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Would you ever have a ONS?

149 replies

ij1828 · 09/05/2026 20:20

Say like a guy in the club you really fancied.

OP posts:
CurdinHenry · 09/05/2026 20:40

ij1828 · 09/05/2026 20:28

Just seems crazy to me that people would get that intimate with a stranger

It seems crazy to me that you've never experienced immediate sexual attraction

Duckiewasthefirstniceguy · 09/05/2026 20:40

ij1828 · 09/05/2026 20:28

Just seems crazy to me that people would get that intimate with a stranger

It seems crazy to you, but you’d ’probs’ do it?

Fascinating.

ThatJadeLion · 09/05/2026 20:40

I regret each ONS as I've got older. That's one thing I wish I could change about my past.

ihearyoucalling · 09/05/2026 20:40

Never have and never will now. Don't know why really as I was quite good looking in my twenties so probs could have, just not my thing really. Missed out a bit I guess!

CurdinHenry · 09/05/2026 20:40

I hardly ever meet a man I want to fuck immediately but when I do

Yum

ij1828 · 09/05/2026 20:42

CurdinHenry · 09/05/2026 20:40

It seems crazy to me that you've never experienced immediate sexual attraction

I have but not enough to go home with a random stranger

OP posts:
CurdinHenry · 09/05/2026 20:42

ij1828 · 09/05/2026 20:42

I have but not enough to go home with a random stranger

Then you haven't

The feeling of just needing to have them now no matter what is a beautiful thing

McQueensMuse · 09/05/2026 20:43

Not now, but only because I married the last one I had ☺️

SouthLondonMum22 · 09/05/2026 20:44

ij1828 · 09/05/2026 20:33

Is it even worth it?

ONS? For me they were. A bit of fun, a good shag but no commitment which is exactly what I wanted at the time.

CharityShopMensGlasses · 09/05/2026 20:44

Im too chicken! I just would worry 1) they'll have super gonorrhea or something that would affect me forever. 2) I dont know them enough to know they arent with someone/ married 3) what if they are violent /scary/ going to secretly film us/porn sick / manospherey

Eightdayz · 09/05/2026 20:44

Its fun op. Try it!

Haffway · 09/05/2026 20:44

ij1828 · 09/05/2026 20:39

Surely it’s underwhelming

Why would you imagine that?

It could also be thrilling and passionate, and the start of something deep and lasting. Or a memory you will always cherish.

You might regret not taking chances, living life to the fullest.

Growlybear83 · 09/05/2026 20:45

No, never.

CurdinHenry · 09/05/2026 20:45

You know what's even better? When a ONS gets in touch ages later because he had such a good time 😉

OriginalSkang · 09/05/2026 20:45

No, but not for any judgemental reasons. I don't care what anyone else does or think its disgusting or anything

I don't like touching strangers. I couldn't get turned on by a stranger

GloomyWednesday · 09/05/2026 20:46

Thought this was going to be about the Office for National Statistics at first glance.

Not had many dealings with them but I’ve shagged quite a few blokes in my time who I’ve not been in a relationship with 🤷‍♀️

WithLoveFromMyselfToYourself · 09/05/2026 20:46

Had a cracker. Ended up marrying really young so I’m glad I squeezed him in. I wouldn’t have hesitated to have more (using condoms) had circumstances arisen that were propitious.

PurpleNightingale · 09/05/2026 20:46

ij1828 · 09/05/2026 20:39

Surely it’s underwhelming

Actually it was quite empowering. One friend of a friend was visiting from Norway and he was this insanely tall 6ft 7 man and attractive, and obviously heading home shortly. i wouldn't have wanted to date him even without being in different countries as he was a couple of years younger and at times I could feel that come across mentally, but I was definitely attracted to him physically and I loved his accent. It feels a bit scandalous to go in with sex just for fun like that, but it can really give you a buzz. It's like safe naughty.

Vivisays · 09/05/2026 20:47

ij1828 · 09/05/2026 20:34

Is drunk sex really consueal?

Sorry, who mentioned being drunk? And tbf, that’s very judgemental of you, like you’re suggesting every bloke is a predator looking for a ‘drunk’ woman to take advantage of. Women are also responsible for how intoxicated they get, if that impacts their judgement.

Solaire18381 · 09/05/2026 20:48

Would not and have not, ever!

Mugfault · 09/05/2026 20:51

Wouldn't the sex be rubbish with someone you didn't know well?

ChickenBananaBanana · 09/05/2026 20:52

ij1828 · 09/05/2026 20:42

I have but not enough to go home with a random stranger

Everyone's a stranger at first

user0987637829 · 09/05/2026 20:55

Had plenty of ONS and some were fantastic and some not so. A bit like dates and relationships! Sex can often be great with someone you don’t know, pure sexual chemistry and no inhibitions as you won’t see them again.

WithLoveFromMyselfToYourself · 09/05/2026 20:56

CurdinHenry · 09/05/2026 20:45

You know what's even better? When a ONS gets in touch ages later because he had such a good time 😉

A friend of mine is still with her delicious, French, excellent cook, palaeontologist, one night stand a decade later.
I loathe all the Rules shit. If a man thinks a woman who shags him first time they meet is “lesser” then I see that as a handy hygiene mechanism. They are taking the rubbish out with them when the door slams on their arse on the way out.

Squirrelchops1 · 09/05/2026 20:56

I find it far easier to let myself go on a ONS than with my long term partner! I don't want him to see my freak.