Would you date a bisexual man?

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Just that really. A man who you believed to be genuinely bisexual, not a gay man on his way out of the closet. Someone who’d had long-term relationships with both men and women and who you’ve never known to sleep around with either men or women. If not, why would it bother you?

This made me laugh. You’d be ok with the thought of his dick in some women’s vag and then maybe not washing and then coming home and putting it up you or in your mouth! “Also thinking I couldn’t suck his cock as good as a man and him comparing and wanting it done by a man instead of me” how do you know you can suck his cock better than his last relationship or the women he’s just come home from unwashed?
You should probably try monogamous relationships!! 🤣

I have a partner but I wouldn't have dated a bisexual man when single. I’m straight and wanted a straight partner. I don’t think that should be controversial.

My closest friend is a lesbian and got married last year. Both she and her wife only ever dated lesbians before meeting each other. They didn’t want to date bisexual women. Again, it’s hard to believe that could be controversial.

Surely it’s not all that different from being with a straight man who’s certainly had his dick in other women’s vaginas, and quite possibly also in their anuses?

'He says all the time, the thought of having sex with a woman literally makes him gag. He thinks straight sex is disgusting. Is he misogynistic and heterophobic because he feels this way?'

Potentially yes. Gagging suggests disgust which could be indicative of misogyny. I've experienced a lot of misogyny from gay men. It's more common than we may want to admit.

Oh come off it! He’s a gay man, of course the thought of straight sex would make him feel 🤢. I’m not a fan of the thought of 2 men fucking each other either, so by your definition I’m homophobic and misandrist. Yet somehow we’re really good friends! Hmm 🤔

You said he says it all the time. That's definitely odd if not misogynistic, but I think he is misogynistic.

Reminds me of Steven Fry's little tantrum over how disgusting women's bodies are. He's another one.

No. Never.

This wasn’t why I posted it (was in relation to a friend who is unsure about dating a guy because he’s bi) but reading some of the comments has made me think of this - seems to be totally acceptable and not at all homophobic (which I agree with) for a straight woman to not want to date a bi guy, yet when a lesbian (like myself) doesn’t want to date a bi woman they get called biphobic, small-minded etc. Double standards it seems

No

I think people who think you should date who you like would think the same whether you’re straight or gay.

I’m straight and wouldn't date a bisexual bloke. The lesbians I know well only date other lesbians and they’ve not received any negativity from anyone about that. People should accept your choices and preferences.

A work colleague who is a lesbian got called transphobic for refusing a date with a trans woman! Madness!

Dating is not an equal opportunity game. You don't have to date anyone you don't want to.

Dating "preferences" like not dating black men, not dating bisexual men, are rooted in subconscious racial / homosexual biases not just individually but in our wider culture.

Both things can be true at once.

I’m not saying bisexuality is visible. I’m saying, and bear with me, you may find this shocking, some people are attracted to non-visual aspects of other people.

What visible or behavioural trait does a bisexual person display

They have sex with both men and women. Seems late in the thread to need this one clarifying.

No

Oh my word. Who said anything about it being unlikeable? Are you deliberately misunderstanding? Many straight women do not feel sexual attraction to men who are bisexual. Can I explain that any more clearly for you?

Do you dislike everyone you are not sexually attracted to btw?

@Didimum you’re making a valiant effort but these threads all go the same way. La la la, fingers in ears, I’m not prejudiced I’m allowed to choose who to date blah blah coercive blah blah. Sure, you’re allowed to date or not date whoever you want but at least own that if bisexuality is a reason in and of itself that you wouldn’t date someone that is a prejudice. Heterosexual men have been with other women before you and maybe you won’t satisfy desires that other women have for them. But if someone’s sexual preference and past partners only matter if they’re the same sex that’s absolutely phobic. Edited to add that lesbians and gay men can absolutely be biphobic too so don’t try and use that as a gotcha. Biphobia occurs in the straight and gay community.

Yes, if we connect, he has a good personality…. Then absolutely.

I’m with you on this.

You’re being ridiculous! I won’t shag another woman so I’m homophobic? I won’t shag a bisexual man so I’m biophobic? I won’t shag a gay man so again I’m homophobic? FGS! I guess I’m also, Toryphobic, Islamaphobic, misogynist, misandrist, Transphobic, fatphobic, anyone who isn’t my DH-phobic? The only person I want to shag is him, oops must be the entire adult population phobic. That’s how ridiculous your post is.

No

I set my choices on what I want and in a relationship that is how we should all be there is no right or wrong in this question

Nonsense. Sexual attraction isn’t some public service and genitals are not a community resource, people can have whatever sexual boundaries they want about who they have sex with.
Trying to push or argue people into sleeping with or fancying you is wrong. Consent includes the right to say no for any reason (or none at all even). To try to shame people for not consenting to seeing you as a sexual partner is wrong and creepy.

This, completely!

I’m sorry but there is some blatant homophobia on here (health risks, you mean aids, right? Is it 1984 again?), more likely to be promiscuous, probably gay really, are all lazy assumptions at best, at worst prejudice. You all have probably slept with a man whose slept with a man, sorry to break it to you.
As for ‘I couldn’t face it as he’d done anal with a man’ well lots of men have anal sex with women. Are you really saying there’s a difference between a male anus and a female anus? It’s almost worse if he’s fucked a woman up the ass as we have less sensation in that area, so it’s purely selfish. An ass is an ass.