Would you date a bisexual man?

[Seymorbutts]

Just that really. A man who you believed to be genuinely bisexual, not a gay man on his way out of the closet. Someone who’d had long-term relationships with both men and women and who you’ve never known to sleep around with either men or women. If not, why would it bother you?

So what is every bisexual man’s world view that is unattractive?

Yeah probably. My attraction is very personality based, not physical so I can get on board with someone being bisexual (although I’m not).

Some people really need to accept no as an answer.

No one is attracted to rapey, that’s for sure,

“Bisexuality is invisible”

Your logic is wild. Most of us are not purely attracted by visual, physical attributes, or indeed by someone’s actions which will affect us in daily life. What someone is actually like, who they are, matters to most of us. Not to you obviously but you are very much in the minority here.

“and has no impact on sex or your day to day life.”

But people on this thread have said it would affect their sex life as they would feel no desire. So you are wrong.

A bisexual man is not visually or behaviourally different to any given heterosexual man.

This is bollocks.

Of course a bisexual man's behaviour is fundamentally different from a heterosexual man's because a bisexual man finds other men sexually attractive.

That fact makes them instantly unattractive to many women as can be seen on this thread.

That doesn't make those women biphobic, it just means they aren't sexually attracted to bisexual men.

Not being sexually attracted to someone for any reason doesn't make a person 'phobic'.

That they fancy men. Plenty of pp on this thread have already explained this to you.

Well in reality it’s because I’m married (does that mean I’m being prejudiced towards single people? 🤔) but if I was single it would be BECAUSE I DONT WANT TOO!

I’d also never sleep with anyone who is Muslim, (am I islamaphobic?), anyone who has a criminal past (criminalphobic?), anyone who already has kids (parent phobic?) anyone who is a Tory (Tory phobic?), anyone who believes the earth is flat (flat phobic?) anyone with a mental illness, (mental phobic?), a transperson, (transphobic?) or any woman, (a misogynist?).

Why won’t you sleep with every human adult on the planet? Why are you so adverse to sleeping with everyone? How phobic and hypocritical of you.

Oh ffs. I have just clocked OP's user name and the fact that they haven't been been back to the thread.

Nope. It’s the reason for feeling no desire.

What’s visible about bisexuality?

What’s visible about heterosexuality?

Attraction is not a behaviour. It’s internal.

What visible or behavioural trait does a bisexual person display?

Bi female here. Bi people (male or female) can live quite happily in a monogamous relationship. Just as a heterosexual woman does not want to shag every heterosexual man, a bi person in a committed monogamous 1:1 relationship does wish to go elsewhere.

So what about same-sex attraction is unlikeable?

Most of us know that, it doesn’t mean we want to date bisexual people. Some people here are struggling to grasp that and are being coercive and creepy.

Because everything else you list has a tangible effect on either lifestyle or sex. Bisexuality doesn’t. It’s the bisexuality in of itself that is unlikeable.

Exactly.

Nothing, doesn’t mean I (a woman) wants to have male gay sex!

My BF is a gay man, he’s never been with a woman. Always known he was gay. He says all the time, the thought of having sex with a woman literally makes him gag. He thinks straight sex is disgusting. Is he misogynistic and heterophobic because he feels this way?

It does though. I don’t find gay men attractive. They may be good looking but the minute I find out they’re gay any attraction disappears. Am I homophobic?

I don’t find it unlikeable between 2 people who are into each other.

But for me, it’s a turn off in someone I want to have a sexual relationship with. I want a man who is attracted to a female body, because that is what I have.

If people were saying they wouldn’t employ a bisexual person etc, you would be right to question, but when it comes to attraction, dating, sex etc, then sexuality can matter hugely. It’s very odd that you either don’t understand that, or worse, are refusing to accept it.

I don’t give a stuff who anyone shags.

I do take offence to being told that my partner is going to dump me for a man, as was said to me. And I do think that is biphobia.

It would have an impact on sex for some people though . It wouldn't bother some people as we can see on this thread. Personally I wouldn't want to have sex with a man who finds men sexually attractive also. I have no words to really explain this...but its not actually always possible to explain your reasons when it comes to sex and attraction.

It's not about same sex attraction as a general thing though is it, that's what you seem unable to comprehend.

Other people can be attracted to whoever they want, up to them.

That doesn't mean that I have to be attracted to the same sex though. I find the thought of touching or seeing another woman's body in a sexual way repugnant, in the same way I find the thought of having sex with a man who had sex with men repugnant.

That's my personal choice which I am allowed to make.

The way you go on sounds like you'd have sex with anyone, any type of person, whatsoever, you simply don't care what kind of person they are at all.

I would not, however.

Not a problem for me.