What is an experience you never want to experience again in your lifetime?

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The most stressful time in my life started about 7 years ago and went on for 2 years and my mental health took an absolute battering and im still not over it. And now im super paranoid about it happening again.

I had bedbugs and a rat problem under the bath at the same time and pest control were useless.
i had a toddler at the time and their was 7 of us and I was advise to put everything we owned (twice) in the garden while they tried to get the bedbugs under control. I had to wash every soft furnishing and beds, draws, wardrobes had to be emptied and placed outside in bags in the sun. Only thing that was allowed in the house was furniture. I had postnatal depression at the time and I just remember sitting in the garden with everything we owned (twice). With the rats they were running around under the bath and were huge. My bathroom is downstairs and they’d chewed from the outside in, the smell was not normal and the noise all day from them scurrying around 🤮
It finally got resolved after 2 years but at that point I was shot to bits. I don’t think people realise how traumatic it is the live with a bedbugs. I’m so paranoid about getting them again I try and stay away from public transport and hotels or I will research the shit out of them before booking and even then I’m hyper vigilant and can’t sleep.

What is something you never want to go though again?

I think it was a very insensitive comment.
A neighbour said the same thing at a gathering recently and the room went silent.
Studies have shown that how damaging and traumatic the lockdowns were for people.
Better to be kind than flippant imo

Sitting in that office waiting for the midwife as the scan had shown our baby had died. Even to this day I don't remember much of the following weeks, just flashes, I assume it is my brains way of dealing with the trauma.

She would have been 19 years old this year.

A hangover - the self loathing, regret, and anxiety....
Being cheated on.

I agree. It wasn’t lovely or peaceful and I felt absolutely desperate. The warm spring made things even worse. Awful time

Root canal work

He’s missing? Omg I’m so sorry

What a very traumatic and sad thread.

I’m not sure it should have been started and definitely should come with a warning.

It was a tragic nightmare for me and so many others so how dare you say it was enjoyable!

The last thing she said to me as the morphine kicked in was "don't leave me". So I didn't. It took a week and was awful.

They say time heals, but really, I think it just brings acceptance.

Sorry for your loss, and to all the others on this thread. Big hugs to you all.

Oh, my. How awful. I wish you peace.

Oh, where to begin.... 🤷‍♀️😵‍💫

I quite literally hate that people can be so narrow in their thinking. We can understand the pain & sorrow of Covid while acknowledging we were fortunate not to have been as badly affected as others. Humans are capable of lots of emotions, and certainly more than one at a time.

For me, it’s discovering that I won’t live to see my only child become an adult and realising that I’ll be leaving her orphaned. I have no capable family who can take her, my late DH/her late Dad’s family want nothing to do with her so she will be in care in her critical teen years 💔 This was a realisation of absolute hopelessness and feeling of abject failure. Not my fault that it will happen, I know, but I’m supposed to care for her and raise her as her mother and I won’t be there…

So nobody is permitted to enjoy something because you had a bad time? If only life worked like that. Just be thankful that these people who enjoyed lockdown, actually adhered to it!

Is there any chance of arranging an open adoption?

I'm so sorry for your situation. 💐

Come on to fuck. Allow people to talk about their own experiences without shitting on them. Just fucking stop it.

This is so heartbreaking.

I wish I knew you in real life.

Same. I would do everything I could to try and stop my children living in the poverty I grew up with.

A motorcycle accident that left me badly injured and put me in hospital for three months. Yes, I was the driver. Awful.

That Nicole Kidman movie, Babygirl. What utter shite!

They do not offer you a C-section. I asked if I could have one and was told giving birth naturally was the best option. There was no discussion, and given my state of mind at being told my baby was dead I did not have the fortitude or fight to push for one either. So patients are kind of made to go through it because it is never presented as an option. I volunteer with women that have experienced stillbirth and disagree the vast majority decline because they do not want to have a scar. They could not care less about the scar. They do so because they have not been offered an alternative.

I do not know what an IUD birth is but a stillbirth is quicker because the patient has been given a high dose of drugs to kick start the birth (drugs that do not always work). This still results in hours and hours of labour, no one would willingly choose this.

Yep. Absolutely nobody, not one single person, has said they enjoyed or benefits from lockdown because of other people's suffering. It's so fucking holier than thou. People had different experiences. I didn't enjoy lockdown per se (I did enjoy aspects of it) but I sure as hell benefited from it and I continue to benefit from my changed work culture and work-life balance. There are lessons in that for me, for my family, for how I navigate my own life and - especially - negative events. Why the hell should anyone have to pretend their experiences, life changing experiences, didn't happen? Covid happened to all of us.

Having my eyebrows threaded.

Unfair dismissal because someone was jealous of me. We reached a settlement but the money has run out and I'm still out of work and I can't tell people that's why I left.

Not read the whole thread, but was also traumatised by bed bugs and the hideous process of eradicating them, so I can 100% relate to the OP. I still have to travel for work a fair bit and we keep a huge 1980’s chest freezer in the garage to stash/freeze luggage in for a couple of days after arriving home. Sounds v v OTT but I honestly think I could not go through bed bugs again especially with an autistic child who would lose his mind.

I would never sky dive again either. It caused hideous pain in my sinuses the entire way down. My agonised face in the tandem jump photo looks like I’ve just taken a red hot poker to the arsehole. Medics could find no cause for the sinus pain but quite reasonably advised me not to jump out of any more planes!