What's the most privileged/off the mark post/response you've read?

[waywardways]

I've name changed for this, just in case anyone does an AS and accuses me of getting DM fodder.

Me and the DC had to flee our home several years ago and we were moved into a tiny 2 bed flat temporarily. I made a thread at the time, saying me and 3dc had had a traumatic move and were very overcrowded and asked for advice on how to store our daily stuff in an efficient way.
Several posters replied helpfully, linking shelving units/freestanding storage, but one poster replied along the lines of:

"Your DH must be high up in the army and you have to rough it in officers housing until your 5 bed detached home is ready".

Another poster quoted the above with "This was my immediate thought too! It's so hard OP, but we've all been there".

I found this both amusing and perplexing because a) I would never have assumed the above and b) it was so far off the mark.

There was another thread very recently about food guidelines where the lack of awareness and privilege was quite frightening!

You tend to find that people who fill low-paid "low-skilled" health and social care support roles fall into one of two categories:

1. working-class people with a formidable work ethic who take immense pride in caring for others and treat it as a calling.

2. degree-educated or otherwise professionally-qualified people from developing countries, many of whom were nurses back home. Although a nursing qualification from a developing country may not permit someone to work as a nurse in the UK, these people are hardly unskilled.

Then, of course, there are those who don't really want to be there and don't have the skills or the personal qualities to do the job. You really, really, don't want such people anywhere near your elderly and vulnerable. It's not a good idea

Couldn't agree more about that. My Mum's carers are fantastic. They are probably paid a pittance (the council is paying them, not us, so I don't know - Scotland pays for personal and nursing care at home) and they shouldn't be, as what they do is vital skilled work, involving unsocial hours and often dealing with very difficult people living in less than ideal housing.

Live one.

Don't take a thermos / water bottle / snacks from home, just buy them all on the go. Every day. As if most of us can afford to live out of coffee shops when we're commuting about on public transport as opposed to in our warm car!

I used to be a social care manager in learning disabilities and a big part of my job was recruitment. We would get a lot of applications from people who had come from similar backgrounds suggested here (long term unemployed, low intellect). This was evident by the poor applications and they never made it past this stage.

People suggesting that anyone can just walk into a care job have absolutely no understanding of what care work is. It isn't simply a case of wiping bottoms and that's it. Certainly I worked in residential care homes with people with complex needs and carers were responsible for medication, updating care plans and notes, finances, health and safety. There was also extensive training for the job and in Scotland where I live, carers are now required to be registered with out regulatory body and complete a qualification to stay in the job.

Caring requires good technology skills as a lot of the notes and communication is done through computers/apps, good writing skills, team work, good people skills and number skills. It absolutely isn't a job at all that people can just walk into!

Yes I saw that too. And besides the money, what about the waste and environmental impact of that type of behaviour? All that avoidable plastic use. I'm not claiming I never buy a bottle of water or snack whilst I'm out but the idea that it is somehow odd and unneccessary or difficult to take stuff with you is bizarre!

I know someone just like this-i work in retail and shes a customer

She cannot get a job as shes unemployable-nice girl but totally unemployable

It's not a case of 'get a volunteer job and earn your benefits' or 'get her to litter pick/cleaning job/work at mcdonalds'

She cant as she has 'issues' that mean she can and will tell someone to 'fuck off' if they ask her to do something,would smash the building up if something annoyed her or would start a fight if the manager looked at her 'funny'

Shes a classic member of the 'sink estate' 'crappy comp' 'benefit family' (im not benefit bashing at all,I know many of her type and I see the hurdles she cannot overcome by herself but there is zero support to help her dig her way out of the pit she was born into)

Shes a nice enough girl but she knows no different-shes not educated nor has a work ethic-shes never needed nor wanted either

She spends all her time on the Internet looking up illnesses that won't kill her but will max her benefits/they won't make her get a job and phoning out ambulances as 'my heart is going to fail any minute now'

Unsurprising that the ambulances show up,cart her away and after checks,they kick her back out to walk home,rinse and repeat over and over until they do find something wrong with her and she can tell the jobcentre to 'do one'

It's all she knows-her parents and grandparents are exactly the same and know how to work the system and in turn have advised her/let her down in life

It's learned from them-why would she get a minimum wage job when she can sit at home on the Internet while receiving £350 a month for 'free' (no living expenses,it's her spending money)

Shes one of many that have many hurdles into getting a job and there is no simple answer to pull anyone out of the hole they find themselves in

I could sit on my perch,looking down at her (if this has sounded like i do,then im sorry,I didnt mean for it to sound like I am) but I can see that she has no hope-no education,no work ethic,'issues' and nobody to help her see that there is a better life out there if your willing to work

Shes surrounded by people just like herself and it's sad to see

@Navybluecoat

If she manages to get full PIP, her disposable income will be more than 3x what she gets now.

I understand the incentives, but I don't think taxpayers should be on the hook for this crap.

There's nothing wrong with her and it's very unlikely she'll get anywhere

I did say that she goes on the Internet looking for illnesses so she can be tested for them (another waste of money-ive seen her phone out 4 ambulances in the last 3 weeks alone)

Shes been trained from birth to do this-her whole family are at it

I have no problem with genuine illnesses-a friend had to have a kidney transplant and is on pip-which was almost impossible to get

My in-laws had to claim a benefit for dps sister who had a long term illness that would kill her

I dont have a problem with those cases-they are genuine and that's what benefits are for-a safety net

This girl is 18,no hope beyond benefits

No life,qualifications,career or hope

Best she can hope for is to pop out 2 babies and hope her fella works to pay for them-and the babies will grow up exactly the same

And the sad thing is,shes not alone

There are many more of her out there

I've just remembered two mums at the school gate (very lentil weaving,middle class school-mums tended to stay at home while the father had his big job)

I made friends with the mums after my dc made friends with their dc

Mum A-married very high earner,had the trophy baby,3 houses and was a sahm

Mum B-her child had a disability and lived with her partner-not high earning but a lot more income to mine and also a sahm

Me-skint single parent,working and scraping pennies together and creating miracles every night when cooking dinner

Me-ive just bought youngest new shoes
Mum A-oh they are nice,what brand
Me-asdas own
Mum A and B-ugh,I could never buy such cheap shoes,why didnt you go for clarks or start-rite?
Me-because I cant afford them-ive pulled the last of my money together to buy these,im now skint till payday
Mum B-why cant you ask your parents to buy them some?
Me-my parents stopped buying me basics like food and san-pro from when I was 11,I had to work,before and after school just to eat,they won't she'll out a few quid for school shoes!
Mum A-i doubt thats true,but cant you use the money their father sends?
Me-what money?he doesn't pay a penny!
Mum A-cant you make him?
Me-csa are worse than useless,so no
Mum B-my dcs grandad sends money every month for new shoes,we cream some off and go out for a meal with it 2/3 times a year
Me-mine wouldn't dream of helping me out

Me once saying i could do with a break as I was burning out
Mum A-ask your parents
Me-they won't have them!
Mum A-ask them!they'd want to help
Me-they have never had them unless they are with their friends and they want to show off and shes fallen out with that friend now
Mum A-i find that hard to believe,just ask them

Me-ill have to pay this bill on payday-i must phone the company and explain
Mum A-cant you give it to your dad and get him to pay?
Me-hahahahahahahaha,nope

Later on I found out that they had had a chat and come to the conclusion that I hadn't asked my parents properly

Somehow this was my fault because I hadn't asked nicely (no point,my mother would have screamed at me,laughed and then hung up)

After all they had lovely parents/grandparents who would babysit at the drop of a hat,would pay their bills if they where in a tight spot and pay for anything the dc needed

They couldn't wrap their heads around my parents just wouldn't do the same and took pleasure from me being unable to afford basics (my parents are very selfish and found this amusing)

Long story short,they fell out with me over this and are still at their smear campaign 15 years on and I've moved many miles away

“I feel sorry for children having parties at home”

My eyes are still on the ceiling

@Navybluecoat were you a teen mum or much younger? They sound like teachers to a child very patronising and like you don't know your own life situation better.

I had my first at 19 and was 32 ish when I met those women
They really did treat me like I was a toddler and they 'knew best'/'do as I say,not as I do'
I was very vulnerable at the time (skint single mum,no support and had just come out of the other side of a very traumatic time in my life)
They just tried to take over my life and when I refused to allow them to take the piss/control me,they launched a smear campaign thats still going on now (but I moved away and ignore it)

They are paid a pittance. We had carers for Mum and topped that up. (The council subcontracted to a private firm.)

I had carers asking what I was paying for the private portion and they were outraged - they were getting nothing near the amount we were shelling out.

Pair of wankers 💐