What do you consider posh?

[Fearlesssloth]

Is posh subjective/relative do you think or is there a universally agreed upon definition? I mean I guess everyone would say the royal family is posh right?! A work acquaintance called me posh today when I told her the street I live on and it made me think god if she thinks I’m posh where does she live?! Quite amusing as I’ve never been called posh before and the street I live on is mainly small 3-bed semis, mix of council and privately owned but not what I’d call posh, just not a council estate

Interesting. Landed gentry who own my village and the local estate would never wear expensive running kit and dry robes! I’d consider that very new money/ lower class. Really posh goes running in a manky old t shirt and their ancient school games shorts .

Lots of people call DD posh because of the way she speaks. Where we live is considered quite posh.
No one else in the family is ever referred to as posh. A friend recently questioned DH about what "Gows" (rhyming with cows) was, when he was talking about Gails, the bakery!

Really posh goes running in a manky old t shirt and their ancient school games shorts

As did Boris Johnson - thank goodness we no longer have to see photos of him plodding through the streets! He's an Old Etonian but I would never think of him as posh.

I think not being interested in material things is posh. We've got a friend who owns a £million+ house, he bakes his own biscuits and offers them to you in a battered old tin that he's probably had all his life. He's as down to earth as you can get and would just never think to go rushing to B&M for a nice new tin because we were visiting. That's posh to me.

No, she’s not. Any more than I am. I went to Oxford, have several postgrad degrees, work in a professional field, live in a large Victorian house in an ‘old money’ part of town (use cloth napkins at every meal!), go to Glyndebourne (and Garsington and Wexford). But my parents were a binman and a cleaner, all my forebears were farm labourers, my relatives are lorry drivers, cleaners, street sweepers, shop workers, I grew up very poor, I speak in my original accent, and I’d probably class myself as ‘educated working class’, if pushed.

Around my naice village this is categorically false. We have some fab fish and chips.

This attitude sounds nouveaux riche, insecure or both to me.

The "port out, starboard home" thing isn't true - it's just a backcronym.

When I went to uni at 18 I was put in halls with someone who went to private school in London and had never mixed with people before who didn't go to a similar school or have a nanny. Her 18th birthday party cost over £10k.

In contrast, I was considered posh at my northern, rough-as comprehensive (the year I left just 24% of us got 5 A-C GCSEs) because I knew words more than five letters and my mum refused to buy me a Kappa tracksuit or one of those hideous moveable gold clown necklaces...

Regarding McDonald’s: Diana, PoW, was said to enjoy taking her boys there. She was also said to be more aristocratic than the family she married into.

I am not sure some of these so called class markers are all that valid.

A work colleague once described me as posh on the grounds that I pronounced the “h” in the word “dickhead”!

Perhaps you're taking it too seriously.
These sort of comments are often made in a jokey or ironic or even mocking way.
Esp if they think someone is self important.

Posh to me is private school, well spoken, dressed well but no obvious designer labels on show, usually have a holiday home abroad (definitely no all inclusive holidays), generally look well polished. My grandfather always used to say you could tell how much money people had from their shoes because they are always well made, I kind of agree but with the rise of the influencers it’s becoming more difficult to spot until they speak.

I would only apply it to people in the peerage. It is nothing to do with their house, or how much cash they have. I have a few friends who are titled and they will eat for example a KFC bucket quite happily, swear like sailors, and have no airs and graces whatsoever.

Not only that- it was the shaded side that was desirable, not the sunny side!

Port is the north side on the way to India; starboard is north on the way back.

Or "what is a weekend"?

I worked in events organising schzooming events for charities. I was quite fascinated by those with considerable sums of money. I noticed the following…

Old money is a different league to new money.
The truly wealthy/posh are discreet about their wealth.

The truly wealthy/posh can network and make conversation with a paper bag whilst maintaining a level of interest that is a truly a skill.
The truly wealthy/posh are not disrespectful or dismissive of those less fortunate.
For women, their jewellery is expensive but not flash as I discovered when I complimented someone on their diamond studded earrings.
Lots of pieces of jewellery are family heirlooms.
they don’t holiday in Dubai 🤣 They go hunting at their family estate in Scotland.

Peterborough United.

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A lot of people are confusing having money with being "posh".

You get money, then you hilariously try to act posh.

I would, anyway!

Posh was an older lady I saw the other day coming into the village shop car park, in her battered old Land Rover, beautiful blonde hair up in an undone bun, a (guessing) cashmere jumper and a couple of beautiful rings on her fingers and a quiet sense of confidence. It can’t be bought, or put your finger on it, she just had an ‘aura’ as my DDs would put it 😂

@Fearlesssloth , posh is not really a word I would use and I’m not sure what it means. The closest I can come to it is my understanding of the upper classes. When my boys were at independent secondary school my elder son had amongst his friends a very nice young man whose family were upper middle class/ upper class. They had far less money than many of the other parents at the school but were on a completely different level. These are the traits I would say set them apart as what might be described as ‘posh’ (though not by me).
They were always impeccably well mannered and charming, very welcoming to my son and extremely friendly towards my husband and I; we in fact went out socially with them on several occasions and despite our very working class backgrounds we always felt completely relaxed in their company.
I didn’t once see them looking scruffy although their clothing was never fashionable, was of very good quality but frequently old.
They were well spoken in a lovely effortless way.
They could be a bit careful with money, drove a bit of a banger, liked a Tesco Clubcard coupon, furnished their homes with family pieces, no modern trends for them.
They had what seemed to me to be quite an odd arrangement and didn’t live together but maintained their own homes however it would be quite usual for the wife to come home and find her husband sitting in the lounge (pretty sure they wouldn’t call it a lounge) reading the newspaper, unannounced; this was normal to them.
They used to holiday together each year, usually a Cunard cruise, giving the ancient dinner jacket an outing. The husband also owned his own tail suit and a vintage and exquisite top hat which had been passed down to him which my son much admired.
The son’s education was paid for by a trust fund that some relative had set up for that purpose in times gone by.
What some people think of as ‘posh’ would probably be the very opposite of these people.
My elder son went on to marry a girl whose family are very similar, mummy and daddy come from very good backgrounds, went to public schools, beautiful manners etc, etc. We get on well with them too.

Honestly I dont consider posh and give very little thought to it as its not something i use to define people.

Oh, come on, it's incredibly upper class to use bad language. As always, I refer you to the late great Dame Jilly, who wrote "Mummy says pardon is a much worse word than f*ck" 🤣

My very unposh used to say getting out of the bath to pee!