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What aspect of 'normal' life is alien to you?

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PurpleSky300 · 08/02/2026 22:14

By which I mean... what are the "normal" things of life you haven't yet done or experienced, compared to most people?

For me it's:

Driving, I'm hopeless, just can't get it
I've never been to a club
Anything to do with babies
In-laws
A properly "senior" job

OP posts:
Peenysbeeker · 09/02/2026 08:28

Having a second parent around, he has never been around at all so I guess I know no better but sometimes having a plus one or a 'family' with two adults would have been nice. Cannot change it now of course but it would have been nice to experience it.

Noluckcatchingthemswansthen · 09/02/2026 08:32

freakingscared · 08/02/2026 23:20

Pub life . I can’t grasp , can’t even grasp how much omen think it’s ok men do it all the time . Like , why would anyone want to spend £5 on a pint daily instead of going home to their family .
I also can’t grasp video game addicts , how can grown men and women have time to play for hours and be online talking with strangers . I always wonder how they have so much free time

Totally agree with these things!
my main 3 non-negotiables for a husband was no pub life, no gamers, no football 😆

Sweetiedarling7 · 09/02/2026 08:33

As a middle aged woman with autism pretty much everything so many people seem to like feels alien to me.

I often feel I must be on the wrong planet.

I do occasionally come across one of my “tribe” with things in common though which is lovely.

EnjoyingTheArmoire · 09/02/2026 08:34

Parenting with another person/not completely alone (which extends into having relationships past the age of 21)

Weddings - have never been to one

Bikini waxes, spa days and the like

skippy67 · 09/02/2026 08:36

Not driving.
Not having friends.
Not ever going in holiday abroad.
Not being into football.
Not ever socialising.
Not ever exercising

Not ever having a takeaway.

Blueskiesandrainbows · 09/02/2026 08:37

Having spatial awareness …I’m always clonking things.
Remembering a face.
Enjoying being drunk.
Soap operas.
’Celebrities’ I don’t care!

aurynne · 09/02/2026 08:45

Theonlywayicanloveyou · 09/02/2026 06:35

Absolutely fine to hold this perspective on kids. It’s quite rational and I sometimes wonder why I wasn’t more reticent to go there tbh…. But why did you become a midwife?!

Because I love going through those processes with women, supporting them when they are feeling at their most vulnerable. I find pregnancy and birth, and newborn development, absolutely fascinating, I just wouldn't want to go through it myself. And newborns are great to work with for short periods of time, as long as I can give them back.

Having the skills to make a woman, and her family, feel safe, supported and less stressed during one of the most significant times of their life is extremely rewarding. Planting the seeds so these families enjoy a better life, or have better balanced and happier children is amazing.

Receiving a newborn into my hands, seeing them for the first time, witnessing them taking their first breath, witnessing their mother and father seeing their baby for the first time, and their reactions is a privilege every single time.

Also, supporting a family through miscarriage, stillbirth or emergencies and succeeding in making a horrendous time a bit less horrendous. Sharing their grief, being the rock they can lean on. Protecting their space.

This job is absolutely amazing. Nevertheless, it still does not make me want to go through pregnancy, birth and child rearing myself.

Coarsegrater · 09/02/2026 08:47

localnotail · 09/02/2026 07:19

Amazing how many people do not drive. I assume not everyone lives in London? How tf do you get around? When I used to live in a small town I did not like driving much but had a car as I hated being reliant on other people to taxi me around. It also gave me better career opportunities as I could drive to another town to work. Car, to me, is freedom! Don't need to own it in London but still would rent one if I needed to.

I don't drive but I do live in London and it's not unusual here. I've lived in/visited other UK cities and most medium/larger cities have been fine to get around on public transport, esp student cities. I never take lifts and it's never affected my work, though I mostly work for myself.

MrFluffyDogIsMyBestFriend · 09/02/2026 08:50

Just enjoying a day out/holiday without thinking about the catalogue of terrible things that could happen.

Girls nights out. Never been invited, wouldn't want to go....I kind of look the part but I'm not sure what I'd be expected to talk about. I usually revert to 'geek mode' very quickly and start going on about evolutionary psychology or Tajfel's social identity theory.

Pretending to have a nice life on social media. I don't understand why people do this unless it's to try to annoy someone I don't like (like my ex or my dreadful sister) but I don't have them on FB anyway.

Going abroad, sports, alcohol, watching violent/action films, music after 1999.

CDTC · 09/02/2026 08:52

Going on holiday abroad

Having a career

Going to the pub

Goditsmemargaret · 09/02/2026 08:52

Following current affairs. I've just never been able. People's reactions are so dramatic when they realise I'm oblivious to stuff; it's met with disbelief, mirth or disgust.

I've gone through phases where I've forced myself to digest a bit everyday but I really hate it. It makes me feel despairing plus I hate the actual lack of completion with the information; it's always related to other stuff and wooly around the edges. Give me a movie with defined beginning and end any day of the week.

Jinxy1 · 09/02/2026 08:53

RampantIvy · 08/02/2026 22:20

I don't watch soap operas or reality TV, and I have never watched Traitors. Does that count?

I realise that it makes me sound like a crashing snob, but I'm happy to own it 😁

That makes two of us!

Imdunfer · 09/02/2026 08:55

Seen ET.

Thought George Michael was a musical genius.

Watched Traitors.

Worn nail varnish.

Had groceries delivered.

Tried any recreational drug except alcohol.

StarlightLady · 09/02/2026 08:57

Nudity!

l cover up when changing etc so an not to offend others, but l really couldn’t care less who sees me naked. From a young age mum always taught sister and l that there was nothing wrong with naked bodies but beware of bad people. It sort of stuck.

ApriltoNovember · 09/02/2026 08:57

Mornings - even from a young child I have found mornings very difficult and now as an adult with some chronic health issues mornings are my nemesis. I have never been able to start work early, or leave to travel early or go out for breakfast with freinds/family. Mornings actually leave me feeling quite unwell, I don't actually come alive until at least midday.

Everyone I know are morning people.

HelenaWaiting · 09/02/2026 08:57

People who aren't scared of their mother. I got a small tattoo on the inside of my ankle a few years ago. I still haven't told her. I'm 64.

Ginmonkeyagain · 09/02/2026 09:00

Pajamas. I don't own any and am always baffled by obsessions with "jammies" and getting in to them at any point you are in the house.

Shame about nudity - never worried about it at home, in communal changing rooms or on the beach. It's just a body, we all have one and I couldn't give a fuck what anyone thinks about mine.

rainforestalliance · 09/02/2026 09:01

Office-y/desk/corporate 9-5 jobs, I always wonder what exactly people do for eight hours a day in those type of roles, it’s a mystery.

Football

Girlintheframe · 09/02/2026 09:02

Going on a cruise
Being very career focused
Not enjoying nature
Not having pets
Being in a relationship where housework is not shared
Understanding stocks and shares
Wanting to live in a city
Being very sociable

lljkk · 09/02/2026 09:05

Worrying about grooming, putting a lot of effort towards shoes, make-up, skin care, hair care, what to wear, nail care... No objection to others doing those things. But never appealed to me. Seems boring and I can't see the result looks that much better.

My adult DD is a fashionista, didn't turn out like me at all, lol.

Pasta4Dinner · 09/02/2026 09:06

Sports (apart from bits of Olympics)
Spas. Choosing for people to touch you.
Doing things because they are popular (this my Bil)
Just going on holiday to sit on a beach
choosing to eat McDonalds etc as a treat. It’s service station food.

SharingMyOpinion · 09/02/2026 09:06

ThatAgileLimeCat · 09/02/2026 07:46

Dinner parties

Decorating/house repairs. Don't understand how people visualise a new plan for a room, plan the work then do some or all of it themselves.....it is like witchcraft to me

Good hosting

Fashion

Eating meat.

Three of these are really important / easy for me 😆

willowstar · 09/02/2026 09:07

Online dating. I am newly single after 23 years. I am just horrified by the things my friends tell me about their online dating experiences and will never do it. Just the concept of making myself in to a commodity appalls me. There is just an assumption that I will as that is how people meet these days but no, not for me.

500daysofspring · 09/02/2026 09:07

Liking or caring about celebrities or influencers.

Networking.

Your job being your entire identity.

Not loving cooking and good food.

People who live cookie cutter lives and do everything you’re “supposed” to do without questioning anything.

Not caring about your appearance on any level.

Not loving nature.

Gaming.

Judgejudysno1fan · 09/02/2026 09:07

Reality TV shows that focus on one night stands- threesomes with strangers in a big house/ love island/ the traitors/ big brother/ reality shows based on people from Essex or Manchester.

Wearing bum scrunch leggings and crop tops in winter. Wearing bum scrunch leggings to a place of education.

Sitting in a stinking pub all day, everyday

Alcohol everyday

Tattoos, find them pointless and waste of money. That money could have gone to help the poor.

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