Do 99% of men think about someone else while DTD?

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Just that really. Lots of people, here and in general say things like, “all men fantasise about other women during sex at the very least sometimes”. And when I say all I really mean the vast majority, as there can always be an exception to everything.

If it’s true I think it’s quite grim tbh and makes me glad I’m not in a relationship. I’d want a man to be all about me 🤣

Then I'll stay single.

Ok doke

I mean exactly what I say; he fancies you, all of you, is very sexually attracted. Not lukewarm or, ‘meh she’s ok…’. I thought it was quite self explanatory, the phrase ‘fully attracted’.

No it’s odd - the phrase fully attracted

Or they might not be if the subset of men who are attracted to them are happy to be present during sex

Ok well I explained it above so hopefully that helps. I’ve seen it before used on American sites

It's not self-explanatory. Because you seem to be using to mean "exclusively attracted".

For example, I fancy and am very attracted to my DP. He's objectively attractive and I find him very attractive on a personal level. I also sometimes think about other people during sex. So do I find him "fully" attractive or not - by your definition? Or perhaps on Monday I did and on Wednesday I only found him partly attractive...

What like “he’s just not that into you”

im tempted to say let’s not start relying on rh Americans!! 😂😂

Also I’m sure I read something the biologically speaking if a women if on zero birth control
who she wants to be with is very dependent on where she is on her cycle.

again on birth control vs off it again women can want very very different partners.

Hormones and wanting the best procreator
and such.

Ha yes this is an interesting nugget. What sort of American website? Are you getting ideas about needing men to be "fully attracted" to you from American influencers or something? Cos it really is an odd concept and I don't think your definition matches what you seem to think it means.

I love Chinese food. It's my favourite food. If it was all I could ever eat again I would be happy. I find it delicious. But sometimes I fancy a pizza. Does that mean I don't "fully" love Chinese food...?

I don’t remember exactly it was a few years ago now.

And no I haven’t got the idea from any influencers, I don’t really like or rate influencers and their fakery at all.

It’s just a personal desire of mine. I just meant highly motivated physically attracted.

I see where you’re going with the food analogy but not sure it transfers to people’s desires…?

I too have done this. Never told anyone but good to know I'm not alone

Not yours perhaps

A thing you may one day discover is that the men with whom you feel the most powerful mutual attraction are rarely only manifesting that with one woman

The OP is quite lucky. She seems to have been with men who wanted her. There are women I'm sure who have perhaps never really felt wanted, physically or emotionally. I mean like, not really.

I think it most women had to pick three sexual partners they could pick three who seemed besotted.

OP there are studies that have found when a man is next to ANY WOMAN ovulating he has an involuntary spike of testosterone which subconsciously makes him attracted to her/want to mate with her.

I mention this because we are very biological creatures - and based on this a man will be in the moment attracted to a woman ovulating over one who isn't. Being "fully attracted" to their partner or not won't stop this hormonal response to another woman - it's involuntary. Yes you can absolutely expect your partner not to cheat (because cheating is a choice) but deciding you want them to never find other women attractive when it's partly subconscious and also biologically driven is just not very realistic in my opinion.

Yes you can absolutely expect your partner not to cheat (because cheating is a choice) but deciding you want them to never find other women attractive when it's partly subconscious and also biologically driven is just not very realistic in my opinion.

For me it's not so much just finding other women attractive, it's more "that woman you saw in Sainsburys... don't put your cock in me and pretend I'm her". If she pops into your head, get rid of her, focus yourself on me. If you keep thinking about her, that's also a choice.

Maybe.

Exactly this

when I’m ovulating I’m likely to respond!!

we often forget we are just animals
too!!

This thread is a real eye opener and not in a good way
I just know I dont really need or want to think about anyone else than my partner when we are having sex. And I know he is thinking of just me. I can't really explain I just know.
If that ever changed then I would leave.
It's totally wrong for people in this thread to tell people they are naïve or uptight or repressed for wanting to know they occupy their partner's thoughts entirely whilst having sex.
People have boundaries of their choice and are totally entitled to want to have those respected. Those who aren't bothered if he's thinking of someone else.. More power to you. You do you ( whilst thinking of whoever suits you) . That's your choice.

Maybe I’m unusual but I still have an ex constantly in my inbox from teenage years.

If I said come get me he would. Children and all. From his confessions in my inbox again only days ago. Though maybe I’m just his one who got away. Who knows.

"You do you (whilst thinking of whoever suits you)" - very funny 😂

Maybe the men who are having sex in the dark are thinking about other women, but otherwise they are looking at the live sex show they are a part of and getting off on that, being the visual creatures they are.
If your man is squeezing his eyes shut (unless the lights are off and it’s dark), then that would be a giveaway 😂

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