How I’ve annoyed MIL to be

[Mummylove2026]

My future MIL pulled me today because she thinks I have been very difficult lately. DP is working away so I don’t want to tell him until
he's back.

Firstly, my baby is teething. I tried to give her a teething chew from the fridge to settle her but she wasn’t interested. MIL dipped her dummy in honey and said use this instead, I asked what was on it and she said nothing. I knew it had something on so I tasted it. DD is 4 months old so not only is honey unsafe, she’s not on anything but my breast milk yet and I don’t want her having sugar. She argued that I was being a spoilt brat and I will laugh when I look back this was then followed with ramblings about her having 3 kids and 4 grandkids already so she knows best.

I packed up to leave because I was annoyed and she said there you go again, always knowing best, let’s see who knows best when that baby has pneumonia because you won’t put their coat on in the car, another thing you will feel ridiculous about.

This then turned into a rant about how I just don’t listen. She listed things I’ve done recently including booking a holiday to somewhere she told me not to book (her friends have been and apparently it was awful because it was local food only and they had to travel 6 miles for an English bar), to me that’s a selling point. I won’t tell her a present idea she can get me for my birthday, I’m on maternity leave and don’t need anything so I suggested vouchers so I could take my baby out, apparently I will regret this. I’ve had my grandmothers white gold ring resized and a design change as my wedding ring, she thinks I should have got yellow gold so that it stands out because the rest of my jewellery is white gold, it will blend in and look ridiculous.

This morning I would have told you she’s opinionated but we get on great because she accepts what I say, this evening I don’t know what to think. I was speechless by her kitchen door holding my baby. It definitely felt like she had been holding it in, I don’t really know where to go from here. I will probably let DP speak to her but I am going to tell him I won’t be going again alone, she needs reminding that I’m entitled to an opinion and that I expect an apology.

Exactly! You can be older and none the wiser. You don't automatically become more knowledgeable because of age. Even between me having kids and some of my friends having kids a few years later, things have changed, science has moved on, and some things get done differently. I would never be so arrogant as to tell anyone that my way of raising my kids is the right and only way, and anyone else doing it differently is a fool, and I'm older so I know better 🙄 It's such a despicable attitude tbh.

I agree completely. The PP can’t recognise that she is very similar to MIL for this attitude. When I look back at my time with a baby I think I would have more regrets knowing I had done things how I had been told I had to instead of how I wanted to. So far my baby is well looked after, happy and an absolute dream so we must be doing something right.

Oh… so if you don’t like somebody’s manner or you decide that their motivations aren’t to your liking that’s a good enough reason for you to override their safety concerns with their child? Wow.

Keep her away from your baby. My DS paternal GM was like this. She would always do what she felt was best. She had me driven crazy as I had PND too. My partner was not supportive.

I went on to witness her give medication to her youngest grandchild behind his mother’s back and then feed him solids before he was even close to being ready. He ended up in hospital.

I’ve warned my son that if he ever has kids it’s his wife/partner that comes first. He’s not old enough to understand yet 😌