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Women who consider themselves 100% straight: Would you rather have sex with a very physically unattractive man or a very physically attractive woman?

185 replies

Alwaysthelastone · 13/05/2026 22:22

…personality aside (say, they are both equally nice and respectful people). Just interested to hear people’s responses after a colleague asked me this earlier. Her theory is I can’t be 100% straight cos I picked the woman. I think it’s bollocks. I’d enjoy neither but the man would gross me out way more

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ValleyoftheShadow · 13/05/2026 22:44

Alwaysthelastone · 13/05/2026 22:41

For the posters saying neither..have you never played would you rather?! Neither is not an option!

OK, well, then I'd choose the man. I have no interest in women in that way. I struggle to have interest in men these days too.

localnotail · 13/05/2026 22:46

In reality, none of those. In some weird situation where I'm forced to pick one - man, of course. I would not know what to do with a woman, there is no cock so basically no sex for me! I doubt I would ever be able to kiss a woman, ew.

Scissor · 13/05/2026 22:47

It's a stupid question.

If I'm 100% straight, as the question says I am to answer, then I'll only have sex with the man.

I know lots of beautiful people and lots of perfectly lovely every sort of looking people. That's just a teeny tiny part of the decision making of who I will have sex with.

localnotail · 13/05/2026 22:51

No matter how pretty a woman is she is still would not be sexually attractive to me. But some ugly guy may well be - I had some ugly boyfriends who I fancied rotten! ))

Happyhappyzoozoo · 13/05/2026 22:53

I think I’d just flip a coin then close my eyes and imagine henry cavill or something. Don’t imagine it makes much difference who’s eating you out if you can’t see them.

CamilleBeauchamp · 13/05/2026 23:03

i'd run away.

KojaksLollipop · 13/05/2026 23:07

I could never sleep either a woman, full stop. I wouldn’t want to sleep with that man though, so I’d have to say neither but if I’m playing along it’d be the man.

Ducksurprise · 13/05/2026 23:09

Totaldramallama · 13/05/2026 22:36

Woman definitely. As I get older men in general seem to repulse me more and more. Doesn't mean I sexually desire women though. I think if DH leaves me I'll choose celibacy

Agree with this.

Freddiesfortune · 13/05/2026 23:12

This question makes no sense. Women can be ostensibly attractive - whatever that means - to many men (though I can’t even think of an example) but if a 100 percent heterosexual woman was asked to have sex with her over an ugly man the only possible answer is neither or the man. Anything else would imply the woman being asked the question was supposed to reveal she isn’t 100 percent heterosexual. That’s the point of the question.. right?
Never mind the point of ugly in whose eyes etc…

SpecialAgentMaggieBell · 13/05/2026 23:19

Yeah, neither.

3678194b · 13/05/2026 23:20

None because I am celebate and have been a while. I wouldn't want to sleep with a woman but often I find women are much more attractive than male counterparts.

Especially over a certain age I find myself saying that woman looks so lovely, smells beautiful is well turned out etc (women of all ages) I never find myself thinking the same about men.

Lougle · 13/05/2026 23:21

Neither.

ChicGreyZebra · 13/05/2026 23:23

I don’t even want sex with an attractive man or woman right now!

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 13/05/2026 23:26

Man for sure.

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 13/05/2026 23:31

DustyMaiden · 13/05/2026 22:44

There isn’t any such thing as a physically attractive female from my perspective as I’m not attracted to females.

You’ve never seen a woman you think is pretty or beautiful? I’m definitely straight (would absolutely pick the man) but have seen plenty women in my life who I can appreciate as attractive (as a synonym as pretty and beautiful).

I’ve also seen dogs, duvet covers, cars and desserts that I could describe as physically attractive. Not sexually so, but that are pleasant to look at and made me want to look at them (thereby attracting my gaze, so attractive).

DoughnutDreamer · 13/05/2026 23:34

The man…although weirdly I could deal with the sex but I wouldn’t want to kiss a man I wasn’t attracted to 🤣

CurlewKate · 13/05/2026 23:35

Alwaysthelastone · 13/05/2026 22:22

…personality aside (say, they are both equally nice and respectful people). Just interested to hear people’s responses after a colleague asked me this earlier. Her theory is I can’t be 100% straight cos I picked the woman. I think it’s bollocks. I’d enjoy neither but the man would gross me out way more

I’ve never chosen my lovers on looks alone. Why would I start now?

EvieBB · 14/05/2026 07:34

WhatDoRacoonsSay · 13/05/2026 22:33

I'd be repulsed by both.

Sexually represeed.....

whattheysay · 14/05/2026 07:37

Probably neither. I wouldn’t want the man but equally even though attractive I wouldn’t choose the woman either

OrangeSushi · 14/05/2026 07:44

Problem is that due to (so far in my life) being 100% straight to me sex = PiV.

But I absolutely do not want to have PiV with someone unpleasant/smelly/I’m unattracted to.

And while I can find women very attractive I don’t really want to touch their genitals.

So I guess I’m just abstaining? I’d definitely rather spend time/cuddle/be in a relationship with the woman though.

OrlandointheWilderness · 14/05/2026 07:45

Wallywobbles · 13/05/2026 22:28

Woman in theory. In practice when confronted with a vagina it did not tick any boxes at all.

This in spades!! 😂

ChampagneVendetta · 14/05/2026 07:48

I consider myself 100% straight but there are men who repulse me so much I would rather sleep with an attractive woman.

I am not usually attracted to women but in this scenario, I choose a woman

ifonly4 · 14/05/2026 07:54

Even if I thought a woman looked attractive in terms of beauty/had a nice figure, I still wouldn't fancy her, so the choice is equal for me - so neither.

wobblychristmastree · 14/05/2026 07:55

neither, this is a really weird question

thefloorislavayes · 14/05/2026 07:57

BruceAndNosh · 13/05/2026 22:27

With those alternatives, I'd just have sex on my own

Same