Partner hasn’t paid our holiday and now cancelled …would you be angry ?

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We had a holiday to Mexico booked.
It cost £3,900
Every month i have been transferring him £300 for 6 months for my half.
He has told me today its been cancelled as he only paid the £500 deposit
He said he was borrowing in to the money and was going to pay it back but before he knew it he had to find the £3,400 and could only pay £2,000 off it so Tui have cancelled it.

Im so angry
He’s told me he will just book it last minute in June and we can still okay.
He said from next month he’s putting away £1,000
Im so mad

I would be raging!! I would also be demanding my money back and if not he would be an ex partner. Also what has he been spending YOUR money on because that’s stealing!!

Why can't people just read and/or post replies without doing a background search on the OP and posting details from their other threads? It's so creepy.

I honestly think it’s just rage bait at this point.

I speak from personal experience OP when I say that you will never see your £1800 again. Each month the £300 you gave him went straight to the bookies on 1 or 2 bets.

I was married to a gambler - I supported him for a while, as I thought he was attending GA and was doing well. It didn’t affect me massively as we had separate accounts and I earned a lot more than him. However, it didn’t last long and the final straw for me was him stealing £800 cash from my purse that I had to pay the joiner who was sorting some decking in the garden.

I chucked him out after that. He didn’t pay maintenance for months, so in the end, he gave me his debit card and I would have to go to the cashpoint on payday before the bookies opened to get my maintenance. He would then go into the bank and draw the rest out and go and put the whole lot on a horse.

No other way to describe him other than a fucking, sad, loser. Your partner is the same and will bleed you dry if you stay with him.

I’d be livid! £300 a month is a lot of money. I’m not sure I could look at him the same way again OP

You are both deluded. Why keep booking holidays, your partner must be in huge debt and fat chance of seeing your money back.

It’s not creepy - it’s because names seem familiar after you’ve given the same advice to the same poster.

You check and then you realise it’s not worth wasting your time.

Angry? I would dump over this (once I had my money back)

How fucking dare he steal from you like that?! What has he spent your money on?
Is it correct he has a gambling problem? If so, what on earth made you think you should hand over large amounts of money to him?

Do you live with this idiot? Does he have anything he can sell to repay you?

Demand your money back! What a git!

That’s basically fraud. When you say partner, how involved are you?

You can't give a compulsive gambler money, you just can't. It's not that he's a terrible person it's that he can't control himself. It's the equivalent of buying an alcoholic bottles of wine and expecting them not to drink! Having said that he should've known this was an awful idea and told you NOT to send him any money under any circumstances.

If he 'only' has £2000 to pay towards the holiday he can immediately transfer your £1800 back to you. When he books a holiday you will have the money available to pay your share. We all know your money is long gone. Do something useful with your anger and get him out of your life.

You need to break up. He's untrustworthy and an addict. There's a few things here;
£1950pp/ nearly 4k for a holiday for two for is high luxury, but neither of you can afford it. Why were you looking at such a high end holiday in the first place!? I would think you'd be safer saving up, then spending what you have saved. You are clearly both a bit crap with money, you need savings set aside for emergencies which I'm assuming you don't have if you were giving him £300 a month. Buy up front, what you can actually afford and book something that doesn't leave you with £0 in your bank for a rainy day.
Seondly, why would you ever give any money to a man you know has a gambling problem. This seems wildly naive... Of course, I'm not saying he's not to blame, he is, but it's totally irresponsible to assume this wouldn't happen.
Either way, he's not someone you can trust or build a life with right now. Get out of there. And only book holidays you can genuinely afford, even if it means saving for a while to book them.

I would also bet thay he doesn't have your money. You have to ask for it back

I couldn’t be with someone who did that, I’d tell him its over . It’s likely to happen again.

You brought this on yourself op, I'm sorry to say.

Agree and as in this case it gives a lot more context to the situation. It’s showing here this isn’t a one off isolated incident, it’s the latest in a long line of unreasonable behaviour

Yep, creepy, aggressive and self-righteous.

What a twat not even having the decency to tell you before hand definitely not a keeper get your money and get rid he’s been spending your hard earned cash looking you in the eye he’s a thief, liar and coward.

April and May's £1,000 need to be put away directly with you so you have the money you paid him back.

If you decide to stay with him (from the little you've told us, I wouldn't) then when he's saved the next £2,000 you can look together for a last minute and decide if you want to go. Don't let him keep the money you paid him to use towards whatever he wants to book last minute. Insist on having it back first, keep hold of it yourself and make sure you have transparency on the holiday you end up booking. Also, make sure the £500 deposit you lost comes out of his money and doesn't mean you have to pay more.

He'd be gone if it was me. Life is too short and precious to waste it with an idiot and a liar of a man who is bad with money (at best) or a scammer. Nope.

This is absolutely appalling behaviour. I don't think that I could personally stay in a relationship with someone as dishonest and feckless as this. So sorry this has happened to you, especially when you have been working hard to put the money aside for the holiday. I would demand he pays your share back and I would use the funds to book to go somewhere nice with a friend.

He owes you £1800 + say, 4% interest.

You mean ex partner surely?

I could never look at him the same. He lied and stole from you.