Partner hasn’t paid our holiday and now cancelled …would you be angry ?

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We had a holiday to Mexico booked.
It cost £3,900
Every month i have been transferring him £300 for 6 months for my half.
He has told me today its been cancelled as he only paid the £500 deposit
He said he was borrowing in to the money and was going to pay it back but before he knew it he had to find the £3,400 and could only pay £2,000 off it so Tui have cancelled it.

Im so angry
He’s told me he will just book it last minute in June and we can still okay.
He said from next month he’s putting away £1,000
Im so mad

I got confused at that. Going by his history the money is gone either way. But so you mean he is saying your share is still there but he hasn’t paid his, or has he admitted to spending your money?

He’s a liar and a thief, not characteristics I’d look for in a partner!

What has he spent YOUR money on every month?

he has effectively stolen from you.

get that £1800 back & tell him that he needs to give you money to rebook.

that being said, is this the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with?

That would have been a relationship ender for me even without the gambling issue.

Why on earth are you with him OP?

I would be byond angry.

He won't put away £1k pcm - and if he does, insist that he gives it to YOU as you were doing for him.

Get your £1800 back (if possible)

But back in the real world

Dump him. Get yourself free. You GAVE him that money knowing that he is a gambling, lying cheat.

Do the Freedom Programme.

“Would you be angry?”

I’d be fucking livid, yes. He’s basically stolen £1800 from you. And lied.

For God's sake OP, having read your other post, just leave him. He's not going to change and this is no way to live. Why do so many women put up with this kind of crap?

he is a liar and a thief. rebooking isn't the point. its irrelevant actually.

he's taken your money for months and has been spending it while lying he was paying off a holiday. you can't trust him a single bit. get rid.

Why do so many women put up with this kind of crap?

Some women just cannot bear the thought of being single. For those women, any man - no matter how awful he is - is better than no man.
It's very sad .

You knowingly gave money to a gambling addict, and then wonder why this happened?

You should have dumped him a long time ago.

OP where are you........?

Did you honestly not stop and think that you'd be handing money over to someone with a gambling addiction?

How can he even suggest he rebooks, where's he going to find money for the rebook as well as returning the £1800 that he's stolen from you.

He's been deceitful, you've been lucky, if it had been something you needed to of saved up for for a few years you could have lost money big time, but it was a soon to be holiday, fortunately, he got caught out.

Unless he does change his ways, maybe even getting help there's possibility you're going to be in for a life of debt if you choose to stay with him.

you got yerself a wrongun there!

Just read your other threads, this is rhe least of your issues, you must have known he was robbing you.; and you can’t possibly beleive you’re going to Mexico

OK, so while you've saved £300 for 6 months (£1,800) he's managed to add £200 to that. But somehow, miraculously, from 'next month' he can save £1,000. (or the next unicorn month, or the next...)

What rubbish! He will never save. He will never win enough on his gambling.

Get your money back, use it for a deposit on your own place to rent.

So he's stolen your money?

Have you found any of the replies on your threads about this boyfriend useful OP?

You don't need to keep him on, he's robbing you in money, time and life.

If it is cancelled where has the money gone? Check the terms and conditions to see what you may have been entitled to as a refund by cancelling now. He does not sound much of a partner, has he form for being untrustworthy or having expensive habits.

Leave him.
Lying about finances is a big deal.
Get your money back first though.

That’s unforgivable! I couldn’t be with someone who did that. You have lost a holiday that you paid for in good faith to be ripped off by somebody you should be able to trust!

LTB

You yourself are gambling on your future if you stay with him and the odds that there will be a happy, financially secure ending are not good.

What do you actually get out of this relationship OP? Other than stress and being robbed and lied to?

I think you need some help to work out why your bar is so, so low.

And you allowed a proven gambling addict to be in charge of booking the family holiday?
Ultimately he’s the person at fault but you surely need to be a bit realistic. It’s like putting an alcoholic in a brewery and expecting them to stay sober.

Get your money back and dump him.

I'd imagine the OP DP has been gambling it.