Would you date a bisexual man?

[Seymorbutts]

Just that really. A man who you believed to be genuinely bisexual, not a gay man on his way out of the closet. Someone who’d had long-term relationships with both men and women and who you’ve never known to sleep around with either men or women. If not, why would it bother you?

I completely agree. It has pissed me right off tbh. Being told I must be phobic of bisexual men if I don't wish to sleep with them, which is my right is not only ridiculous but incredibly bloody offensive.
Some posters really need to get off their high horses.

I agree, and it's pissing me off that so many women feel they have to defend themselves.

Seriously, in the real world this would be harassment pure and simple. It's like going back in time when women had far fewer rights...only in this thread it seems other women are trying to take our rights away.

Would you say this to the many gay men who won't go near a bi man in case he's been contaminated by exposure to "pussy"? Or is it only women who must contort ourselves to accommodate whoever wants to have sex with us?

People are allowed to say no to a relationship for any reason or no reason at all. That’s what consent and autonomy means.

Supporting equal rights for people doesn’t mean you have to be open to having sex with those people.

If it sounds like a creep, don’t be surprised if people call it a creep.

Or coercive, manipulative, rapey, groomer like etc.

@SouthOfSanitydo you feel the same about bisexual women? What exactly about bisexual men makes you feel they are more predator- ish or rapey than straight men? What if your son was bi?

So basically we have to shag anyone just to prove we aren't phobic, or racist or whatever?
I really am speechless.
And I can't think of anything worse for a person's mental health than that.

I can’t believe I’m the one who’s being accused of being thick.
NO NO ONE IS SAYING YOU MUST SHAG ANYONE YOU DO NOT WANT TO
In this hypothetical situation, you meet a guy you are attracted to, you go on three dates, he says he dated a man before. It is stupid, in my opinion, to just cut this man off due to this. It’s his past. We all have a past. I can’t think of one bisexual man who has wronged me. All my friends who have had their lives wrecked by men, all those men were straight.
The trouble is, as this thread shows, it doesn’t take long for ‘eww I wouldn’t date a bisexual guy’ to go to ‘eww I wouldn’t date a Chinese guy’. Is this really the company you want to keep? Racists?

So because I wouldn’t shag a muslim man (who is more than likely Asian) or a disabled man I’m a racist ableist bigot? What? I wouldn’t shag a woman either guess I’m lesbophobic and misogynistic too. 🙄

In your opinion, which you’re entitled to. Has no bearing on whether I’m going to shag someone or not. Why do you think you should have a say on a random stranger’s sex life?

No

The coercion of women on this thread is fucking disgusting.

Women can choose to sleep with whomever they like and are entitled to their preferences just the same as men are and for what ever reason and to call them phobic because they choose not to have sex with bi-sexual men for example is nothing more than coercion.

For those doing the labelling/name calling would you rather women didn't have a choice? Because that's what it sounds like.

Nope. I like to hear about my partners past experiences, and as I’m only turned on by straight sex, a bisexual man wouldn’t be someone I’d be interested in dating. He’d have had experiences which would turn me off which wouldn’t be great for our relationship.

I have zero fucks to give for anyone who doesn’t like that.

I also don’t date religious people, people who don’t love animals, physically disabled people, people of certain races, and lots more! Shocker!

Because we have preferences! I'm allowed to say no. If that means I don't find a group of people sexually attractive then that's the way it is. Just as no man has to have sex or a relationship with me!
Why, in the name of goodness, are you so keen on individuals not being able to exclude groups of people from our sex lives?

lol. Read the previous replies. You’ve misinterpreted that persons post I’m sure. It sounds like a reply to the ‘if it sounds like a duck’ comment.

You absolutely ARE saying that women have to shag whoever wants to shag them.
If someone doesn't want to go out with a Chinese man (because they don't fancy dark haired men or whatever) that's absolutely their prerogative.

If someone isn't attracted to men who like men - for whatever reason they have, that's their prerogative.

It's not for you or anyone else to call them names, label them whatever, they can date who they like, who they fancy and who they want.
It's none of your fucking business.

Just to add. Yes, everyone has a past. I would avoid criminals, men who have impregnated multiple women and abandoned the mother and child, men who are hoarders, men who are cruel to animals and lots more.
I don't want that baggage, I don't need complications in my life. I don't want people who don't know right from wrong. And I don't want to waste my time.

My comment was in reply to a person who was being coercive and said if it quacks like a duck then don't be surprised if people call it a duck.

I don’t think bisexual people as a group are coercive, but I think people who try to tell women who don’t sleep with bisexual men that they are homophobic are coercive and sound rapey though.

I knew a bisexual guy back in uni and he was the sexiest, most secure in his masculinity, Barry White deep voice, shoulders-to-die for, man I’d ever met. If he had been interested in me, I would’ve climbed him like a tree.

Clearly we'll both have to start dating a bisexual man to avoid accusations of phobia. How very modern! 😁

Thank you @DogsAreWelcome 🙌