What do you consider posh?

[Fearlesssloth]

Is posh subjective/relative do you think or is there a universally agreed upon definition? I mean I guess everyone would say the royal family is posh right?! A work acquaintance called me posh today when I told her the street I live on and it made me think god if she thinks I’m posh where does she live?! Quite amusing as I’ve never been called posh before and the street I live on is mainly small 3-bed semis, mix of council and privately owned but not what I’d call posh, just not a council estate

I assume she meant the street was nice relevant to hers.
If someone is actually posh, I find people don’t ever point it out to them.

I used to get called posh a lot at school, presumably because I could string 2 words together without swearing. The bar isn’t very high where I’m from.

Little cubes of chedder cheese and pineapple on a cocktail stick, viennetta slice, bottle of Blue Nun, holidays on the Costa del Sol.

DHs friend is posh.
He plays croquet with him and he's a judge.
He is a delightful, modest man.
His wife OTOH, is a nightmare

Posh, is having a butler and going to Glyndbourne. One day we were having lunch at Chillingham Castle and two very posh elderly ladies asked if they could share our table because it was so busy. We agreed and it transpired they were going to Glyndbourne the next week. They were ever so nice and we agreed afterwards that they we were the very definition of posh 😊

Why do you think they don’t point it out to them?

Some aristocrats think the royal family are imported Johnny-come-latelies.

For me, posh is having a haha.

Same here!

@PheasantandAstronomersWhat is a Haha?

But what if a footballer bought an old house with a haha? Would that make him posh?

Picking your nose with a hankie

I was bullied because we were posh. Two working parents and didn't live in a council property.

"Posh" is actually a very downmarket word to imply wealth/luxury, in general. It's not one that a "posh" person would ever use..... if they absolutely had to they would say "smart" but, generally, I don't think it's a concept that would ever be considered.
I'm from a very lower middle class background (I know - the worst 😂), so it seems to me to be about aspiration. Or showing off, maybe?

My DH and I used to own a yacht. We don’t live near the sea so if ever I told anyone we had a boat, they assumed it was a canal boat. If I said, no it’s a yacht, I would get the inevitable “oooh, that’s posh”.

It's all relative

I overheard someone on the weekend say 'digby is going to do the ski season'...thats posh

“Posh” is 100% relative. There’s people who’ve called me posh, but really I’m just middle class.

I don’t know how to define posh but I know posting on MN is common.

It’s relative. An old boss of mine would pull my leg that I was posh because I always brought a soup spoon if I brought soup for lunch. He ate his with a dessert spoon 🫢

People who go fly fishing in Cornwall are posh

Sort of a sunken fence to keep the deer out of the formal gardens.😀

https://www.nationaltrust.org.uk/discover/history/gardens-landscapes/what-is-a-ha-ha

DH teaches fly fishing in Cornwall. He is not posh. I, on the other hand….!

It's relative / subjective.

Perhaps it's a typo and all posh people have personal Norwegian pop bands.

It's a funny word because it gets applied to people who have a fancier thing than you, as well as to the things themselves. Sometimes it just means "fancy" like posh crisps whereas other times it means things that are genuinely outside of most people's experience. If it is applied to people, it means they default to the version that is a degree more expensive than the speaker would usually have. So someone who would routinely book business class. But some of the things aren't really more expensive, like the soup spoon above (once you own a spoon there are no running costs) or having cous cous and olives for lunch instead of a pot noodle.
I think it is a really rude way to refer to a person, having had it directed to me as a child. There's no clear polite way to respond, to me it is the same as telling someone they are tall. I was called both and objectively am not thoroughly either. The speaker is usually quite short or the opposite of posh, respectively.