What do you consider posh?

[Fearlesssloth]

Is posh subjective/relative do you think or is there a universally agreed upon definition? I mean I guess everyone would say the royal family is posh right?! A work acquaintance called me posh today when I told her the street I live on and it made me think god if she thinks I’m posh where does she live?! Quite amusing as I’ve never been called posh before and the street I live on is mainly small 3-bed semis, mix of council and privately owned but not what I’d call posh, just not a council estate

I used to get called posh because I don’t have a strong local accent. My reply was always ‘maybe I am compared to you?’

@PheasantandAstronomers A biggish house was bought in our village and extensively remodelled. Part of the works was creating a haha. It got into trouble regarding needing planning permission as the retaining wall was over 2m high. They had started constructing it without pp. I suspect the owners are posher than the rest of us. The house has a flower room too. No one has seen the owners though - a housekeeping couple have moved in.

Perhaps I will look at making one in my front garden. To deter Jehovah’s Witnesses.

OhDear111
I suspect the owners are posher than the rest of us

Or nouveau riche.

PheasantandAstronomers
Perhaps I will look at making one in my front garden. To deter Jehovah’s Witnesses.

Excellent! More like what Terry Pratchett would have called a ho-ho, perhaps.

However I am not as posh as my parents, who will change their clothes for dinner and have cloth napkins on the table with silver napkin rings and can sit through entire operas in German and appreciate it, which I really can't.

If your parents were really posh they wouldn't have napkin rings!

I did a week's live-in nursing assignment for a very wealthy patient - old money, landed, Burke's Peerage, but very low-key and informal in day to day life. I ate all meals with the couple and at each meal, breakfast, lunch & dinner, there were fresh linen napkins, no need for rings. Now that's POSH! 😄

If your parents were really posh they wouldn't have napkin rings!

Quite.

Or say "loo".

I once knew a bloke who was a Lord. Irish peerage apparently.

(his son had autism which was how we met).

pretty sure he is posh

Port out, Starboard home. That's posh.

Anyone who can be identified as "posh" is fake with no class. Proper "posh" is understated elegance, elegant intonation, and good manners. Which most of us have anyway.

Anyone who has both a housekeeper and a butler.

Someone who does their weekly shopping in a local farm shop. That’s very posh😂

Posh - Getting out of the bath to pee apparently

😂 I have a haha! 🤣 We are well off relatively speaking. As in posher than some.

But we aren’t posh. Actual posh people would think we were quite common.

Posh is sending your children to full boarding school, the same one as generations of the family before them went to.

Ditto having servants they no longer need living with them as “family”, eg. an old nanny or a retired gardener.

But that’s a backronym.

One of my teacher mates was always categorised by the kids as being posh-rambling farmhouse in Yorkshire dales, spaniels, kids with Arabella type names, commanding presence and cut gla

I deeply envy you your haha.

I was thinking perhaps a haha was a posh word for minge. I’ll crawl back into my hovel whilst tugging my forelock apologetically.

Quoting Mary in Downton Abbey; your people buy furniture, my people inherit it.

I used to have posh mate. I mean I had some very middle class friends at private school but this mate of mine was countryside, land owning, boarding school posh. I think his family owned some kind of castle.

He was absolutely daft as a brush but lovely. And for some reason incapable of flushing the toilet in his own house?! Like he thought the maid would do it?! Even though he didn't appear to have a maid?

His parents bought him a really nice house in Fulham and his lodger was a Tory MP. I remember thinking having a Tory MP as your lodger when you're 29 must inherently make you extremely posh!

I wouldn’t call someone posh, if they don’t know the spelling or meaning of “enunciate.”

Oh absolutely I agree. I think the nonposh to posh spectrum goes from

• having no napkins at all
• paper nakins potentially referred to as serviettes
• cloth napkins for special dinners only
• cloth napkins for every meal, with napkin rings, laundered occasionally
• cloth napkins for every meal, no napkin rings because they are laundered after every meal and napkin rings are shocking and declassé as they imply it is ok to reuse a grubby napkin.

Bonus points if the napkins are starched and ironed to points sharp enough to draw blood.

We use napkins for special dinners only. If my mum comes around for lunch she gets distraught and distributes sheets of kitchen roll in leiu.

@LaMarschallin Difficult to know. I won’t repeat the name of the owners but it could be associated with money going back generations!

🤣🤣🤣

I think being posh is more about your roots your upbringing rather than your lifestyle as an adult. It’s something you can’t escape. The class system in this country is so deeply ingrained. Tell me if you think my friend is posh - she grew up middle class but what many would describe as posh - house in the countryside, private secondary school, university. Her parents are loaded but I don’t think it’s ’family money’ passed down through generations. Her mum owns a v. successful clothing company and she has loads of inherited wealth from that (despite her mum still being alive). She lives in a big detached house in one of the most expensive parts of town. She’s a single mum, works part-time (cos she can afford to) in healthcare, eats dinner in front of the telly with her dc every night (I know cos I often join them), has a fairly neutral accent but drops her ts in the middle of words, isn’t particularly cultured, doesn’t do any typically posh activities/hobbies. Goes on expensive holidays to places like Thailand, America etc with her kids. Kids aren’t at private schools & she’d never consider that even though she could afford it easily. She dresses pretty scruffy most of the time. I realise it sounds like I’m saying lots of negative things about her, but I don’t mean them like that, she’s brilliant and I’ve known her since uni but she’s from such a different background to me (I grew up working class in a council house) yet our lifestyles/personalities/values are so similar

I call my kids posh because they speak in a very neutral tone and don't have any local dialect in their voices.