Mother's Day Safe Space

[worldshottestmom]

Let's be having it, feel free to share how your mother's day is going/has been. Even if its been rubbish, at least we can have a laugh about it.

Mine started with DS smacking me in the eye winging, followed by him having a tantrum because my DD turned the washing machine on instead of him. Just walked into the living room to find DD pulling all clean washing off the drying rack and spitting crisps onto them.

I did get a nice handmade card off my DS though, which I adore! Going to order some nice food later and hope my washing and eyes make it through the rest of the day unscathed. Happy Mother's Day!

If we dont laugh we'll cry hahaha

Thanks @worldshottestmom, I hope at your end the kids are friends again and you can find some time for you today. 😊

Yes it really surprises me how common a theme it is that men need to literally be told how to show care and appreciation and then literally prodded to initiate it. I'm sure not all men are like that but it's certainly something I've experienced with my dad and now my husband. I'm determined to try and teach my son a different way of connecting and doing.

Thank you, @worldshottestmom. It's also a day to indulge in some gratitude for what I have. It was by no means a given that I'd ever become a mum: the odds were stacked against it. DC (now 12) and DH are the joys of my life.

Had a lovely day yesterday with dds & dgc coming over, some lovely thoughtful gifts & cards and a spontaneous takeaway.
Unfortunate disagreement with H (not d atm) later & he's still in a mood now.
Ddog woke me early to go out & made my own coffee.
LC so only sent a HMD text to mother.
Ds handed over some gorgeous chocolates when he eventually emerged from his room.
So swings & roundabouts here.

Omg these posts just get better lmao. He was at a party?? Would be having him for that lol. Can't wait for the teenager phase (not) 😭😭

Gosh so many amazing women on here. Raise a glass to all of us (as no one else is). I hate hate it since my mum died. My favourite person in the world and we don't even get to be mums together and celebrate each other on one day. Arse of a universe. Which means I ignore it and then realise that's mean thing to do for my aunt and cousins so then I send an Amazon gift. But I cannot bear to write cards / send others cards which means my kids don't send their great aunt a card either and I feel guilty but can't bear it. Shit of a day.

Packing for a trip that we leave for tomorrow - while 2 & 5 year old fight because he’s not playing how the bigger one wants him too! 😫

husband has an hour of work to do and he needs to get a hair cut - so I send the 5 year old with him to h the barbers 🤣

but hey we have a holiday Tomorrow so whatever

Our son and daughter in law are divorced. He wouldn't even think to get her anything and our grandson is too young. We got our grandson to write a card and hide it in his bedroom. Pleased to hear this morning that he remembered and she's thrilled. Her own parents never do it. She's a good mum, we have a great relationship and we're thankful we can see her and grandson regularly.

Thank you, I hope so! My DS likes to be the centre of attention but my DD has none of it which means constant bickering. Im just used to it now tbh lol.

Honestly its actually astounding. I know it isnt all men, but it seems a lot of women on here mention it a lot which makes me think damn, is everyone's husband like this?? Lol. It is really sad though, its bad enough having to tell them to do their share of housework/childcare everyday, let alone having to tell them to make an effort for occasions they are perfectly able to remember. Sigh.

Love that you ended it on that note. My ex was a horrible person and I too am determined to raise my son to be the opposite of him, to be kind and thoughtful and care about others feelings, meaning making an effort for occasions that matter to others, even if he doesnt particularly care for them.

I mentioned to DC2 that I’d seen some flowers in Tesco that I liked. He only… (wait for it) WENT AND GOT THEM YESTERDAY!!! And a card!!! DC1 has got me a card. He said I can pick it up in the week 😬 x

It’s going great 😊 My 5 and 3 year olds woke up very excited.

DH is at work early today so my 5 year old had put my cards and presents and the drawings she made at school for me in a safe place to give me first thing this morning ❤️

A day of very mixed emotions. I made the mistake of reading some of the other posts when I posted on the Dementia UK memorial site. I’ve been in tears pretty much all morning - all my adult stepchildren have remembered me and my heart and eyes are overflowing.

We're not doing anything to celebrate it this year.
It's my first one without. 😭. I didn't expect to find it this hard.

It’s incredibly tough @Madeawish. I feel for you, it’s still so raw for you at this point. 🫂

Spent the day yesterday with my mum and siblings having an afternoon tea for my mum. DH sent his mum some flowers (no prodding needed by me) as they live a few hours away.

DH made breakfast this morning and has tidied kitchen although that's not unusual. Had a lay in until 10am!! What a treat
I have had card, flowers and being taken for lunch after a sunny walk in the countryside this afternoon.
I'm so happy.

I hope you all know you are worth the effort even if it's not shown.

Gosh, sorry your H is in a mood, how completely selfish. Glad you at least got some nice chocolates and lovely gifts and treats from DC/DGC. Hope your day gets better and your husband shapes himself up! Enjoy x

DH tried to start the day well with DS6 and woke me up to delivery coffee and food I never eat (left over party cupcake and buttered toast) I was grateful but asked why the food choice. Turned into a massive argument about how DH doesn’t care about Father’s Day so why should I care. Derailed the whole day and now DH is having a mental health breakdown and saying it’s the worst day ever while I’m looking after DS and trying to be strong. I feel like this could be the end of things for us too as he just doesn’t see why it’s all so upsetting. He has form for this on special days for me…. I probably expected too much. Got a card at least.

I have yet to see my teenager as they stayed with family last night. Hubby took me out for a lovely meal and drinks.
I’ve had a “Happy Birthday” message (running joke with teen, always celebrating the wrong day - love it though)
DC home soon and will be going out for cake and coffee with my mum and sisters, DC too.
I’m not big on presents or flowers, I’m more into the little glimmers so spending time over cake and coffee is perfect for me.
Then home to cook, iron and pack the lunches - normality resumes quickly.

Thinking of all the mothers out there who may not have the day they deserve, a day where they miss their mums or children 💕

I'm so sorry. It must be so incredibly hard to get through today for you. Don't blame you not celebrating, it must be so difficult. Sending you huge hugs 🫂 cos you need it, hang in there ❤️

Dont feel guilty about it, I dont think anyone would blame you not wanting to celebrate. I certainly dont. Im so sorry for the loss of your mother, so many on here that have and it breaks my heart how hard it must be. I couldn't imagine life without my mum she is my only support system, I have nothing but sympathy there. Stay strong, I hope it gets easier. Big hugs 🫂 for you.

Nice to have a safe space. Feeling sorry for myself and admittedly wallowing. Very appreciative of middle dc’s card and bouquet by post, plus text message this morning and arrangement for a call later this afternoon. Eldest and youngest also live away, and not an acknowledgement from either of them. Feel a bit hurt tbh. Constant communication doesn’t happen and isn’t expected, but I don’t think there’s ever been a previous Mother’s Day when I haven’t at least had a message from all 3, so I’m teetering between feeling upset and getting dh to message them (a bit needy?), and worrying that they might both coincidentally be dealing with some crisis or other (dc1 is a parent of 2), and getting dh to message them (a bit melodramatic?) Or I could just wallow….

My dc are at their dads, he will drop the over later to spend time with me and give me gifts. My dp brought me breakfast in bed, said “happy Mother’s Day, I think you are a great mum, your dc are very lucky to have you”(which is lovely coming from him too) we have no dc together (and never will) but he appreciates the how challenging parenting can be and acknowledges that.

Nothing from adult dd. We have exchanged messages about something else and I am exercising self-control not to send a passive-aggressive reminder. It's always been like this and I would have just thought dd just doesn't do caring gestures - except she has a bf and that clearly isn't universally true....🤔Otherwise - I am working most of the day.

My Mum (complicated relationship) died a few months ago. Husband at work all day. Just had a big 'to-do' with my 9 year old who hates his life. 3 year old being his usual difficult self.

Same old, really.

Out of 3 dc only one remembered, so I got some flowers. Youngest is abroad and probably hadn’t even noticed it’s MD. I’m working on not minding, have washed the garden furniture to keep busy. I did get a message from XP though (not kids dad) saying HMD to a great mum, so that was a nice surprise. My mum no longer with us and I think next year I’ll forget about this day completely.