Should I apologise to my previous hairdresser and ask to return?

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I fell out with my hairdrer because I thought I had reacted to her hair dye. It wasn't the hair dye, it was shingles. The hairdresser was upset and got rid of me. I went somewhere else and the new hairdresser coloured it too dark and I dont like it. I showed her a photo of what it looked like from the previous salon and she said she couldn't tell the colour as it was a photo. She kept insisting my hair was dark brown so I need dark brown dye. When I went to my previous salon I had had it coloured elsewhere and I was told it was too dark so she lightened it slightly and I was pleased with it. Now I've gone back to the too dark shade at the new salon.

I want to return to my previous salon to show them how dark it is and get their opinion and im sure they will agree that it's too dark.

All I can do is call and apologise and hope the hairdresser will take me back. The new salon is more expensive and £30 more for a colour and blow dry. The only good thing is the new salon is 15 minutes walk from home whereas the pre house salon is a 15 minute journey by public transport and then a 10 minute ute walk to the salon

Aren't 5 pages of responses enough OP? This is your 2nd thread about your hair issues 🙄

Yes, I think you could be right or maybe wrong, but how does this affect you moving hairdressers?

I think this OP writes threads just to wind people up

No, surely no-one would be that desperate for attention to make stuff up😂

This isn't correct. They would only patch test you if you haven't had colour with them before, if you haven't had colour with them in 12 months, or they have changed colour brand.

Most people get their colour done (on scalp application) every 4 to 6 weeks so doesn't make sense to have to patch test.

I think she’s bumping it specifically about the Kate Middleton wearing hair pieces, and wants someone to answer her question about that,

Hard to tell with this OP though. She’s probably fallen out with Kate, so can’t ask her directly…

Still not sure who the fuck Albert is.

If I called my salon about a reaction they would be sympathetic and trying to help me. Which makes me wonder you said and how you said it.

Hairdresser here…..I wouldn’t re patch test a client who i colour regularly. You only need to redo a patch test after 6 months if the client has not had a colour with you for 6 months or longer but if you were having the colour regular and were not having a reaction then there was no need for your hairdresser to re test.

My new hairdresser uses a heat protecting spray before drying my hair. My previous hairdresser never used heat protecting spray because she said unless you are using straighteners or curling tongs there is no need to use heat protecting spray for just blow drying.

Is it a particular stylist you fell out with op? Let’s call her Debbie.
I would call up with a fake name and said you want to check which days Debbie’s working as you’d love to Make an appointment with her as you’ve heard she’s good! (Hope Debbie doesn’t answer but you can say your mum told you her colleague had recommended but can’t remember colleague name will tell you when you come in!) then note the days she works.
then call back on a day Debbie isn’t working being yourself, saying you’ve moved to Scotland and the salon there was done your hair too dark and you used to love coming here as Debbie does your hair nicely can they please check the colour notes so that you can tell your Scottish stylist. Then tell your new stylist the color motes.

Also my currenthairdresser uses a hair mask as she said it makes my hair soft. My previous hairdresser never used a mask and my hair came out just as soft.

I told my new stylist that as a child my mum used to put egg yolk on my gaur as she read it was goid. My stylist said egg yolk on hair us no more beneficial than other products but ive just googled and it said eggyolk contains vitamins which are added to hair and is very good.

What's any of this got to do with your original question?

Nothing I just thought I would add it

I cannot and will not do that. First of all the stylist who you called Debbie is the owner who works every day. The other stylist only works every Friday. Ive now got used to the colour which was done last Friday. I washed it earlier and some of the colour came out so when it's prooerly dry it should look a bit lighter

OP you sound potentially ND hyperfixating on certain things but also, incredibly entitled. What industry do you work in? Would you be happy to be treated how you have treated your hairdresser(s)?
Also, it is glaringly obvious that Kate Middleton wears hair pieces given the frequent changes and volume of her hair, but not relevant to your original question.

The industry i work in js nobody's business on mumsnet. I also do not like being told o am ND. I have two very good friends whom ive known for years and they have not ever told me I am ND. I like to be around respectful people. I have this on off friendship with someone who is friendly one minute and rude the next. I recently had a holiday and she wanted to see my holiday photos. I showed her and she said she didn't like them. I said you asked to see them and she said tes but photos of the town. I then sent her photos of the town and she said she wasn't interested in them. That is extremely rude so I got rid of her. Im not giving her any more chances. There are nicer people I can have in my life

I know you don’t like being told you’re ND, but I would still stake my last quid on it with tremendous confidence.

What did I just read?!

You don’t like it, but your workplace assessment suggested you had autistic traits, and it’s pretty plain from your posts on here. Whether the two friends you’ve never fallen out with have ever told you you’te ND is irrelevant. It wouldn’t be not ‘respectful’ if they had. And what your holiday photos have to do with neurodiversity is anyone’s guess.

Ok so if you think it's not respectful for friends to say i am ND then why do people on here think it's OK to tell me I am ND. I mentioned the photos to show people what a nasty person j was dealing with.

She said it wouldn’t be “not respectful”.

If I take the trouble to show my photos to someone and they say oh im not interested , then that is very rude. I showed the same photos to someone else and they said thank you they look lovely

Do, you can recongnise rude behaviour. Just not, apparently, when it’s you.

Agreed! Reading this thread is giving me me a headache. OP reminds me of Dah’s cousin who falls out with people constantly and has to get new hairdressers and nail technicians. It’s always everyone else’s fault

But we don’t need to know about this random nasty person who is not (I assume) any of the hairdressers mentioned on this thread.