Would you rather be in a room full of people all talking about how brilliant you are, or in an empty room by yourself?

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I would choose the empty room every time.

Apparently it's a 'test' to see how introverted or extroverted someone is.

The reason I'm posting is because I am struggling to believe anyone would choose the room full of people. Am I wrong and blinkered?

Empty room. I don't need external validation. And I'm not keen on being a room with loads of people.

I had to check this wasn’t something I’d posted under an old username 😂 I’m definitely an introvert, and may have been described as having narcissistic tendencies before now, but I’d definitely choose the room full of people.

If it was a choice of a room of people talking about anything other than how brilliant I was and an empty room, I’d pick empty room.

PP, I feel like we’d be friends. I’d be happy to tell you you’re great to get the same in return and we can both go home feeling better about ourselves.

Very much empty room please, I hate being centre of attention so the busy room sounds like hell.

I can't really comprehend why anyone would like that, tbh. The horror.

Give me the empty room please.

I'm not suggesting everyone, obviously 🙄

I think I’m pretty sociable and love organising get togethers and feel confident chatting to complete strangers, but to be in a room with everyone talking and complimenting me sounds horrific. I would have to choose the empty room.

Empty, thanks.

A full room of people talking about a variety of interesting topics would be fine, but if they're just banging on about me I'm not going to learn anything or have a proper challenging conversation. It would be flattering for about 30 seconds and then crushingly dull and I'd end up having to have the interesting conversations in my own head.

So either way I'm going to be talking to myself. Might as well have a bit of peace and quiet to do so rather than being constantly interrupted.

Empty room,love a bit of solitude.

Empty room
First room sounds like its for people who have zero self esteem

I don’t think that’s introvert or extrovert I think it comes down to how secure you are as a person and how much external validation you need. I don’t need people to to tell me how brilliant I am but I’m deffo extroverted, so yeah I’d chose the empty room on my own.

If there’s nothing to do in the empty room then I’m choosing the full room. I can handle people saying how great I am for a while. I don’t need compliments but if there’s variation in the conversation, that might be interesting. So not “you’re so amazing! So clever!” But more “you really stood up to that person well 10 years ago and when you finished that piece of work in 2hrs? Brilliant!”
If I can have a book or phone, then empty room is fine.

No, that's pretty much the opposite of what I said? Receiving compliments is not cringe, people who would actively go out of their way to receive them by wanting to be in a room full of people giving them are 100% cringe

I'm talking about the people who would actively want to be in the full room. That's not wanting reassurance, it's narcissism

Empty room every time.

I guess I am a narcissist and cringe then!
I think there are about 3 of us on the thread. 😂

Indeed!

I was genuinely shocked to see people saying they love being the centre of attention and receiving compliments. Like they have so self awareness of how that makes them sound! I mean, I'm sure no one really cares about how anonymous people on mumsnet see them, but to be so out and proud of it still shocks me

What do you think of people who love public speaking? Or authors at book launches? Generally the centre of attention.
Are they cringe?

Its not the same thing at all and I don't think anything negative about them. They are presumably speaking about a subject they're knowledgeable on or providing a service. It's nothing like wanting to go into a room full of people complimenting them just purely because they love being the centre of attention

Presumably if a room full of people are complimenting me, it would be for an award or a speech or a service. That was my reading of the post anyway, since that is when I have been complimented.

The question isn't "if you were going to receive an award, would you go to the ceremony or turn it down?"

Maybe. But as the OP hasn't specified, that's my reading.

Best answer.

I’ll join you 😂

Absolute nonsense to describe those of us who’d choose the full room as narcissists - but it’s a massively overused (and misused!) word on MN so I’ll just ignore it 😀.

How do you know it isn't? We haven't been told why the people are talking about how brilliant you are, but presumably there is a reason.