What do you consider posh?

[Fearlesssloth]

Is posh subjective/relative do you think or is there a universally agreed upon definition? I mean I guess everyone would say the royal family is posh right?! A work acquaintance called me posh today when I told her the street I live on and it made me think god if she thinks I’m posh where does she live?! Quite amusing as I’ve never been called posh before and the street I live on is mainly small 3-bed semis, mix of council and privately owned but not what I’d call posh, just not a council estate

Is the street in a leafy area?

I’ve only eaten in MacDonalds twice in my whole life (I’m 60+) and last time about 14 years ago seemed to cause great amusement amongst my friends by thanking the staff for cooking the food and asking about deserts! I’ve been to Glyndebourne lots of times and been lucky enough to sit in the best seats. I’m actually not an opera nut in fact I positively dislike many operas but I was married to an absolute opera nut and I have to say Glyndebourne really is the best place in the world for opera I’ve also been to the opera in Milan Paris Garsington and of course the ROH. I would never see it at the cinema it’s just not the same don’t let anyone tell you it is.
Having said this I really don’t think going to Glyndebourne or the ROH etc or even liking opera makes you “posh”. It’s just a preference for a certain type of music and if you like opera then seeing it where the best singers in the world perform is obvious thing to do.

That’s really really not posh. Dryrobes are not posh and neither are Next and M&S although I shop at and like both.

Properly posh people are generally very low key. But their clothes (quietly very good quality) their accents (neutral but educated) and hair (never too fashionable, but healthy and well groomed) are clues! Posh to me is understated quality.

CoastalGrey

See I’d consider them posh if they’re all you wear if you know what I mean? So most people I know would shop only Penneys/ h and m and Tesco and then the odd buy in m and s and next. I think if you shop there all the time, as in all your tee shirts/ work clothes etc and also wear eg sweaty Betty leggings and a dry robe with ease I’d find that posh myself. Real dry robes worn a certain way are posh (I know I sound ridiculous btw I just have certain people in mind😅)

She doesn't actually think you are posh.

It’s 100% subjective.

There was an AMA recently where the OP described herself as posh despite having dropped out of school, had a baby at 15 then another at 20, neither father on the scene, and now works part-time in retail. Her claim to poshness was growing up in a big house.

I remember someone once asked me what (council) estate I was from

If you have a working class accent, you can't be posh.

That's the only reliable indicator.

it really was my dream job! I'm working class and was at an elite university. quite na experience. sad yi. had a truly catastrophic breakdown. which was kind of related to that. I submitted my phd and went into a kind of psychosis.

it was absolutely fascinating! I interviewed people right across the class spectrum. so much I could say on it all.

my work really focused on the power dynamics of social class and how it is in operation all the time in all of our everyday interactions.

I looked a lot at how the working laces are judged and seen as shameful even when they are not morally at fault.

I did a lot of theoretical work and in that work culture and particularly differences in taste are what gives markers of social locals and that theory has been around for al ing time now - since the work of a French theorist Pierre Bourdieu.

the owrk on class is quite demanding intellectually and the best people writing on it today are working class women who have become professors.

feel free to ask anything - I miss my owkr so so very much and was very very good at it - I feel bereft without it!

I could point you ot books ive written but it would be outing

I am an academic sociologist specialising in social class. there is quite a lot of nonsense written on this thread by soem people.

the subject of social class is absolutely fascinating and it is incredibly important as it remains incredibly excuslioanry in ways that we are often blind too.

I could reconned lots of academic books but one of the best treatments of it for a lay person who is interested is Grayson Perry's tv series and also his tapestries of social class and incredibly informative. I have used them in my teaching of students.

I know I'm REALLY posh, because although I own soup spoons, I prefer dessert spoons, so use them. Eating with the cutlery I prefer, irrespective of social norms is arch-posh 😂

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Agree Vienetta ice cream - height of posh
ferrero rocher

I’ve not seen the Grayson Perry series.

Have you watched Amol Rajan’s programme about class. Eye opening.

Working in education with generally lower socio economic students I see the many barriers placed in their way.

I always thought university was a leveller but realised with a shock it isn’t when my children went. Those with money and class could afford better halls. And the cheaper ones were shared bathrooms and grotty.

I have a school friend who is quite posh and she swears like a sailor!

This 100%

I think of posh as a family with a name of note. Not always wealthy but ‘of good breeding’. They have an air of quiet self confidence as if they know their worth and place in the world and have nothing to prove.

What i call tea..........my posh neighbour calls supper🤣

Posh is going into a chip shop mistaking mushy peas for guacamole.

Posh is going into a chip shop mistaking mushy peas for guacamole

That was a made-up story.

And posh people don’t go to chip shops: Michelin stars only, darling.

Apparently being from Oxfordshire and living in a (former) village, according to my ex-H and his family. They said I had a posh accent. (My parents live in a HA house, his parents own their house.) I've lived in two Cambridgeshire market towns in the space of 18 years now, and my accent has definitely changed.

Port out, starboard home. So you always had the sunny side of the liner you were cruising the seas / crossing ocean on. Most likely first class.
I also downgraded my (natural) Received Pronunciation to avoid being singled out as 'posh'. When I was a kid and going to my best friend's house, I thought having napkins was posh !

Someone once called me posh because I had Lurpak!

I've been called posh because I don't have a local accent.

I've been called posh because I had an (emergency) c section. People will find anything to criticise.