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Women who consider themselves 100% straight: Would you rather have sex with a very physically unattractive man or a very physically attractive woman?

185 replies

Alwaysthelastone · 13/05/2026 22:22

…personality aside (say, they are both equally nice and respectful people). Just interested to hear people’s responses after a colleague asked me this earlier. Her theory is I can’t be 100% straight cos I picked the woman. I think it’s bollocks. I’d enjoy neither but the man would gross me out way more

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WildCats24 · 14/05/2026 07:58

Neither. I’m selective about who I share my vagina with.

keepswimming38 · 14/05/2026 07:59

If I’m straight I’m not going to have sex with a woman am I? Why would any straight woman choose that option? Unattractive man- no. I’m not that desperate for sex tbh.

Shodan · 14/05/2026 08:00

On the premise that it HAS to be one or the other, I would choose the man, because I'm not sexually attracted to women as a sex class.

In reality of course I wouldn't choose either.

wishingonastar101 · 14/05/2026 08:11

The woman. I don't know how to say this without undermining lesbian sex - but at least with the woman it would be less penetrative.

FlyingApple · 14/05/2026 08:19

Honestly, I'd vomit either way. I'd try the argument that sex with a woman counts as fingering 😂 but I wouldn't touch her.

keepswimming38 · 14/05/2026 08:22

God this thread is gross!

Shallotsaresmallonions · 14/05/2026 08:23

Just physically unattractive? Then definitely the man.

A severe hygiene problem would make me choose the woman though, although I wouldn't enjoy it.

NoWordForFluffy · 14/05/2026 08:31

IDontHateRainbows · 13/05/2026 22:26

This is a stupid question as if you're bring forced to choose and wont enjoy either it doesn't matter if your straight or not you'll be lying there wishing it was over.

That actually sounds a bit rapey....

Yeah. I'm with you on this.

Neither, thanks all the same.

sunnydisaster · 14/05/2026 08:35

Neither! I have no interest in having sex with a woman although I do think some women are really attractive I’m not interested in going near a vagina.

Ohthatsabitshit · 14/05/2026 08:37

Well I’m monogamous so it’s beyond the realms of what I’d do even if they were both gorgeous. I think if you’ve never felt the slightest desire for a woman then it’s unlikely you are “a little bit attracted to women really”.

CarbonArtist · 14/05/2026 08:39

If the man was medium ugly/ugly hot and had good hygiene I would go with him. If he was repulsively ugly and stank, I would go with the beautiful woman.

Boomer55 · 14/05/2026 08:44

Ponderingwindow · 13/05/2026 22:32

Man. My answer might change if there are hygiene issues or something, which just unattractive does not imply.

i have never particularly cared about appearance.

This. Physical appearance isn't always what attracts. 🤷‍♀️

I’m straight, so the man every time. Or my rabbit if no attraction to him.

Secretseverywhere · 14/05/2026 08:45

I’d probably choose man as tbh most blokes are pretty quick/ easily pleased . I feel like women would require a bit more work and I’m too lazy to put the effort in.

EvieBB · 14/05/2026 08:45

DustyMaiden · 13/05/2026 22:44

There isn’t any such thing as a physically attractive female from my perspective as I’m not attracted to females.

??? Eh???
What a strange thing to say
I'm not sexually attracted to cats but I can clearly see when a kitten is v v cute, gorgeous and physically beautiful.

catipuss · 14/05/2026 08:47

What's the punishment for refusing both?

IgnoreIt · 14/05/2026 08:47

Freddiesfortune · 13/05/2026 23:12

This question makes no sense. Women can be ostensibly attractive - whatever that means - to many men (though I can’t even think of an example) but if a 100 percent heterosexual woman was asked to have sex with her over an ugly man the only possible answer is neither or the man. Anything else would imply the woman being asked the question was supposed to reveal she isn’t 100 percent heterosexual. That’s the point of the question.. right?
Never mind the point of ugly in whose eyes etc…

Yes. It wouldn’t matter if the woman was a goddess. I’m just not attracted to women at all, however gorgeous.

CupcakeDreams · 14/05/2026 08:53

Weirdest question ever.

bilbohaggins · 14/05/2026 08:56

Not sure if both are nice people, probably the man

I have actually sort of spoken about this scenario with my husband - there’s a not unattractive dad on the school run, but I know how he has treated his nanny and I’ve seen him be a grade A competitive psycho on the school quiz, so he absolutely makes my skin crawl every time he gives me a phoney nice guy smile. It’s just real American psycho vibes. I have said to my husband that probably I’d rather shag an attractive woman than that guy if I was stranded somewhere for long enough that sexual companionship became important to me (I imagine in practise that I’d just abstain, but I guess who knows), so maybe I’m not 100 per cent straight!

Obviously all this assumes a very extreme set of circumstances in which I didn’t have a husband either - I can’t imagine a circumstance in which I would cheat on him, man or woman

Nain2026 · 14/05/2026 08:56

Celibacy wins for me.
I couldn’t even kiss a woman, let alone have sex.

Notabarbie · 14/05/2026 08:56

Neither.

DustyMaiden · 14/05/2026 09:05

@EvieBB if I asked would you rather have sex with a cat or a dog.? Which fits analogy.

BauhausOfEliott · 14/05/2026 09:35

It’s a daft question but I’d pick the man every time, because I could close my eyes and pretend it was someone else.

GimmieABreakOr3 · 14/05/2026 09:42

Woman

Alwaysthelastone · 14/05/2026 09:42

wishingonastar101 · 14/05/2026 08:11

The woman. I don't know how to say this without undermining lesbian sex - but at least with the woman it would be less penetrative.

What about if she was wearing a ginormous strap-on?

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drspouse · 14/05/2026 09:43

IDontHateRainbows · 13/05/2026 22:26

This is a stupid question as if you're bring forced to choose and wont enjoy either it doesn't matter if your straight or not you'll be lying there wishing it was over.

That actually sounds a bit rapey....

It does.
I'd rather have an oat latte.