Partner hasn’t paid our holiday and now cancelled …would you be angry ?

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We had a holiday to Mexico booked.
It cost £3,900
Every month i have been transferring him £300 for 6 months for my half.
He has told me today its been cancelled as he only paid the £500 deposit
He said he was borrowing in to the money and was going to pay it back but before he knew it he had to find the £3,400 and could only pay £2,000 off it so Tui have cancelled it.

Im so angry
He’s told me he will just book it last minute in June and we can still okay.
He said from next month he’s putting away £1,000
Im so mad

She started a thread at the beginning of the month saying that once the bills are paid every penny he earns goes on gambling. He spent 800 pounds in one day and a grand in two days in December.

He also begs her for money to top him up when he's spent his and sulks if she doesn't give him any. He's gambled the lot. She knows this

He's probably created a situation where he could get more money to gamble by saying he would pay for the holiday and taking her share

She won't get it back. He's gambled the lot

I have some sympathy for the OP if what other posters have said regarding her posting previously about his gambling. I understand it’s not easy to break a relationship but I feel she has to take some responsibility for continually feeding his addiction with small amounts and then trusting him with larger amounts.

OP, please seek help from Gam-Anon ( gamanon.org.uk ) and/or Women’s Aid ( womensaid.org.uk ). However much you love him, you and he need help to stop this.

Angry beyond words and trust gone .

Really? That's not good. I looked the history up and was taken aback. Nevertheless, it's sad, and also shows a reliance on MN. I guess it's good that she's getting some support somewhere.
Who are we to judge?

On another woman?

He's a gambler. The OP knows this

So many red flags here. I’d be very worried for what this means for your future.

Cheeky fucker! That’s theft make sure he pays you back and dump his sorry arse

He's not going to pay her back and I don't think she's going to dump him

Like I am guessing 95% of the people here, I have a question.

Are you totally positive he did not spend the money you sent him?

His story just seems a bit "convenient" to me.

He has let you down badly, no doubt about that. But not everyone is being very practical saying just demand your money back and rid yourself of him. If he simply doesn't have it, he can't pay it back even if he wanted to. You need to get to the bottom of the reasons why the cancellation happened, what happened to the money, why he didn't discuss the problem with you first , what his overall priorities are and how shared expenditure is going to be properly and reliably budgeted for going forwards including whether a last minute replacement holiday is enough to make amends or compounds the issues for you

Then you can decide whether you and he can make an attempt to overcome this issue, or whether the relationship is permanently damaged and if so then make your exit plans. It is not always that simply to demand money back and get repaid in full and throw someone out.

@Seajaye The last post on this thread was over 4 months ago - your advice is probably bit late

Yes agreed. It came up as a trending thread in a email and I didn't notice the date of the post

This is terrible on so many levels. He was spending your holiday money, on what exactly? I wouldn’t be able to stay with someone after that kind of deception. What else is he lying about? Also what makes him think he’s going to get a last minute booking for the same holiday? No he’s shifty as hell. 🚩

He's gambled it, hasn't he?

This is theft. He has stolen your money.

He needs to repay you all the money he stole and I would end the relationship. This would be a deal breaker for me.

Reader, she married him (and has since posted various other threads about him being a dickhead).

So was this your replacement holiday? I really hope he paid…

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5548977-would-you-mind-if-your-partner-left-you-on-holiday?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

Is this one of her posts as well? I read this one too... not knowing it was the same person.
"Fool you once shame on them... fool you twice shame on you..."

My motto is "once bitten, twice as shy"