What's the most privileged/off the mark post/response you've read?

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I've name changed for this, just in case anyone does an AS and accuses me of getting DM fodder.

Me and the DC had to flee our home several years ago and we were moved into a tiny 2 bed flat temporarily. I made a thread at the time, saying me and 3dc had had a traumatic move and were very overcrowded and asked for advice on how to store our daily stuff in an efficient way.
Several posters replied helpfully, linking shelving units/freestanding storage, but one poster replied along the lines of:

"Your DH must be high up in the army and you have to rough it in officers housing until your 5 bed detached home is ready".

Another poster quoted the above with "This was my immediate thought too! It's so hard OP, but we've all been there".

I found this both amusing and perplexing because a) I would never have assumed the above and b) it was so far off the mark.

There was another thread very recently about food guidelines where the lack of awareness and privilege was quite frightening!

Those who become perfect parents of imaginary disabled children that they don't have on anything related to disability threads.

Assuming that everyone has the freezer space for batch cooking.

Assuming that everyone can afford driving lessons and to run a car.

First ones that come to mind, there are many more.

Buy a bigger house if you don’t have room for a door mat.

The Covid threads were wild on here. I remember saying I didn’t wash down my shopping, you’ve have thought I’d committed murder at the replies. I was lectured by one poster about the importance of leaving it outside for 72 hours 🤣 Yeah that’s really easy when I had to travel an hour and a half to our nearest big supermarket, queue to get in and they expected me to go another 3 days without food because we we literally had nothing at home to eat.

Then there was the poster who told me to “just order from Amazon”, we have to pick our deliveries from a post office half an hour away! Amazon weren’t delivering food at that time.

I was also berated for putting peoples lives at risk because 2 of our children worked on Covid wards and they went to the supermarket (which was on their way home after a nightshift when medical staff got instant entry) to pick up some groceries. I should have gone myself to save lives apparently because my children could have infected others with Covid.

I came to post this. 🤣

That really tickled me that there were a few posters who took that seriously! 🤣

Covid was wild on here.

People being called murderers for picking up easter eggs for their kids, and posters telling people to put cheese in their coffee because going out for milk would kill their granny.

Years ago when my DS was a toddler, I asked for advice on public transport around a particular city. Someone told me 'just get taxis it'll be so much easier and probably only £100 by the end of the day'. I was gobsmacked.

Mum at my child's activity...who said....
Omg what a day, it's been tough, Im so tired and stressed, late getting up, school run was rushed, quick lunch. Ready for the weekend.

I said sounds like a full on day, where do you work? She stopped stared at me and said...

Oh I dont work. I meant after the school run, shooting back quick tidy round, met friends for lunch, it was time to collect kids again

I posted that I was skint and going to lose my house and wondered if there was some incredibly well paid job I could do and someone told me to tighten my belt and make my own curtains.

I get told often on here that I should have picked a better man to have children with. Yes I know that now, thanks

Someone irl once said how nice it must be to have a whole 2 days to myself when my dc was at nursery. I explained I was working. She looked at me and said “OMG poor you!!!!”

The ones wailing about ‘only’ having a pension pot that’s less than a paltry million.

This is a real life one, but it happened recently and I need to get it off my chest!

I have to put my flat on the market ASAP - I know it’s a privilege to have one to begin with, but I’m being forced to let it go for a number of reasons and it’s all a bit sad. It’s become quite run down over the years and I’m currently on the verge of a breakdown trying to DIY my way into making it look presentable for photos/viewings.

I was going through the classic “which shade of white paint” dilemma. I asked a friend who works in the interiors business - and who had proactively offered to help - for her thoughts. She replied, “honestly, you’re overthinking the paint thing - if you really want to make the flat look better, you should get a new kitchen put in!”

I’d told her so many times that I was on a budget and that while I appreciated her suggestions (this wasn’t the first one), there was no way I could afford to execute them. But she simply doesn’t get it. It wasn’t said with any malice, she just lives in a different universe!

Omg just remembered this.

this was YEARS ago. I was at a birthday outing at the horse races.

somewhere/somehow I spoke to an owner who said that owning a racehorse isn’t actually that expensive. Only 1k a month.

I think I should be flattered as he obvs thought I was classy enough to take this seriously.

That was more than 3x my mortgage at the time.

Asking for advice on whether to ski in French or Austrian Alps is a valid discussion, as is whether to buy a new Audi or a Mercedes. Only people who have something to add should post.

Very much so. That's maybe rather underprivileged than privileged posting, but if OP is sad she got shitty thoughtless presents from her DH, the is it really necessary to post: well my DH never gets me anything, so you should feel lucky!

No money, DH left me, 5 kids…. Move house and start your own business!

Take in some ironing 🤣

Oh yes to the imaginary disabled children. You can always tell because they post some variation of how they'd never dream of applying for DLA or external support or respite care etc despite having multiple disabled children, most of whom are non-verbal and non-mobile. They'd much rather struggle through themselves in order to save the government money, oh and they can hold down a full time job also and never have to take time off for medical appointments either. Plus they can always get their children to school on time, never have the daily stresses or heartbreaks about anything and the rest of us are scrounging losers who probably should give up our kids to full time residential care.

A discussion on dog food a while ago, and a poster reprimanded me for buying commercial food. “Just order from a local supplier and store in your outhouse.” Outhouse?! Do you mean my 6x4 shed which is already bursting full? Oh, you mean one of my farm buildings. Ah…

A real life one:
A colleague who was born silver spooned could not fathom why I was painting my daughters room myself at the weekend (Monday morning small talk) and hadn't hired someone to do it whilst I was at work. Same re the fact I didn't have a cleaner. He was honestly baffled and went on and on about it. Really embarrassed me.

At the time I was a single mother of 3 under 5, really struggling to make ends meet, trying to keep a roof over their heads and was eating very little at the time myself to ensure I could feed the kids well. My mum had very kindly given me left over paint from her shed and I was trying to make my youngest's room as pretty as I could for her with what I had.

(As a side note, a decade on and my life is incomparable to back then. I am very comfortable and privileged and fortunate but I will never take what I now have for granted and I would never be out of touch enough to be like my colleague)

Recently, "the US is fine unless you look Mexican".

I had this irl, my 15yo is autistic, OCD and has anxiety, she also has seizures.

My sons, now ex, boyfriend, sat me down and explained that he would simply talk to my dd and essentially tell her not to be autistic or have OCD or anxiety anymore and then that would stop her seizures. So sad that my son pretty much broke up with him on the spot rather than let the next messiah cure my dd with his words.

Surely that can't have been serious about cheese in the coffee. 😂

I made the mistake once of commenting on a 'how much do you earn' thread. I earn just above min wage, have never earned more than 25K a year in my entire working life. It is what it is. A poster commented I should go full time. Errrr that is a full time wage!

Completely understand this.

Went to the gym and was wondering if it would be socially acceptable to go the the supermarket after.