthelastone · 13/05/2026 22:22

…personality aside (say, they are both equally nice and respectful people). Just interested to hear people’s responses after a colleague asked me this earlier. Her theory is I can’t be 100% straight cos I picked the woman. I think it’s bollocks. I’d enjoy neither but the man would gross me out way more

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Ohmeohmy4 · 15/05/2026 13:49

Neither

MissDixieVoom · 15/05/2026 13:50

It’s not compulsory to have sex with either. So No.

Ezzee · 15/05/2026 14:00

KojaksLollipop · 13/05/2026 23:07

I could never sleep either a woman, full stop. I wouldn’t want to sleep with that man though, so I’d have to say neither but if I’m playing along it’d be the man.

To play along ...
He'd have to be very quick and behind me!

Verv · 15/05/2026 14:32

Secretseverywhere · 14/05/2026 08:45

I’d probably choose man as tbh most blokes are pretty quick/ easily pleased . I feel like women would require a bit more work and I’m too lazy to put the effort in.

That made me laugh 😂

Some of the replies here clearly havent played would you rather.
Its a grim game but thats the point!

Im gay so obviously woman, but if the question was flipped then attractive man would win.

KojaksLollipop · 15/05/2026 17:19

Ezzee · 15/05/2026 14:00

To play along ...
He'd have to be very quick and behind me!

Well, that was my thought. I could watch the tv to keep my mind off it.

EvieBB · 15/05/2026 18:24

Tambora · 15/05/2026 12:46

But if you are a straight woman, in your eyes there's no such thing as a 'very physically attractive woman' is there? If you are straight yourself, you won't be physically attracted to them.

Some men's thought processes are downright stupid.

I don't agree - you can absolutely appreciate/see if someone is attractive without wanting to sleep with them

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 15/05/2026 18:31

So are we to take from this thread that none of you have fucked someone you don’t find attractive?

Missj25 · 15/05/2026 22:15

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 15/05/2026 18:31

So are we to take from this thread that none of you have fucked someone you don’t find attractive?

I have 🙈.
I thought they were to begin with on a coffee date , then ended up going on a hotel date with them to realise I actually didn’t fancy them at all .
Still fucked them , felt like I had to or something 🙈😂, knew I’d zero interest In ever seeing them again .
And before I get slated to shit for saying that .
Just keep opinions to yourselves please 😂

RandomUsernameHere · 15/05/2026 22:22

Definitely the woman.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 16/05/2026 09:07

Missj25 · 15/05/2026 22:15

I have 🙈.
I thought they were to begin with on a coffee date , then ended up going on a hotel date with them to realise I actually didn’t fancy them at all .
Still fucked them , felt like I had to or something 🙈😂, knew I’d zero interest In ever seeing them again .
And before I get slated to shit for saying that .
Just keep opinions to yourselves please 😂

No judgement here - I have a VERY large body count but probably fancied three of them 😬

Sartre · 16/05/2026 09:13

I had a girlfriend in secondary school. She was my best friend and she came out to me, telling me she’d been in love with me for two years (we were in year 9) and wanted to go out with me. I felt bad and she was very masculine looking tbh, to the extent my mum thought she was a boy the first time I brought her round to ours and said she couldn’t stay over! It didn’t last very long because I realised quite quickly I was definitely straight…

So yeah, I’d go with the man.

Missj25 · 16/05/2026 09:30

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 16/05/2026 09:07

No judgement here - I have a VERY large body count but probably fancied three of them 😬

Oh God really 😂😂.
Did you like their personalities?
High enough myself being honest 🙈, def fancied a lot of the ones to when I was younger opposed to now being older , I’m 50 .
Have a date tomorrow , he’s actually very attractive , nice enough , it’s all banter though with him , chatting last 3 weeks .
He’s very focused on looks & body & it puts me off .
I’m attractive, not gorgeous by any means .
I’m not sure what to do 🤷🏻‍♀️
What would you do ? I need some advice ☺️

Maddy70 · 16/05/2026 09:32

It's not compulsory to have sex with either ?

Tambora · 16/05/2026 10:01

EvieBB · 15/05/2026 18:24

I don't agree - you can absolutely appreciate/see if someone is attractive without wanting to sleep with them

You could appreciate their appearance without finding their attractiveness 'physically' attractive, which is the question in the OP.

In order to be physically attracted to someone you need to fancy them.

Lazingsundayafternoon · 16/05/2026 10:03

What a peculiar question. If you’re straight why would you want to sleep with a woman?

tripleginandtonic · 16/05/2026 10:06

The latter, hence why " straight"

SleepQuest33 · 16/05/2026 10:07

Neither, I think both would gross me out

duckfordinner · 16/05/2026 10:18

It depends on their personalities and hygiene. Attractiveness is subjective

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 16/05/2026 18:47

Missj25 · 16/05/2026 09:30

Oh God really 😂😂.
Did you like their personalities?
High enough myself being honest 🙈, def fancied a lot of the ones to when I was younger opposed to now being older , I’m 50 .
Have a date tomorrow , he’s actually very attractive , nice enough , it’s all banter though with him , chatting last 3 weeks .
He’s very focused on looks & body & it puts me off .
I’m attractive, not gorgeous by any means .
I’m not sure what to do 🤷🏻‍♀️
What would you do ? I need some advice ☺️

I didn’t get to know their names or personalities tbh - didn’t have that kind of time 😬

Tbh I gave it all up 25 years ago and have had nothing since!

However he sounds a bit shallow from what you say. Worth going though, just to see if he’s worth your time!

DoggusDomesticus · 16/05/2026 19:34

Well as others have also said, there's something a bit iffy about the whole question and possibly OPs motives.
For me it's the "women who CONSIDER themselves 100% straight" as if it were only an opinion, and no one could say with certainty.

I am certain of my sexuality, thanks.

MrsLFii · 16/05/2026 19:41

I thought this was an easy ‘would you rather?’ as I immediately thought ‘obviously the attractive woman’ but reading all the ‘of course not the woman, I’m STRAIGHT’ answers, I’m now wondering whether maybe I’m not quite as straight as all that 😂

Missj25 · 17/05/2026 01:29

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 16/05/2026 18:47

I didn’t get to know their names or personalities tbh - didn’t have that kind of time 😬

Tbh I gave it all up 25 years ago and have had nothing since!

However he sounds a bit shallow from what you say. Worth going though, just to see if he’s worth your time!

Just home from my daughters engagement party .He didn’t even say hello to me today .
We’re supposed to be meeting tomorrow.
If he was interested properly, he would have said hello today .
I’m not getting good vibes , I’ve a feeling he’s not worth my time .
I messaged earlier & said , “ not even a hello today “
He messaged back , “apologies “ .
I opened and ignored .
He then messsged “Goodnight” .
I messaged what i said to you .
“ We’re supposed to be meeting tomorrow, yet you didn’t even say hello today “ .
Sorry I’m half cut & it’s 1.30 in the morning.
I’m rambling.
I’m not going to meet him tomorrow.
Night x

PeoniesAreMyFavouriteFlowers · 17/05/2026 01:34

Neither. Because I am straight with high standards.

UltimateSloth · 17/05/2026 01:40

The man. Id just keep my eyes shut. That wouldn't work with the woman because she'd feel and smell like a woman and that would be a complete turn off.

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 17/05/2026 01:41

Alwaysthelastone · 14/05/2026 09:47

The follow-up question was if you went to prison for the rest of your life would you get yourself a girlfriend? (This colleague is always asking ridiculous but often very entertaining “would you rather” questions - gets us through the day lol)
I’d probably aim to get the biggest, toughest woman in there to be my girlfriend so I’d have protection

seems a good strategy