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worldshottestmom · 2026-03-15T10:56:09+00:00

Let's be having it, feel free to share how your mother's day is going/has been. Even if its been rubbish, at least we can have a laugh about it. Mine started with DS smacking me in the eye winging, followed by him having a tantrum because my DD turned the washing machine on instead of him. Just walked into the living room to find DD pulling all clean washing off the drying rack and spitting crisps onto them. I did get a nice handmade card off my DS though, which I adore! Going to order some nice food later and hope my washing and eyes make it through the rest of the day unscathed. Happy Mother's Day!

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 12:39

Fupoffyagrasshole · 15/03/2026 11:54

Packing for a trip that we leave for tomorrow - while 2 & 5 year old fight because he’s not playing how the bigger one wants him too! 😫

husband has an hour of work to do and he needs to get a hair cut - so I send the 5 year old with him to h the barbers 🤣

but hey we have a holiday Tomorrow so whatever

God I wouldnt even care about today if I was off on holiday tomorrow haha. Hope your enjoying it regardless and your kids stop bickering. Hope you have a wonderful holiday, too! Meanwhile my son is throwing a screaming crying tantrum because I binned his wet nappy that he was "saving for later" 🤦‍♀️

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 12:41

Aquagirl123 · 15/03/2026 11:54

Our son and daughter in law are divorced. He wouldn't even think to get her anything and our grandson is too young. We got our grandson to write a card and hide it in his bedroom. Pleased to hear this morning that he remembered and she's thrilled. Her own parents never do it. She's a good mum, we have a great relationship and we're thankful we can see her and grandson regularly.

That is honestly so lovely of you! Especially since you didnt have to, given the divorce. True meaning of today is thoughtfulness, kindess and appreciation which you have both displayed so selflessly. In admiration of your maturity and dedication to focusing on keeping things positive for your DGC and his mum. Well done 👏

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hellotomrw · 15/03/2026 12:42

In hospital with my youngest but should be home soon. But not got high hopes as every year husband doesn’t do anything and goes out to shop in the afternoon to try and make it up to me. Kids are 3 and 6, least the 6 year old made a card at school so I will have that ❤️

CanaryLibra · 15/03/2026 12:44

I spent a few hours with my lovely mum yesterday, she is in a care home and has Alzheimer’s. It was a good day yesterday, she was wide awake, in a good mood, and definitely knew I am someone familiar to her… the enjoyable visits are sadly getting rarer. And I got home to a beautiful bunch of flowers from DH.

Today I’ve had a lazy morning while DH walked the dog. DS (22) lives about an hour away, he is on his way over with his girlfriend for a flying visit. We’re looking forward to seeing him, FaceTime is all well and good but it’s just not the same!

DH and I will probably have a takeaway tonight.

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 12:45

BIossomtoes · 15/03/2026 12:05

A day of very mixed emotions. I made the mistake of reading some of the other posts when I posted on the Dementia UK memorial site. I’ve been in tears pretty much all morning - all my adult stepchildren have remembered me and my heart and eyes are overflowing.

Gosh, im so sorry. I dont know what to say that would be helpful except enjoy your day, if you can, and if you just wish to sit there, cry, and feel your emotions that do that. Its healthy to do that and can be so healing. Its sounds like youre a wonderful, appreciative person and I so hope things get easier for you. Sending hugs ❤️🫂

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 12:48

Odiebay · 15/03/2026 12:07

Spent the day yesterday with my mum and siblings having an afternoon tea for my mum. DH sent his mum some flowers (no prodding needed by me) as they live a few hours away.

DH made breakfast this morning and has tidied kitchen although that's not unusual. Had a lay in until 10am!! What a treat
I have had card, flowers and being taken for lunch after a sunny walk in the countryside this afternoon.
I'm so happy.

I hope you all know you are worth the effort even if it's not shown.

Love this. Im so pleased you've been treated so lovely today, and even more glad thats its not unusual! The way it should be. I agree, we all deserve to feel appreciated today and every day.

Enjoy your wonderful day ❤️

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Eesha · 15/03/2026 12:54

Mine (under 10) went all out and bought tons of stuff, decorated my room. They had gone through their piggy bank (which ill replace), bought lovely stuff for me like chocolate, body stuff and perfumes, and also bought cheap decorations online (through my account!). Several times they asked me to tell the shop assistant to serve them whilst I looked away. Or a friend went with them and helped them.

Im a single parent (all their lives) post an abusive relationship, and they really touched me the most by saying in their card that everything is calm with me/they feel safe.

microwavecurry · 15/03/2026 13:00

My 16 year old has done absolutely nothing for mother's day despite DH reminding her lots. She generally doesnt like me though and will openly tell me she hates me, I'm the worst mum ever.......

The 13 year old (severely autistic) isnt coping with the fact that it's a day where the focus is on someone other than him. He's currently swinging between violent and challenging behaviour and being exceptionally verbally abusive. I'm being told I am a lazy fucking bitch and a selfish c**t because I wont give him money I havent got to spend on his special interest. To put it in perspective I paid for and had a profiling bed delivered yesterday. I'm physically disabled (MS) and my old bed was detrimental to my health. He thinks he should be given the same amount (almost 4k) because it 'isn't fair'. I saved the money from my PIP.

DH is trying to keep the kids apart before one injures the other and we either end up taking someone to A&E or calling the Police (and yes, I am serious about this).

As for me- I'm upstairs in fancy profiling bed, have adjusted it to ultimate crapped out body perfection, the air mattress is doing its thing and I am mainlining M&S salt and pepper combo mix.

Fuck my life.

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 13:07

Amsylou · 15/03/2026 12:11

DH tried to start the day well with DS6 and woke me up to delivery coffee and food I never eat (left over party cupcake and buttered toast) I was grateful but asked why the food choice. Turned into a massive argument about how DH doesn’t care about Father’s Day so why should I care. Derailed the whole day and now DH is having a mental health breakdown and saying it’s the worst day ever while I’m looking after DS and trying to be strong. I feel like this could be the end of things for us too as he just doesn’t see why it’s all so upsetting. He has form for this on special days for me…. I probably expected too much. Got a card at least.

God im so sorry. Im with you on that would be the end for me too from the sheer lack of consideration and almost trying to gaslight you into believing your being selfish or something for wanting to celebrate today, just because he doesnt feel the same about father's day. My ex was the same, which is why he is my ex (among many other reasons). Hope youre able to enjoy your day regardless of him, though it sounds pretty rubbish. Big hugs from me 🫂 because you should not be being treated like that regardless, but especially not today. Stay strong, youre doing great ❤️

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Meandmouse · 15/03/2026 13:09

Aquagirl123 · 15/03/2026 11:54

Our son and daughter in law are divorced. He wouldn't even think to get her anything and our grandson is too young. We got our grandson to write a card and hide it in his bedroom. Pleased to hear this morning that he remembered and she's thrilled. Her own parents never do it. She's a good mum, we have a great relationship and we're thankful we can see her and grandson regularly.

How lovely and thoughtful you are. No wonder you have a great relationship with her.

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 13:12

PixelDustMom · 15/03/2026 12:11

I have yet to see my teenager as they stayed with family last night. Hubby took me out for a lovely meal and drinks.
I’ve had a “Happy Birthday” message (running joke with teen, always celebrating the wrong day - love it though)
DC home soon and will be going out for cake and coffee with my mum and sisters, DC too.
I’m not big on presents or flowers, I’m more into the little glimmers so spending time over cake and coffee is perfect for me.
Then home to cook, iron and pack the lunches - normality resumes quickly.

Thinking of all the mothers out there who may not have the day they deserve, a day where they miss their mums or children 💕

Gorgeous comment, thank you. Really nice to read you've had such a lovely day and feel quite content with all you have. Love the running joke with DC haha. I too hope everyone else has the day they deserve, and to those who arent, you are worth so much more. So hard for so many for lots of reasons, lost loved ones, difficult relationship with mother's, etc. Feel for all of you and hope you get through it okay. ❤️

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BIossomtoes · 15/03/2026 13:17

worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 12:45

Gosh, im so sorry. I dont know what to say that would be helpful except enjoy your day, if you can, and if you just wish to sit there, cry, and feel your emotions that do that. Its healthy to do that and can be so healing. Its sounds like youre a wonderful, appreciative person and I so hope things get easier for you. Sending hugs ❤️🫂

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Thank you. Many of my tears are happy ones. I’m blessed with four adult kids who have all shown me love today. I’m incredibly lucky.

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 13:20

maudelovesharold · 15/03/2026 12:19

Nice to have a safe space. Feeling sorry for myself and admittedly wallowing. Very appreciative of middle dc’s card and bouquet by post, plus text message this morning and arrangement for a call later this afternoon. Eldest and youngest also live away, and not an acknowledgement from either of them. Feel a bit hurt tbh. Constant communication doesn’t happen and isn’t expected, but I don’t think there’s ever been a previous Mother’s Day when I haven’t at least had a message from all 3, so I’m teetering between feeling upset and getting dh to message them (a bit needy?), and worrying that they might both coincidentally be dealing with some crisis or other (dc1 is a parent of 2), and getting dh to message them (a bit melodramatic?) Or I could just wallow….

God what a rubbish situation for you to be in! I would be hurt by this as well so I can understand. Nice of middle DC to do that for you so cant see why the other 2 couldn't make the effort. Maybe something is going on, but I just feel it isnt hard to at least send a text?? Takes 2 seconds and an ounce of thought. Sending big hugs for you 🫂 as I know this really isnt nice.

My older sister hasn't messaged my mum either, she keeps bringing it up so I know its hurting her which annoys me cos shes a wonderful mum and always has been. Typical of my sister to not care. She knows its mothers day as she liked my facebook post about our mum, but don't think that counts as a message to her. Just annoys me how inconsiderate some people can be.

I hope your day gets better and your DC message you. dk if I would get DH to message them, thats up to you. Im entirely petty so I would just be a in a huff over it with them until they bothered to remember lol but thats just me. However, that will just make you feel worse so idk, im not very helpful, sorry! Just try and enjoy your day the best you can ❤️ i know its hard.

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 13:22

aterriblefish · 15/03/2026 12:33

Nothing from adult dd. We have exchanged messages about something else and I am exercising self-control not to send a passive-aggressive reminder. It's always been like this and I would have just thought dd just doesn't do caring gestures - except she has a bf and that clearly isn't universally true....🤔Otherwise - I am working most of the day.

Seems to be a theme of DC not bothering to at least send a message, which is completely rubbish and im so sorry. I hope they do message you, and yeah strange she can make the effort for others but not her own mum. Takes 2 seconds to send a text. How awful to be working as well! Chin up, I hope your day gets better and you manage to enjoy it anyway

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Welshgal85 · 15/03/2026 13:23

Feeling a bit flat. We’ve just got over various back to back illnesses so feeling drained still. Didn’t get to see my mum yesterday as planned so not sure when I will get to see her now. Hopefully in the next few weeks but sent her some flowers.

DD is 1 1/2 and made me a sweet card at nursery. DP bought me some treats from DD which was nice. But would have loved a lie in. DD woke at 5, DP tried to settle her but I couldn’t get back to sleep so we ended up getting up for the day really early.

It would have been nice not to have had to make my own breakfast but maybe I’m expecting too much 😂 We’re just off out for lunch and I plan to have a big glass of wine!

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 13:26

CelticSilver · 15/03/2026 12:36

My Mum (complicated relationship) died a few months ago. Husband at work all day. Just had a big 'to-do' with my 9 year old who hates his life. 3 year old being his usual difficult self.

Same old, really.

God im sorry. Sounds awful and I so hope it gets better for you. If it's any consolation, my day has turned out pretty difficult with my 2 young DC, as well. Can't help but remember every past mothers day of abuse from ex and I dont know why its bothering me so much when its not going on anymore. My poor mum just sat here with my kids being menaces lol, and I just feel a bit down. Trying to put a brave face on but honestly, I understand, things are just hard most the time and I think sometimes this pressure to have such a great day just makes it harder.

Big hugs for you 🫂 i hope it improves ❤️

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Cherrytree86 · 15/03/2026 13:27

Freakingfurious11 · 15/03/2026 10:58

I got up at 7 to make the kids breakfast as he’d only made himself.

kids had gotten me some gifts from money older son sent them. Which I was grateful for.

Husband didn’t give kids a penny, hadn’t acknowledged it but that’s how he’s always been.

Then I done all the housework and I’m finally sat down.

Another day that can’t ever possibly be about us 🙄

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So when are you going to fuck off your shit husband?

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 13:28

Curtainrandom · 15/03/2026 12:37

Out of 3 dc only one remembered, so I got some flowers. Youngest is abroad and probably hadn’t even noticed it’s MD. I’m working on not minding, have washed the garden furniture to keep busy. I did get a message from XP though (not kids dad) saying HMD to a great mum, so that was a nice surprise. My mum no longer with us and I think next year I’ll forget about this day completely.

Aw, that made me sad to read. Sorry only one of them has bothered, but how sweet of your ex to remember and send such a lovely message! Must be really hard without your mum too, can't even imagine. Big hugs 🫂 for you

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Cherrytree86 · 15/03/2026 13:28

worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 13:22

Seems to be a theme of DC not bothering to at least send a message, which is completely rubbish and im so sorry. I hope they do message you, and yeah strange she can make the effort for others but not her own mum. Takes 2 seconds to send a text. How awful to be working as well! Chin up, I hope your day gets better and you manage to enjoy it anyway

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Genuine question…why so many women have children when it’s clearly an extremely arduous but thankless task? No judgement whatsoever, just genuinely curious!

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 13:29

hellotomrw · 15/03/2026 12:42

In hospital with my youngest but should be home soon. But not got high hopes as every year husband doesn’t do anything and goes out to shop in the afternoon to try and make it up to me. Kids are 3 and 6, least the 6 year old made a card at school so I will have that ❤️

God how awful. I really hope your DC is okay, and so hope your DH has put some effort in given you've had to spend the day at hospital. I love getting the homemade cards too, got my first ever mothers day one and im delighted ❤️

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tutugogo · 15/03/2026 13:30

I received flowers from one of mine but they are deployed currently so may not be allowed communication even email today, we all know what’s currently happening in a certain part of the world!

other dc as per normal has forgotten but hey ho one out of 2 ain’t bad.

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 13:32

CanaryLibra · 15/03/2026 12:44

I spent a few hours with my lovely mum yesterday, she is in a care home and has Alzheimer’s. It was a good day yesterday, she was wide awake, in a good mood, and definitely knew I am someone familiar to her… the enjoyable visits are sadly getting rarer. And I got home to a beautiful bunch of flowers from DH.

Today I’ve had a lazy morning while DH walked the dog. DS (22) lives about an hour away, he is on his way over with his girlfriend for a flying visit. We’re looking forward to seeing him, FaceTime is all well and good but it’s just not the same!

DH and I will probably have a takeaway tonight.

So sorry to hear about our mum. My mums mum was the same and I know it impacted her heavily. Sending big hugs 🫂 but so glad you had such a lovely visit.

How lovely of your DH to make it nice for you! And agreed, seeing them in person is so much better than facetime lol. Enjoy the time together, and your takeaway later on!

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worldshottestmom · 15/03/2026 13:34

Eesha · 15/03/2026 12:54

Mine (under 10) went all out and bought tons of stuff, decorated my room. They had gone through their piggy bank (which ill replace), bought lovely stuff for me like chocolate, body stuff and perfumes, and also bought cheap decorations online (through my account!). Several times they asked me to tell the shop assistant to serve them whilst I looked away. Or a friend went with them and helped them.

Im a single parent (all their lives) post an abusive relationship, and they really touched me the most by saying in their card that everything is calm with me/they feel safe.

Omg that last part made me so emotional and happy. What a wonderful mother you are to make them feel that way, after a horrific relationship especially. I only hope I can enable my kids to feel the same way, following an abusive relationship myself. Your DC sound like lovely thoughtful kids, enjoy your day with them! You deserve it ❤️

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AnonKat · 15/03/2026 13:37

I have a 12 week old and husband left me in bed and took baby down at half 6. I panicked when I woke after 9am 🤣.

Husband made me a bacon sandwich and got me a few gifts. Sadly baby is majorly grumpy today, so ive been naptrapped most of the day. We are going to my in laws when he wakes up for a roast. So all in all a lovely first mothers day. Hoping he cheers up a bit!

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