Would you rather be in a room full of people all talking about how brilliant you are, or in an empty room by yourself?

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I would choose the empty room every time.

Apparently it's a 'test' to see how introverted or extroverted someone is.

The reason I'm posting is because I am struggling to believe anyone would choose the room full of people. Am I wrong and blinkered?

I said thank you. It wasn't complicated.

Empty room for me too. Would never want to be in a room where I was the sole focus of attention.

Perfect answer.

Why is it cringe? Why can't people take a compliment?

Eewww, empty room every time!

If the compliments were genuine and deserved I'd love a night in Room 1 then a week in room 2 to recover. But if the compliments were flattery I'd hate room 1.

I’m on the fence. But I’m an introvert with some extrovert tendencies so that’s about right!

Plot twist: you’re in a coffin

DH is regularly in a pub room surrounded by people telling him how brilliant he is, but on the other hand those people have A - been drinking, and B - been watching his band all evening.

I stay at home on my own in an empty room. Well, it also has furniture and cats in it, obviously. 😂

The former,I need a confidence boost and it sounds really nice

You say ‘thanks’? Presumably you’ve just won an award or something, that’s why everyone’s praising you, so what’s so embarrassing?

Me, too! Indeed, where are all the people who recognise my true worth?!

I don't have any problems accepting a compliment. I just think it's super cringe to actively enjoy receiving them because you think you're so wonderful!

full room and I’m an extrovert. Sounds intriguing and I can be in a room on my own at any time! I can’t really imagine a situation where I’m complimented for any length of time but I don’t mind being the centre of attention. Depends on my mood of course!

OMG yes! I hate appraisals and observations for this reason too. I am good at my job, but holy shit the agony of having to sit there while my slt tell me in great detail what I've done well and how brilliantly I'm doing and how much they appreciate me. Yuuuuuuck!!! I don't know what to do with my face or where to look or what to say. I'd much rather have a problem to solve than a compliment.

Was once asked if I would choose between money, fame and power.

Fame - no thinks I am a private person

Power - no thanks I dont want the responsibility of looking after others

I will just take the basic cash.

Empty room. If you're not brilliant, you don't want people to tell you that you are. Are they being sarcastic? Have they not seen all the bad stuff and should you tell them about it? Tricky situation to be in.

Agree with this. Other than as a result of having an amazing talent, I can’t think of anything worse than being famous. Being recognised in the street is my idea of hell

Empty room. The other option would give me a panic attack.

So you think the only appropriate way to receive a compliment is while in some kind of full-body cringe?

I'm a massive introvert, but would happily spend time in a room full of people tellinge how important I am, because it's not a situation where I'd have to talk much.

I'll happily be the centre of attention, as long as I'm not the one having to be entertaining!

It doesn't have to be because you think you're so wonderful, Could be the opposite - you have a lot of self doubt and it is reassuring to hear people say they think you are doing well.

This is really interesting.

I would choice the full room. But if you'd have asked me 10 years ago, I would have said the empty room.

In those past 10 years I've lost a lot of people, and my own health has taken a massive hit. I don't feel great about myself, and feel really useless at times because people have to do a lot of things for me now. So I'd jump at the chance to hear how great I am and get to speak to people who genuinely like me.

My ideal would be a room full of people where I was in a small group of friends each sharing our news or otherwise chatting.

I would take the empty room any day over being the sole focus of others attention and much as I like other people’s company,
also like time by myself.

Empty room. I am agoraphobic and have become reclusive so a room full of people is horrifying