Would you rather be in a room full of people all talking about how brilliant you are, or in an empty room by yourself?

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I would choose the empty room every time.

Apparently it's a 'test' to see how introverted or extroverted someone is.

The reason I'm posting is because I am struggling to believe anyone would choose the room full of people. Am I wrong and blinkered?

I would genuinely enjoy both these rooms 😀

Empty room, every time.

Empty room every time. I find it almost impossible to accept a compliment so the former fills me with sheer horror!

Is it your own empty room or someone else's? Because I live alone so spend a lot of time in a room by myself, and I'm absolutely fine with it. But I wouldn't like it if it were a room somewhere else.

It's lovely to hear that other people think highly of me. Depending on the person, I might or might not believe them. But regardless, I enjoy learning about others and when they're speaking it's easy to learn about them. People give themselves away easily

I particularly enjoy being on my own, though. So either situation would suit me

Generally the empty room 99 times out of 100, but if it's guaranteed everyone there thinks I'm brilliant, I'd definitely go there. Just for an hour, that sort of feeling must be life-changing.

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I'm with you, Charlotte! After we've nodded graciously to our admirers, I'll tell you (and PP #3, hi!) that I bet you're pretty awesome, too. And a celebratory glass or two wouldn't go amiss ....

Well I read the title and thought god I can’t think of anything worse than the first option- and yeah I am introverted so that makes sense!

Empty room by myself

How does it make them sound? I don't understand the shame factor here.

Why is it cringe? I do something well and people compliment one on it - that feels great, really affirming and encouraging. What makes it cringe?

This thread is so interesting op!

This.

Empty please.

When I'm complimented and I can tell that the person isn't genuine, it's more for effect or because they feel the SHOULD compliment me, that might be seen as cringe. However I find it interesting! As I said before, people speak and they tell us who they are i

Yes, and what the posters expressing horror that other people enjoy socialist, attention and compliments are telling me about themselves is a tale of ridiculous performative self-deprecation and misanthropy.

But why are you assuming that the compliment isn't genuine? The OP doesn't say that?

Socialising, not socialist! No socialists are involved!

Even if the choice was an empty room or a room full of people saying negative things about me I’d still choose the room full of people because I’d find it fascinating to see if what I consider my bad qualities chimed with other people’s thoughts and maybe even learn from it. They’d have to be considered and valid criticisms though not just “you’re ugly and I hate you”.

Empty room. Total introvert here.

Why would the compliments not be genuine?

A couple of words is fine, but going on endlessly as in the question is exceedingly dull. I know my worth, I don't need endless reassurance.

If, as you imagine, the situation is something like having given a speech I'd be quite happy for someone to come up and say 'Really interesting, thank you. It made me wonder about ....'. Then conversation goes somewhere. If they just gushed endlessly about how clever and marvellous I am I'd want to chew my own ears off with boredom. And be somewhat disappointed that I hadn't made them think.

A room full of people who could only talk about the wonderfulness of one person would get dull very quickly, whether the person was Shakespeare or Donald Trump or me.

Conversation is good, and a small group all taking part in the same general conversation is best.

Because humans can be very odd 🙂