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Partner hasn’t paid our holiday and now cancelled …would you be angry ?

311 replies

inkyspells · 24/03/2026 14:54

We had a holiday to Mexico booked.
It cost £3,900
Every month i have been transferring him £300 for 6 months for my half.
He has told me today its been cancelled as he only paid the £500 deposit
He said he was borrowing in to the money and was going to pay it back but before he knew it he had to find the £3,400 and could only pay £2,000 off it so Tui have cancelled it.

Im so angry
He’s told me he will just book it last minute in June and we can still okay.
He said from next month he’s putting away £1,000
Im so mad

OP posts:
PoshLady90 · 24/03/2026 14:55

Omg thats awful. I would demand my money back now and refuse to send him anything ever again. I couldnt trust him

GeorgeMichaelsCat · 24/03/2026 14:56

So he basically didn't save for it himself? Shows you how shit he is with money then. Not a good look.

Fuckitydoodah · 24/03/2026 14:57

I'd be absolutely livid and struggle to trust him ever again.

YerMotherWasAHamster · 24/03/2026 14:58

You should be mad. He's been stealing from you.
Forget the holiday, tell him to repay you.
Then dump his thieving arse.

hollyandribbon · 24/03/2026 14:58

I’d tell him to give you your £1800 back right now for starters…

CandiedPrincess · 24/03/2026 14:58

I'd be absolutely fuming and I would never trust him with money again. Where has the money gone?

Peoplemakemedespair · 24/03/2026 14:58

Op get your money back IMMEDIATELY. To me this makes him a liar and a thief, as well as clearly irresponsible and unreliable. And he only confessed when his hand was forced after the holiday was cancelled. I shouldn’t need to tell you the rest of your relationship is likely to be utterly shit if you stay with him.

Fends · 24/03/2026 14:59

He won’t have just lost £500. Tell him you want your money back now!

tilypu · 24/03/2026 14:59

Definitely get your money back from him.

And don't get joint finances.

It sounds like he is not financially responsible. Honestly I would be reconsidering the relationship based on that, because the trust would be gone - the fact that he didn't mention it means he has been lying by omission.

Fuckitydoodah · 24/03/2026 14:59

Also, it's likely to cost a lot more if you rebook due to cost of fuel/oil thanks to Trump.

TwistedWonder · 24/03/2026 14:59

Has he refunded your money?

Starlight1979 · 24/03/2026 14:59

hollyandribbon · 24/03/2026 14:58

I’d tell him to give you your £1800 back right now for starters…

I would bet my house on the fact that he doesn't have the money to give her back....

reddaisyandcake · 24/03/2026 15:00

He's lied to you, stolen your money and minimised it rather than taking accountability. Why did he keep it? 6 months is a long time to lie to your face and keep accepting your money.

Coconutter24 · 24/03/2026 15:00

So you’ve given him £1500? So what’s he planning to do get a cheap last minute deal? What if the cost of a last minute holiday only costs £800? Will he transfer you back the difference? I wouldn’t want to go anywhere with him but I’d also want my money back!

MaggieFS · 24/03/2026 15:00

You can’t trust him. Where has the money gone? Are you otherwise linked (kids/financially?)

WeepingAngelInTheTardis · 24/03/2026 15:00

Tell him to return the money to you immediately.

Meadowfinch · 24/03/2026 15:01

He's financially incompetent and a liar.

Get your money back and then separate. You'll never be able to trust him with a mortgage or shared bills. He's a liability.

Hoppinggreen · 24/03/2026 15:01

He has stolen money from you
Dump him

wyntersun · 24/03/2026 15:01

Has he given you the money back?

CrocusesFlowering · 24/03/2026 15:03

Why are you giving him money ? You know he’s a gambling addict.

BreadInCaptivity · 24/03/2026 15:03

I think there’s a high probability you’ve lost the holiday and the money.

Now time to lose the feckless partner.

wheretoyougonow · 24/03/2026 15:04

Any chance he’s a secret gambler?
I would be absolutely furious and very disappointed and sad. How are you supposed to be in a relationship where there is deception.
You need to get your money back and find out what he was using it for.

Do not get joint bank accounts and make sure you don’t get joint credit/loans etc.

stayathomegardener · 24/03/2026 15:05

If you can’t get your money back perhaps see it as a cost related to finding out what a duplicitous twat he is and dump his sorry arse.

Save yourself a fortune and heartbreak in the long run.

AutumnLover1990 · 24/03/2026 15:05

I'd want to know where your money has gone for starters 😔

Starlight1979 · 24/03/2026 15:05

CrocusesFlowering · 24/03/2026 15:03

Why are you giving him money ? You know he’s a gambling addict.

Just read the OPs other threads.

Fucking unbelievable.

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