Partner hasn’t paid our holiday and now cancelled …would you be angry ?

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We had a holiday to Mexico booked.
It cost £3,900
Every month i have been transferring him £300 for 6 months for my half.
He has told me today its been cancelled as he only paid the £500 deposit
He said he was borrowing in to the money and was going to pay it back but before he knew it he had to find the £3,400 and could only pay £2,000 off it so Tui have cancelled it.

Im so angry
He’s told me he will just book it last minute in June and we can still okay.
He said from next month he’s putting away £1,000
Im so mad

Borrowing for what? And why? Sorry OP 💐 i'd be absolutely livid

I doubt she can get her money back. Hewill have gambled it. There is no way anyone with someone with a gambling addiction who begs for money and blows through hundreds didn’t realise he’d be gambling the holiday money away too.

He's a common thief.
If you stay with him, you can't say you didn't know.

Unbelievably behaviour.
Talk about low class.

So not only did he 'borrow' the money you were putting by but he wasn't actually saving anything himself? So he owes you your half of the deposit that's been lost as well as all the money he's been taking off you. What are the chances of you getting that back any time soon? I'd tell him you are not remotely interested in re-booking, you'd rather he focused on getting you back the money he stole from you.

And you should leave him. This isn't going to get any better.

Sorry OP but why on earth would you leave him responsible for this knowing full well he can't be trusted around money. You really need to raise your bar. He does this because he knows he can.

Having just skimmed the OP’s other threads she must be on the wind up, surely?

Do you have mug written on your forehead? Why would you transfer him the money knowing he has a gambling addiction? I don’t you’ll see a penny back. You could have got him to transfer you money.

Im really sorry, OP, he’s a pos.

He stole £1800 from you. Where is your money?

Um yeah.... Leave him 🚩🚩🚩

This! I’d be seeing this as a red flag.,taking your money and Straight up lying to you for months on end! What else is he lying about? Hope your eyes are wide open now

So , he’s stolen £1800 of your money , I’m sorry for me this would be the end of the road for this relationship
he’s had 6 months to let you know he was struggling to save his half but every month he’s taken your money and said nothing . He is simply a thief .

He stole your money and lied to you over a sustained period of time and let the holiday get cancelled before he owned up. Whether it’s gambling, debt or supporting another woman doesn’t matter, what matters is the lying.

There’s no future here. Check your credit score carefully to make sure there’s no secret debt in your name. I would get legal advice on the money as you may be able to take him to small claims court, though chances are you won’t get it back.

You can’t trust him. He’s stolen money off you, lied to you and only admitted it when he had to.

leave him and don’t look back.

That would be a reason to break up for me. I see that as theft.

I don’t understand why you would give £300 a month of your money to someone with a gambling problem.

OP you really need to smell the coffee. Just get the fuck out as this is never going to change.

He pays you back your money - including your share of the deposit - right now.

IF he does that and he’s very apologetic, it might be ok to stay with him.

If not run for the hills - this is dishonest and unreliable behaviour. You could never trust or have kids with this man.

Then investigate legal options - the small claims court possibly? Do not be in any doubt that this is serious and completely unacceptable behaviour. If he can’t pay you back, where did the money go? Does he have debt or is he a drug addict? More reasons to get out now.

This

I agree. I've known junkies who've stayed clean, and alcoholics who've stayed sober, but I've never known a gambling addict who's managed to stop.

You would have had to scrape me off the bloody ceiling !

OP has started previous threads saying he’s got a gambling problem so I think we can take a guess where the money has gone and what chance she’s got of getting it back.

This.

Bet there's a deeper issue the OP is about to find out. If he can't pay her back immediately red flag, klaxon and flashing lights.

He should cover the £500 list in its entirety.

When you say partner , How long have you been together , and how enmeshed as you ?
Kids , live together etc .
I get he's had your £1800 ( aka basically stole it ) but perhaps that's worth it rather than realise he's such a shit years down the road .
Hope he's about to become an ex .

She's taken £300 off you every month for six months, never saying a word?

Where is your money? Has he given it back to you? And - why do you still call him your partner? Shouldn't he be an ex by now?

Wow he is a liar and a their whete has it gone?