Do you have sex in the house with your DH when kids around?

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We did when the kids were very little but haven’t done for years. I remember walking in on my parents at it in their bedroom when I was about 6 and DH did on his parents too when he was 10 or 11. As a result, we never have done - only when kids out or we on a kid-free weekend away. I am told this is not normal? Normal to me though - but my kids are all away at uni now so we are making up for lost time!

When the kids are asleep, which is invariable getting later & later, and probably a contributing factor to why we are at best twice a month.

other half thinks its strange that we have never done it when we are both WFH. Reading these posts looks like he might be right.

Yeah, when they’re in bed. We don’t have a lock on our door and we have never been disturbed. DS17 wouldn’t come into our room at night, DD3.5 would cry from her bed rather than come in if it’s still dark out, and DD1 can’t get out of her cot.

No need to explain, they know how they were created!

Privacy when getting ready. I've never needed to explain this, as the lock has been there from the beginning. When we moved into the house before DC were born, DH put a lock on our bedroom door.

When we did our loft conversion years later and moved up, a lock was put on the door grim the get go. So they've always known our room to have a lock.

Only when he is in bed. These days only early morning when he's fast asleep since he's a teen and stays awake later than we do. I'd never have sex with an older child awake and roaming the house!

So just because they know the facts of life they should be fine with it if they accidentally barge in on their parents stark naked having sex?? I don’t think so.

The poster was replying to a post about explaining why you have a lock on the door. They said there was no need to explain why there was a lock on the door. So no barging in, due to said lock.

We did develop the art of the standing quickie, leaning on worktop in kitchen or shed.

I wouldn't have dreamed of entering my parents' bedroom without knocking as a teen. They insisted on it. I never thought it was because they were having sex, more that they might have been undressed. My parents always knocked on my door too, as I grew up.

When DD was in bed asleep, yes. Not if she was just pottering around obviously!

We split when she was 11 though so probably avoided the awkward years with later bedtimes etc.

Yep, otherwise we'd never get to have sex. We tried to make sure we're quiet, but I heard my parents have sex on occasion, as did DP and it never did us any harm, so it's not the end of the world if DD does hear us.

Same as others, wedge behind the door, Tv on and early morning when they are asleep.
The post on here yesterday about the dad and girlfriend having midday/loud sex knowing all of the kids could here was disgusting and completely different.

Of course people do, and not even with their DH I’m on a few single parents groups and lost count how many women have said their kids have walked in on them having sex with a partner they’ve known a couple of weeks 🤦‍♀️ most people are not waiting till their kids are out the house.

Yes, lock and music

Else things would be very sparse!

My parents had a high lock on the door when I was a kid, it dawned on me as a teen but I never asked.

Now we have one. Had they asked when they were little I would just have said for some peace and quiet, now they are of an age that they'd have figured it out for themselves if they've thought about it at all

Yes. They’ve left home now so we can make as much noise as we like but when they were
little they slept well enough and early enough for it not to be an issue and when they were teens we popped a wedge in the door. Not that they would have come in without knocking but our doors sometimes
popped open (modern house) when someone opened a door elsewhere so we didn’t take any chances.

Obviously you learn to do it quietly but if we’d waited for them to go out we wouldn’t have been doing it much! After he’d left home DS once made a joke that implied that he’d heard us a few times but he didn’t seem bothered (and certainly wasn’t traumatised!). I don’t think that past generations would have considered not having sex because there were children in the home, I think it’s another thing that 21st century adults have decided is an issue….

Only at about midnight when they are both fast asleep, as we make sure there are audio books/music or white noise on in their rooms too (they are 5 and 8)

Our youngest is a teenager and knows to knock if he is up before us. If we didn’t have sex in the house because there was a child here well we wouldn’t have sex.

Years ago- They once all went swimming lovely we thought locking the back door and locking the front door knowing they would be 15 minute drive each way and at least an hour there. We were having a lovely relaxing time and both finished when suddenly heard them downstairs and ran into our en-suite / 4 kids burst into our bedroom - looking for us. They had driven there and the pool was shut as someone had been ill in it and just driven straight back. Omg we had words with the eldest who at 18 plus should have known better.
It never crossed their tiny minds we could be having sex during the day.

There is very rarely a time I'm at home when at least one child isn't here. And by rarely, I mean like once in the past 5 years.
So, what do you think the answer is??

surely everyone does or no one would have any siblings! I slept in the same room as my parents until the age of 6 and the babies kept coming!

Of course they do! My kids would always knock before coming in to our room. Plus once they are asleep they would never get up and randomly burst in. Same for the morning.

Yes we did. No lock either - just more quietly than we would like and taught our dc that you knock on a door if it’s closed.

Taught them the knocking thing because one of my friends had teens aged 13-19 and none of them ever knocked. So even when going in the toilet and the door was shut they’d just go straight in, whether the toilet goer was changing a tampon etc and I thought that was really inappropriate and not what I wanted in my house.

So just basic respect of privacy taught over the years…..

Yes.
Not in the same room of course, but in the same house? What else are we supposed to do? Book a hotel??

It's not doing anything wrong.
Doors closed. Music on.

Only very quietly when DS is firmly engaged with his XBox live and has headphones on

Why do you have to explain yourself to your teens or anyone in your house? If someone cares to ask, just say "adults need privacy sometimes".