I felt humiliated today

[pinenuts75]

At work today my manager brought us some treats in for Easter, I had a biscuit and was eating it on the shop floor, she actually told me off I felt like a naughty school girl, she told me to hide it, I felt so humiliated, this isn’t the first time she’s done things like this, is she bullying me?

If you are public/client facing then you should not eat unless you are on a break.

How often do you see paramedics, teachers, vets, actors on stage, beauty therapists etc snacking whilst working - it’s very unprofessional.

She should have had a quiet word with you but you were 100% in the wrong.

Just accept that you did wrong and don’t do it again, that’s all.

They might be at the telling off in front of customers and other staff. Hugely unprofessional and doesn't help towards staff-manager good relations.

I agree …. And that’s as obvious as not eating on the shop floor - both unprofessional

You clearly don’t get it. It’s common sense. It might not be a rule that’s written down or maybe it is written down (or should be). I cannot remember ever being in a shop where the staff were eating EVER. That’s in 50 years too. It doesn’t matter what it was or how long it took to eat. It’s unprofessional. That’s perhaps why you have an issue with your manager!

I think this is the problem, she’s ok with everyone else, and has took a dislike to me, i can’t figure it out though, she’s even said in one breath how much better it’s running as she’s swapped my role, so surely she should be happy, I mean I didn’t argue with her obviously over the biscuit, but I just felt so belittled, i nervously laughed it off.

So what if she doesn't like you. Don't do stuff wrong then you'll not be told off duhhhh

overall i get what your saying sometimes damned if you do and damned if you dont but overall its a teachable moment

Me too

Yes!

Can you tell us some other examples of the way she’s singling you out?

Duhhh

They’re not being paid to serve customers!

It must be awful to feel picked up, but just to be clear what happened, did a single other member of staff take the food onto the shop floor, or did everyone else finish it in the staff room and you were the only one still eating in front of customers?

I'd have thought it was obvious that you don't eat on the shop floor, it looks shabby and careless.

Talks to everyone else and not me, when I received a gift card card for colleague of the month, she said oh we are just waiting for you to leave then we don’t have to give it to you.

Ok I hold my hands up I shouldn’t have eaten a biscuit on the shop floor, but she shouldn’t have belittled me the way she did either

do you have hobbies or intrests that you know she likes to talk with others about ?

see thats a fair comment and point.

Of course you can't! You are an employee and are expected to act in a professional manner!

That sounds like a poor joke to me. What did anyone else say about it?

If you really are being singled out, others will have noticed.

However eating a biscuit on the shop floor is not a good example, you should have known better.

I’ve seen others eating too, maybe she just didn’t see them

I would say the manager was worse! It's their job (and reflection in pay and position) to manage staff professionally.

She wasn’t laughing when she said it, my other manager just laughed, I just laughed it off but felt stupid,

I worked in retail for years and the rule was you eat in the staff room on your break. Its not exactly rocket science is it!!

We were allowed water on hot days in the shop I worked in, but not food-an exception was made for one girl because she had diabetes, so she was allowed when needed. I think if it is necessary for medical reasons, they usually allow it.
She was 17, which I only mention because I have seen people complain about the term "girl" being used.