DD7yo is begging to have her ears pierced tonight (school night) is it a bad idea?

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So, DD has been begging to have her ears done - fine by me, explained it hurts, taking care of them ect ect.
I suggested waiting until summer holidays due to PE ect.. but DD said the girls in her class don’t take their earrings out for PE and don’t tape them ect. I checked with those parents and the school and they are allowed to wear a small stud during PE. So DD wants it done asap.

Its a non uniform day tomorrow and DD is now begging relentlessly to have her ears done when she gets home tonight so she can show them to her friends with her non-uniform 😂

I don’t know if I’m overthinking it, is it a good idea to send her off to school with fresh piercings? Should we wait until the weekend, or do you think she’ll be ok if she did have them done tonight? She knows she can’t fiddle with them ect. They don’t have PE tomorrow anyway ect. But I’m so undecided.

A 7 year old demanding anything and you giving in is a bad idea.

You’re not sure, so it’s a bad idea!

I'd go for it, I see no reason why not.

Does your friend know you are going on holiday in a few weeks time?

Can You Go Swimming After an Ear Piercing? Complete Guide - this says 4-6 weeks before you can go swimming, as others have said, I would be concerned about the upcoming holiday in terms of timing

Honestly do not feel pressured into doing something a 7 year old wants unless you are totally fine with it. The demands honestly get so much worse in teen years and if you don’t start pushing back now for some things it will be a total nightmare

My DD had hers done on a school night on her 7th birthday (by two piercers at a tattoo studio) and she was absolutely fine.
She couldn’t go swimming for 2 weeks and wore tape over them for PE but had no problems with them.
The flat backs helped with sleeping but they unscrewed quite easily so I’d have a spare pair x

She's too young to be doing this to herself. Why would you agree to it? Wait till she's a teenager.

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It is “etc.”

And yes, ultimately if you told her it will be done over the summer, it should be done then.

A non-uniform day doesn’t seem like a convincing reason for this in my opinion.

If you’re going away at Easter and swimming, I would wait until after then. When my daughter had hers done, by a really good place where they used needles, we were told she couldn’t go swimming for a number of number of weeks after, I think about 6?

I let my 8yo get hers done last year. In terms of 'taking care of them' our piercer says not to clean or fiddle. Rinse in shower and dry with cool shot on hair dryer. Hers healed fine. I have had multiple cartilage piercings and followed the same advice with no infection/issues either so not sure about everyone talking about her being able to 'take care of them' - in my experience leaving them alone is the best approach

And I can't see why piercing on a school night would be an issue. We avoided holidays due to swimming pools etc

If your friend is a reputable piercer and she can do it then go for it. It would make your daughter happy and I dont see the problem. People being way too precious and petty on this thread. Most children have sore ears for a few hours then feel fine the next day. Just make sure she keeps up with cleaning them which I'm sure your friend will tell her about

I would let her, she will be distracted at school so less likely to fiddle with them all day tomorrow. Gives them time to settle before your holidays over Easter too. My only concern is will they be sore to sleep on compared to if she had them done at 9am, but I have no idea because I had mine done 30 years ago.

As adults most people like to do things that make them look nice and therefore feel good, I don’t see why so many are against it for kids. If she’s nagging it’s because she really wants it so she will love them, I think it’s harmless.

Will they be healed time for your holiday? Especially if going in pools

I would say a Friday evening would be better if you are happy for her to have it done .

then you have to wait, my daughter wasn't allowed to swim for 6 weeks after getting her ears pierced. you have to be super careful and wash with saline morning and night and you can't go to a pool!!!

My 7yr old is also desperate to get hers done. She keeps asking if it's sore, i tell her yes it is initially but not for long. She is still too scared 🤣. She also loves swimming weekly, so she'll probably be a teen before its done.

Can she sterilise the equipment and jewellery at your house?

I dont particularly agree with giving in to pester power or that children that young should have piercings but this question doesnt make sense at all. The friend cant 'advise' her about what she should do as a parent, thats what she is chatting about here and gathering opinions on. And perhaps she has also asked that of her friend and also wants other opinions too.

My kids school they have to be removed for PE. so my plan has always been to do it the day after their last PE day in the last week of school so they have 6 weeks where they can have them in

Personally, I’d wait until school breaks up for the summer……plenty of time to get them done at a reputable place, clean them regularly and have them healed up before back to school in the autumn……..stress that this a condition of her being allowed to have them pierced.

Having seen a 10 year old child with her earlobe torn by her earring in a playground incident, there's no way I wouldn't let her have her ears pierced at 7.

I haven't read the thread, OP, but concerned that pierced ears are not routinely taped over during PE. Responsible parents at my school send their children to school on a P.E. day with taped ears or earrings removed for the day. We provide tape for those without it.

Regarding getting your DD's ears pierced at her request when you have specifically explained that this will happen during the summer holidays (entirely sensible imo) simply reiterate this fact. If she continues to whine, put a warning in place that it won't happen at all if she does not stop arguing. And mean it. Deferred gratification is an important rite of passage that all should learn whatever their age. It is sadly lacking nowadays.

In which case, I’d go for it.

I used to be quite snobby about piercings on younger kids. But tbh if 5 year old DD was desperate now and understood the implications, I’d be happy to go ahead if we could find a reputable piercer who would do it.

I don’t really see why. How is what children do in PE vastly more complicated or dangerous than anything that generally happens in the playground or the park? My kids are far more adventurous romping around the common or the woods at the weekend than they ever are in PE.