I felt humiliated today

[pinenuts75]

At work today my manager brought us some treats in for Easter, I had a biscuit and was eating it on the shop floor, she actually told me off I felt like a naughty school girl, she told me to hide it, I felt so humiliated, this isn’t the first time she’s done things like this, is she bullying me?

Of course customers can eat and drink. They’re perusing a shop in their free time. You’re working there and should be professional.

You sound like a petulant teenager.

Perhaps she doesn't like you because you ghave no idea how to behave professionally. I wouldn't expect staff to be eating on the shop floor. I wouldn't expect customers to be wandering about eating either.

How old are you OP? Your responses read like you're about 12 and this is your first job?

Goodness. Where on earth did you get that idea from!!! 🤔

Why did you think the rule of not eating on the shop floor meant you could eat a biscuit on the shop floor?
I don't think telling you not to eat on the shop floor is bullying.

She may dislike you and take it out on you.
Sounds like she may have a reason as you come accross as stubborn not being able to understand basic work etiquette or acknowlege when you are in the wrong.

I have a colleague with similar behaviour and its become hard over the years to be around her.

You cannot eat on a shop floor.

I get where you’re coming from. This is when things can be really hard at work. A person does micro things all the time that they don’t do to others that make you feel small. Because they’re not overt things you question whether it’s a big deal or not. A lot of people are focusing on the biscuit when it clearly isn’t about that but the overall way this woman is treating you. The comment re when you won that prize is either just a really bad joke or just mean. It’s hard to get a sense of the whole context which I appreciate it is hard to do in posts. Is there someone you can speak to who manages her? I’m not sure a confrontation is worth it as I think it’s unlikely she will accept anything said about her behaviour or try understand your perspective. Might there be somewhere you can move within the company? Best wishes.

This thread has been derailed by biscuitgate so OP hasn't resolved her underlying question.

OP feels bullied at work and that's a serious issue. I've been picked on relentlessly by a manager and it's exhausting and upsetting, especially when you know you're doing a great job.

OP, talk to the other manager. Take some concrete examples. Real things not examples where you're breaking company rules. If that doesn't work, go above their head.

You shouldn't have to leave because a company can't deal with a poor manager.

Op can uou give other examples of how she picks on you?

obvs eating a biscuit on the shop floor isn’t acceptable and she was in the right to say something, and you’ve accepted that. But other than she doesn’t chat and have a laugh with you, you’ve not really explained.

id think is it your behaviour. You come across as belligerent, and I do wonder if you are difficult to manage, like you think you know it all and can do as you please, so don’t need a manager telling you what to do. I also sense you dislike her, and I’d examine what’s beneath that.

School holidays still innit?! 😅
I think somebody might be bored....

Is anyone else curious about what this biscuit could be that took so long to eat that it was still going after walking from the staff room to the shop floor?

Where can I buy these biscuits that last longer than 10 seconds?

You say she singles you out and you disagree with anyone on here that doesn’t see this minor incident the same way as you and aren’t aware of any of the basic rules at work. I don’t think your manager is the problem here.

I think it’s fine to eat a biscuit in the shop, unless you work at Chanel, Hermes, Harrods or Selfridges. I think most other places the public would forgive you!!
If you’re working somewhere ‘normal’ I think your manager is a bit of a twat, as are most retail managers imo. Xo

You don’t get free biscuits in the job centre, OP. Eating not allowed there either.

Yeah I’d be put off buying in a shop if staff were eating in say a clothes shop. Wouldn’t want to buy something that may have been touched by biscuit hands

This comment makes you seem very young - first job?

If you aren't/it's not, then you really need to relax. Going up to your boss and asking "don't you liiiike meeee?" is so immature.

I can see the managers point, it isn't professional to be chomping on a biscuit on the shop floor. What if a customer approaches you to ask something, and you've got a mouthful of biscuit? That looks rude. Not to mention the risk of crumbs and dirt spreading on to the merchandise.

Just take the telling off on the chin, and move on. And if you really think she's bullying you, just start looking for a new job.

This thread takes the biscuit!

BA DUM TISH! 😂

Brang?

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I am trying to think, have I ever seen a member of staff on the shop floor eating and I honestly can’t say I have.

OP, I get from your perspective it was a little thing but there are standards in all areas of the workplace. It is part of your managers role to uphold these standards if they see them starting to slip, surely.

As for your comments about being made to feel that you don’t belong there, that is another matter. It is your job, own it! Feeling you are
being bullied is a serious matter. What steps can you take to address this, rather than letting it stew and allowing it to affect your confidence and sense of job security.

Past tense of bring, same meaning as brought. Perfectly reasonable British dialect, where have you been?

A rusk?

How appropriate! 😁