What's the most privileged/off the mark post/response you've read?

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I've name changed for this, just in case anyone does an AS and accuses me of getting DM fodder.

Me and the DC had to flee our home several years ago and we were moved into a tiny 2 bed flat temporarily. I made a thread at the time, saying me and 3dc had had a traumatic move and were very overcrowded and asked for advice on how to store our daily stuff in an efficient way.
Several posters replied helpfully, linking shelving units/freestanding storage, but one poster replied along the lines of:

"Your DH must be high up in the army and you have to rough it in officers housing until your 5 bed detached home is ready".

Another poster quoted the above with "This was my immediate thought too! It's so hard OP, but we've all been there".

I found this both amusing and perplexing because a) I would never have assumed the above and b) it was so far off the mark.

There was another thread very recently about food guidelines where the lack of awareness and privilege was quite frightening!

I'm so sorry. I hope others spoke up and told this awful woman what they thought of her.

yes... DNR's put on disabled people's hospital notes without any consultation with them or their loved ones. Dominic Lawson whose daughter has down syndrome wrote about it and I recall sobbing.

Thank you. No, no-one said anything. TBF the woman i had actually been speaking to looked absolutely horrified. I am pretty sure she was so shocked she could not think of anything to say. Neither could I though!

I agree, but there is an element of luck involved. People can change as their circumstances change. It seems to be common for some men to react badly to their partners from pregnancy on. I have been married for over 40 years and I do consider that I was incredibly lucky that the man I married at 21, my first boyfriend, has turned out to be a really good person and my ideal companion in life. It could very easily have gone the other way.

Well the world still spins for you, but for many children, whose parents are not particularly wealthy but scrimp and save to send theie kids to a decent school, its a different story. Now the strain on the already struggling state schools is higher, the impact on many SEN children has been huge, and not to mention the kids being indoctrinated by right on leftie teachers.
But your alright Jack, because you despise anyone than tries to better themselves, and makes sacrifices to keep their kids out of the dire state education system

Nothing wrong with the state system.

I've taken to calling those posts out. I can't stand the emotional blackmail of this kind of post: 'You'll be sorry when she's gone', 'You'll wish you'd spent more time with him after he's passed'. People don't turn into saints because they're old and ill! If you didn't have a great relationship before that point, why would you suddenly develop one when your difficult relative is feeling really rough and frightened about the future and lashing out at everyone else as a response?

@Dollymylove sorry nobody is going to take you seriously with the " indoctrination by right on leftie teachers ". That's silly and belittling to all those people doing their utmost best to educate our kids .

Nothing wrong in principle, but each child is an individual and not all schools manage to treat them as individuals. I don't have a problem with parents who have budgeted for something under one set of circumstances asking for advice and commiseration from others when there's a very big change and suddenly they can't stick to the original plan. It's tough when it's your children who are going to have to cope with a big change and step into the unknown. I found the lack of compassion and in fact open jeering from other posters really unpleasant.

£400 is NOT an expensive watch.

Yes the jeering. One poster even started a thread using the word 'glee' to describe how they felt about private schools closing.

Our school has 30% SEN. Two years ago it was 27%. Current projections are that it will reach 50% SEN within 2 academic years. This is due in no small part that the schools in our wider catchment area are not great with SEN- notoriously not great. The pressures on these state schools is quite diabolical. I can be distressed at that, while thanking my lucky stars that we are (currently) in a position to pay for education. I don't feel 'glee' at the state so many state schools are in. I can't imagine being actively gleeful about how badly children and parents are being served. Yet the sheer spite and joy from many posters on the other side....

It is if after bills each month you only have £50 in your bank account

Unless I was in Bristol of course, which luckily Im not

@Dollymylove absolutely! DH and I have been saving etc to see if private school could be an option for us. It was just about manageable if we accepted a whole load of compromises. But then that change came in and it was all off the cards. We were lucky I think in that we hadn't started down that route yet, so no disruption to the children. Business as usual for them! Felt really bad for others who had to pull their kids out etc as it was no longer financially viable.

@Pepsi4Eva yes I remember. Absolutely shameful from parents snorting with joy that many children will have to face a huge upheaval, leaving all their friends and everything they knew, because a spiteful act by a spiteful government, and which hasnt raised such a large amount of money in savings. They must be very happy with their little selves 😡

The way people continually change the narrative about private schools to the benefit to less wealthy families is ridiculous. Private schools do not exist for the less wealthy families so stop pretending they're the big consideration here.

*Thunderpants88 *
I didn't want to say on my original post, but yes, it was.

But all the scrimp/save/sacrifice terminology is so privileged, off the mark and tone deaf in so many debates on here. Like private school is possible if we all scrimp, save and sacrifice. A private school place is still a huge privilege unavailable to most, even if your child has SEN, even if state schools near you are terrible, and lots of other even ifs. A private school place costs more than my entire annual income. What do you suggest I sacrifice to pay for it?

Wow, so it isn't allowed in Scotland for the first spouse to die to leave everything to the surviving spouse, and then leave it all to the children once they die? All of your combined wealth and you're automatically left vulnerable when the first of you goes?

I'd assumed it was pretty much standard that the main inheritance only comes after the second one has died.

Yes it is allowed but the children in this instance were the posters step children.

My parents Will was leave it all to the surviving partner, then the person who survived left it to the children.

Mine and my husband’s is the same.

Precisely!

I need to get a drainage problem fixed and the roof will have to be replaced in 5 yrs or so...Ergo, there will be a lot of upheaval, but I don't see the logic in moving to a smaller house which might develop problems of its own.

That's their life. When you have lots of things that you have to pay for and no money to do so, your life is one constant fear. It isn't a little fun hobby of theirs to grumble, you know.

I had a phone call from Marie Curie wanting me to increase my monthly donation. I explained that I couldn't because I'm now a pensioner. "Even an extra 50p would help..."

I told her that I was thinking of cancelling and she stopped pestering me.

It isn't even just the privileged assumption that everybody has a garage, but also the assumption that you must be phenomenally thick: the idea that you have a garage that it would easily go in, but you somehow forgot about it!

Many of the 'solutions' that these people give are the same; why on earth would be people be raising an issue in the first place when the answer was stinking obvious? Like panicking about how you can possibly solve your dilemma of how to get from the ground floor to the 1st floor of your house when, bless you, you've simply forgotten that you have stairs!

Of course it is. The fact that many people choose to spend a lot more than that on a watch doesn't mean that £400 isn't still expensive. You might as well say that a £5m home isn't expensive, because some people live in grand stately homes with thousands of acres and probably pay that each year just in wages to their dozens of staff.

I've paid between £5 and £20 for the watches I've had over the last couple of decades - and every single one of them has done their primary job perfectly for years. If you look at which retailer sells the greatest quantity of watches in the UK, it wouldn't be Breitling, Rolex or Patek Philippe but somewhere like Argos.