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Do you have sex in the house with your DH when kids around?

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Bigfatglasses · 30/12/2025 05:33

We did when the kids were very little but haven’t done for years. I remember walking in on my parents at it in their bedroom when I was about 6 and DH did on his parents too when he was 10 or 11. As a result, we never have done - only when kids out or we on a kid-free weekend away. I am told this is not normal? Normal to me though - but my kids are all away at uni now so we are making up for lost time!

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Keepoffmyartichokes · 30/12/2025 18:16

noidea69 · 30/12/2025 09:23

When the kids are asleep, which is invariable getting later & later, and probably a contributing factor to why we are at best twice a month.

other half thinks its strange that we have never done it when we are both WFH. Reading these posts looks like he might be right.

We both WFH and take full advantage of been at home while DS is at school otherwise it wouldn't happen 😂

frecklejuice · 30/12/2025 18:17

We do it while they (11 & 17) are in the house but only morning or night time when they are in their rooms, I wouldn’t do it in the middle of the day. I only work two days and dh works from home a lot so we make the most of that!

We do have a lock as well and I’ll never forget when dh put it on years ago, our ds asked what it was for and the only reason I could think to tell him was it was in case we were burgled 🤣 Well later that week dh’s two older kids came over (late teens) and the first thing their little brother told them was that we had put a lock on our door in case of burglars, teenagers were just nodding along while trying not to laugh and be disgusted at the same time!!

SixDozen · 30/12/2025 18:24

Hollyleaves · 30/12/2025 17:14

Our youngest is a teenager and knows to knock if he is up before us. If we didn’t have sex in the house because there was a child here well we wouldn’t have sex.

Years ago- They once all went swimming lovely we thought locking the back door and locking the front door knowing they would be 15 minute drive each way and at least an hour there. We were having a lovely relaxing time and both finished when suddenly heard them downstairs and ran into our en-suite / 4 kids burst into our bedroom - looking for us. They had driven there and the pool was shut as someone had been ill in it and just driven straight back. Omg we had words with the eldest who at 18 plus should have known better.
It never crossed their tiny minds we could be having sex during the day.

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I'm surprised you think your sex schedule would be crossing your children's "tiny minds" at any time of day.

NotDarkGothicMama · 30/12/2025 18:28

No, because DD refuses to learn boundaries around closed doors and DH gets too nervous that they'll hear something. We're starting to look at moving house and I'm actively looking for floor plans where there's an en-suite or dressing room between the master and any other bedrooms.

BauhausOfEliott · 30/12/2025 18:28

This is one of those threads that makes me feel very, very grateful not to have any children.

BauhausOfEliott · 30/12/2025 18:34

nancpmf · 30/12/2025 08:34

I’m amazed how many people have locks on their bedroom doors! I would feel a bit awkward explaining to my teens why we were putting a lock on our door and ours alone.

Firstly, you shouldn’t need a lock if your kids are teenagers because teenagers should be well aware that walking into anyone’s bedroom without knocking is obviously a no-no.

Secondly, if you did have a lock you really wouldn’t need to explain anything, either to younger kids or teenagers. ‘We have a lock because adults need privacy’ or even just ‘We have a lock because you lot need to learn you can’t just barge in’ would be all you’d need to say, if anything.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 30/12/2025 18:37

Yes, otherwise we’d never have sex. Once they’ve gone to bed, in the middle of the night or very early in the morning. One ear is always listening out. It’s absolutely fine.

ElderlyCat · 30/12/2025 18:38

We would genuinely have had sex about three times in the last ten years if we waited till there were no kids around! Unless we booked time off work. We wait till they are asleep but my plan for when they are teenagers is a lock and be quiet!

user65342 · 30/12/2025 18:42

Of course, my teens know no one should walk into a private room without knocking and waiting for an answer. None of us walk into anyone else’s bedroom unannounced so as long as you’re quiet it’s not an issue

Atsocta · 30/12/2025 19:22

Our children all grown and gone, it’s now the dog that sleeps in our room causing lack of action 🤔

Sweetnbooksnradio4 · 30/12/2025 19:52

You must look after each other and being intimate is a good way! Otherwise the stress of being tired (most-likely) working parents will start to drive you apart. Try to make time (enforce bedtimes, return older babes to their beds with cuddles and stories but don’t encourage them in your bed too much!)
Easier said than done/ but do try. Happy, together(?) parents are better for your kids in the long run ❤️

Sweetnbooksnradio4 · 30/12/2025 20:00

Just respond to Adsocta’s comment- our dog can get scared and bark - I think he thinks that my husband is hurting me!

My husband either tells him to get in his (the dog’s) bed or sometimes the dog goes off downstairs in a huff!

Lamentingalways · 30/12/2025 20:05

There was a thread on here yesterday (got deleted) where people were basically saying a step child (think they were 14) hearing his Dad and step mum having sex basically amounted to child abuse. I couldn’t believe it. Isn’t it a really natural thing to do? I mean I would be quiet (not difficult 😂) and lock the door but if it was overheard then it’s just a really natural conversation to have with teenagers, they might not like it but it’s a part of life isn’t it? Younger children wouldn’t have a clue about any noisy bed creaks etc and as long as they didn’t see it I can’t personally see why it would be an issue.

Slackbladder22 · 30/12/2025 20:09

Am I the only person who walked in on their parents having sex and have suffered absolutely no ill effects? So many uptight people about. We shag with kids in the house all the time, if the kids walk in so what?! They haven’t so far for the record and we are quieter than when the house is empty

Perrylobster · 30/12/2025 20:10

nancpmf · 30/12/2025 08:34

I’m amazed how many people have locks on their bedroom doors! I would feel a bit awkward explaining to my teens why we were putting a lock on our door and ours alone.

Ugh yes the minute I used to hear that sound of the door locking… 🤮
They used to be really noisy too.
It didn’t help that we never did anything as a family on weekends so I was just sitting around watching tv and bored out of my head and they were bonking.

Perrylobster · 30/12/2025 20:12

Slackbladder22 · 30/12/2025 20:09

Am I the only person who walked in on their parents having sex and have suffered absolutely no ill effects? So many uptight people about. We shag with kids in the house all the time, if the kids walk in so what?! They haven’t so far for the record and we are quieter than when the house is empty

I think it’s classed as sexual abuse if you expose children to you having sex. You should absolutely be discreet and hide it.
You can be affectionate with each other but sex is not ok.

socks1107 · 30/12/2025 20:13

Late at night, early morning. You can definitely make opportunities and be discreet

ineedhelp37 · 30/12/2025 20:14

Never. I refuse.

Slackbladder22 · 30/12/2025 20:15

Perrylobster · 30/12/2025 20:12

I think it’s classed as sexual abuse if you expose children to you having sex. You should absolutely be discreet and hide it.
You can be affectionate with each other but sex is not ok.

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Exposing them? We have sex in our bedroom with the door closed. Usually when they are fast asleep. No one is being ‘exposed’. As I’ve said they’ve never walked in

GameOfJones · 30/12/2025 20:21

Of course, otherwise we'd never have sex! A door wedge and some background music on are your friends. Or we'll lock ourselves in the bathroom if it's during the day occasionally.

Luckyforsome23 · 30/12/2025 20:22

When we put a lock on the door I said it was in case I wanted to get something out of the wardrobe behind the door to stop the door bashing me. Which is incidentally one of the uses of the door lock. Also mum is resting and Dad is the parent on duty only works when I actually lock myself away from them all!

SwirlingAroundSleep · 30/12/2025 20:23

Yep! Wouldn’t get any otherwise and shutting the door suffices as our kids have been taught to knock and not just walk in. Generally we have sex at nighttime anyway so they’re in bed and fast asleep but we get in the odd morning fumble and occasionally it’s just the toddler at home and they’re napping.

you do you, though.

DaughterOfPearl · 30/12/2025 20:24

No wonder so many businesses want people back in the office if everyone is using their time wfh to shag their other halves whilst the kids are at school...

GalaxyJam · 30/12/2025 20:28

DaughterOfPearl · 30/12/2025 20:24

No wonder so many businesses want people back in the office if everyone is using their time wfh to shag their other halves whilst the kids are at school...

I’m assuming they get lunch breaks when working from home.

Mumstheword1983 · 30/12/2025 21:04

nancpmf · 30/12/2025 08:34

I’m amazed how many people have locks on their bedroom doors! I would feel a bit awkward explaining to my teens why we were putting a lock on our door and ours alone.

Our house was previously a B&B and I can't tell you how handy it is having a lock on the bedroom door to keep the kids out-and just so I can have a wine in peace never mind anything more risky 😆