Would you date a bisexual man?

[Seymorbutts]

Just that really. A man who you believed to be genuinely bisexual, not a gay man on his way out of the closet. Someone who’d had long-term relationships with both men and women and who you’ve never known to sleep around with either men or women. If not, why would it bother you?

Yes. I was with one for 15 years until he died. It didn't affect anything about our relationship apart from being able to swoon together over the leading man in chickflicks we watched together.

Why not?
Men are allowed to pick and choose too....we all have personal preferences.

Gracious.

I don't think bisexual people are more likely to be cheaters, I think bisexual men have more temptation as well more opportunity, as men in general are more promiscuous. (And I don't think black people are less attractive at all.)

It sounds, from what you've said, like maybe you're just projecting your own prejudices onto other people, and assuming they must be prejudiced because you are?

No, I’m not deliberately misinterpreting. Perhaps you are not being clear but these two statements contradict one another.

No, I don't think you should be educated out of your sexual identity, nor that society should ensure people don't have that identity.

We should certainly seek to change it at a societal level, yes.

As an aside, I am enjoying how some of us are writing great long explanations and arguments and others are popping on from time to time to say “God no”.

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All viable answers.

So, I'm a homophobe because I don't want a relationship with a bisexual man. As I've stated quite clearly, what other people do sexually, providing it's between consenting adults, is none of my business. That is exactly my stance. I would not want to take part in lots of sexual practices,if others are happy to do so that is their business. Why can't you accept that? I don't hate bisexuals, I don't hate gay men or lesbians. I'm entitled to decide who I want a relationship with. As a group there will be lots of people I would reject. Which seems to cause you issues, but for me is me making my life easier. I would not have a relationship with a hoarder for example . Been there, done that, never again. That's another preference.
And yes, I would make it clear I didn't want a relationship early on because I would not want the other person wasting their time either.

So is not wanting to have a committed relationship with a bisexual man always prejudice, in your opinion? There's no good, not prejudiced reason to not want to be with a bisexual man?

We're not allowed preferences if we're straight. According to several posters on here, refusing to sleep with any man makes us biphobic and homophobic.

and racist, don't forget...

So if I go on a date with a man and find out he's bi, I then can't refuse a second date because that would make me biphobic and homophobic? I could be on a date with Brad Pitt, find out he's bi and be completely and utterly turned off! Attraction gone. But apparently that makes me a prejudiced bigot?

You heard it here ladies, we're not allowed sexual preferences. You absolutely MUST sleep with any man lest you will be condemned as a homophobic, biphobic bigot for saying no.

I honestly don’t care if people think I am. I will not date a bi man people can say what they like about me I don’t care. 🤷‍♀️

My DH also wouldn't date a bisexual man. Perhaps he's homophobic 🤔

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You need to give him a jolly good talking to!, How very dare he be so phobic! 😁

Ohhh, don't be too hard on him. He can't help being corrupted by wider societal messages. Once he understands what a bisexual man really is, he'll be much more ready to bang one.

The question would you date a bisexual man really only requires a yes or no surely? War and peace is not the requisite.
I could have embellished on my god no answer, but chose not to.

I completely agree. I wasn’t criticising and you are absolutely right. I was amused as much by all of us trying at great wordy length (and failing) to persuade each other (and failing) whilst others just confidently state “no”.

I’d just say no in real life. Online, I know there are groups of people who use websites to try to erode women’s boundaries. I think it’s important that women who are confident in their views, challenge others who try to say they’re wrong, to show women who could be vulnerable, that they don’t have to go along with this crap.

In the 90s I worked on in the gay village in Manchester and at the time socialised exclusively with gay men.
Most of the conversations I ever heard about bisexuality lead me to understand that most gay men wouldn't touch a Bi man with a barge pole.

How do those posters, who accuse women of being prejudiced bigots, reconcile the common situation where a woman is completely happy to have bisexual friends, or work colleagues, believes( rightly) that sexual orientation should have no effect on opportunities etc and really doesn't care what anyone does in their private life, yet chooses not to want a bisexual man to put his penis in her body?

Do those posters still consider her to be a biphobe?

How do they approach the issue of consent? My understanding of sexual consent is that it can be removed at any time whatsoever, for any reason or no reason at all, without fear of reprisals.
But reading what these posters have written, the logical extension of their thoughts is that if a woman refuses sex with a bisexual man simply because the thought of his bisexuality turns her stomach, then she is a bigoted biphobe.

How does that square with the freedom not to give consent to sexual intercourse?

Ladies, how many men have you turned down in your lifetime? Tens, hundreds, more, and why?
Because you simply didn't want to have sex with them, and no reason need be given, and often it's better that no reason IS given.

No woman needs to have sex with ANY man they don't want to have sex with, and that is the end of that.

This thread is ridiculous.